jpres63 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years. We split up 2 years ago but got back togther 1 year later.The reason we split was because she was at Uni and I was working and we had different lifestyles which led to no passion and a poor sex life. We got back together the year she graduated and its been amazing since. She lived with me at my parents for four months and we finally got a place together. After living in our new flat for 1 month she started to act really unhappy and said she just wanted to be friends but still marry me and spend our lives together. I love her so so much its unbelievable and I have agreed but when she goes out I feel physically sick. I Love her so much but I am sick of feeling so dependent on her feelings and now I am starting to think that maybe I have some sort of seperation anxiety and the fact that I would love her through any descion she makes is just stupid. I really wish I didnt love her as much as I do but we have been through so much, really f**king hate life it was so much easier before relationships came along. by the way I am 29 and she is 24.
Buttercup84 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 So she wants to get married but just be friends ? WTF ? Have you asked her why ? Darling you have to be happy . You would always question if she will meet someone else .
SugarLily Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 It sounds like your girlfriend is going through 'G.I.G.S', read this . . . http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251986 I actually believe your girlfriend when she says she 'still wants to marry you and spend our lives together'. I think she feels like she needs to be single to explore who she is independently of your relationship. The best thing you can do, is let her. Do NOT have ANY contact with this girl. She won't be able to resolve the questions she has if you are still present in her life at this time. You obviously love her unconditionally - she is very lucky to have you. You need to use that love to support her decision. You need to focus on your own future now. You need to move forwards with the belief that she is not going to come back into your life. The reality is that you can't predict life. She may come back, she may not. The point is - this is about you. You need to build your own life. This is a great opportunity to focus on what you want to achieve - the things you want to do, the places you want to visit, the life you want to have. I know it's going to be insanely difficult, but loveshack offers so much support - you will get through this. x
Lucio Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 dude i'm like u. i'm 29 and she's 23. and like u, i love her through anything she says. but pls don't marry this girl when she's told u she wants to be friends. she's going to cancel on you last min even if you really go ahead with it despite breaking to pieces inside.
Author jpres63 Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 Thanks for the help guys, I think I do have to concentrate on myself and see where that goes its just so hard being angry or upset with someone you love. For example If I am angry with her and a get a text from her something inside makes me feel warm like she is making contact with me and she loves me WTF I know:( I find the worst thing in relationships is when you compare yours to everyone elses on face value
Lucio Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 yea it's really wtf i know that too. i just don't get angry with her anymore when she grins at me. every relationship is different. no matter how everyone throws the stats at u, u are the only one who knows her and knows her best. good luck to both of us.
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