SugarLily Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 So, Sometimes when I hear my text alert on my phone - i'll look at the time. IF the time is my ex's work 'lunchtime' I immediately think 'Oh God, what if it's him?'. This really doesn't happen very often at all - but when it does, I feel like sh%t. I think sometimes my ego wants it to be him - just for self gratification purposes. My question is: Do you think I should change my number? That way, i'll know that it can't be him. It will never be him again. IF I DO change my number - if he tries to text my old number, what would happen? Would it still appear to 'send'? IF (and I know this is a BIG if) he tries to contact me in the future - I want him to know that he can't. I want him to realise that I don't want to hear from him. That i'm not going to be available for him ever again. The stupid thing is - I genuinely like my number. Haha - I know that sounds ridiculous, but I do. Also - i've been applying for jobs using my current mobile number - so i'll have to keep it for a while anyway. What shall I do?! Love! x x x
Buttercup84 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Hi I changed mine as I kept getting calls from people like electricians etc from our real estate agency . They know I moved out months ago , sent then emails , forms etc . Getting the calls upset me so I changed my number . I highly doubt that he will ever call or text. I think leave your phone for now , with your job hunt ( good luck ! What are you looking for ? ) . I'll message you back soon so sorry ! Xx
Kageytn Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I had a friend suggest I get a new email address. I've had mine for longer than my relationship with my ex. I dont want to give it up. Same with my phone. It's mine and hes already taken so much away from me. I think the texting thing is like pavlov's dog experiment. We are use to hearing the sound, we know their schedule and we are used to responding. We just have to untrain ourselves. Could you turn it off during lunch? Assign it a new sound? I totally get the ego thing too. Mine is quite bruised.
M2155 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Assign a new tone (that's what I did) or turn off the tone all together and just check messages once or twice a day. Make sure you've taken him out of your phone. If you don't want to hear from him ever again, just ignore him if he ever does call (assuming you recognize the number). You can't stop him from trying (if he ever does), but you can stop how you respond.
fuzzbella Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I had a tone that would go off each time i had a text come through, and as he was really the only person i texted, we texted non-stop i had to change it. Because when i got a text i used to run to the phone thinking please be him and it wasnt and it made me feel so low, that tone would bring back so many memories, i had to change the tone. Dont change your number because if you do, your going to keep thinking what if he's texted what if what if and youll drive yourself mad. Just keep the number if he text's he text's if he doesnt he doesnt.
smudge21 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I deleted my ex from my phone. Never dialed her number and only added her in after a text, so never really knew her number... until the day I deleted it - Now I know her number and that annoys me. She even texted a while back and my heart skipped a beat when I saw her number. I too wouldn't want to change my number just for one person. I think it says more to keep it and show you don't care about the ex. If the ex rings or texts, just ignore and that will say more to them then changing your number.
radiodarcy Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 right after being ditched i was like pavlov's dog when it came to that damned cell phone. whenever it rang my ears perked up thinking it was him. it never was. and while i'm pretty sure i'm at no risk whatsoever of him calling, i've since made it a point to keep my phone ringer off or on the lowest ringer setting possible. i too know his number by heart so taking him out isn't going to do anything. at any rate, his number has been in my phone for the last six months and i haven't really had to urge to reach out. Like Smudge, i leave it there because it give me more of a sense of control knowing it's there but making the choice not to use it. depravity doesn't work on me. i like to know i have the option. that way the choice really is mine. but that's what works for me. if someone really doesn't think they can handle having the number there and they can't seem to stop themselves from reaching out, then it's probably best they remove them.
Author SugarLily Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Thank you all so much for getting back to me! I've deleted his number from my phone - so I can't contact him anyway. I don't trust myself - I've had 'drunk dialling' experiences in the past = not good! I think i'm going to keep my number. You guys are right - I would be going crazy thinking 'what if' he had text me if i changed it. And also, he has taken so much from me, why should he have this too? Thank you guys so much for helping me through this! I really appreciate it! x x x
bittersweet memories Posted September 24, 2011 Posted September 24, 2011 You also have the option to block him. My phone provider provides that option.
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