Babyribs Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 today i got off work early and i have been home alone all night, i have thought a lot about her tonight, i wish she would contact me, but i very much doubted. why can i stop thinking about her even thou i keep my mind occupied, i want to get over her, i feel so insecure, so lost and i dont even do much because i dont have the heart to go out, i need some professional help because i am loosing it. she's all happy with some dude and i am here waiting to see if she will contact me and say Hi, thats all i want, nothing more, why wont she? why do i feel like i messed up so bad?
miliatrywife Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 it may be because your in love... a way to get a woman back is to show her exactly what she is doin to you right now...shes out with some new dude and your at home like she wants you to be all sad and depressed...if you show her that you dont care what she does and have your own fun then she may come back to you...remember god does weird things that hurt for a reason...if yalls relationship was ment to be then it will but if its not then you have to let it go....dude ya dont need prefessional help you have a heart break...if you keep being sad and depressed over it then your goin to make yourself sick and she is goin to bring things down harder because she knows that its killin you and your a man tuffin up....but sometimes its a good thing to be sad just dont let her know that and what ever you do...DO NOT CALL HER that is what she wants dont do it forget about her
Author Babyribs Posted May 12, 2004 Author Posted May 12, 2004 i wont call her, i cant, she has an order of protection against me, it has been 3 weeks and 5 days now since the last time we talked like people, and the last thing i remember her saying that night was I LOVE YOU but she didnt love me enough because she put me in jail. forget it i just need to let it out
sportsloving Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Wow, awful situation. I hope times does heal this wound. Best wishes to you
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 i do hope that time heals. I'm going crazy again
Jareddms Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 LISTEN to me on this I am in similar situation, my fiance broke up with me, she wants to as she put it, 'experience things and go wild' i treated her nice and of course we had fights , she wanted to be 'friends' i talked to her yesterday because i needed to move my stuff out, i hate speaking to her because i missed her alot and i love her and i know everytime i talked to her it hurts more, she is all nice on the phone and the last time i saw her she was telling me about other guys, as much as it burn me to hear this, i play it by saying oh that is nice etc even though my heart was popping out of my chest. Once I get my stuff I wont have to call her for a while and that will help, I know what you mean she is out having fun partying moving in with another guy! and its only been 3 weeks since we broke up. What you need to do is go out, no need to go to bar or clubs that makes me depressed, i go to the bookstore and read , stop watching t.v its just mindless for me at this point and it makes me think of her. And this month end a friend of mine who is a girl is taking me on vacation, I hope that will help me because I missed her alot and it hurts to think another guy is with her because she is beautiful and was so nice to me then she changed. What can I do though, if I make myself more sick and weak she will never respect me, my goal is to when she see me the next time i am looking better, have a promotion at work, and dressing much better, I want her to want me and hopefully by then I wont want her. So please just go out even if you have to go on vacation alone do it, I was going to go by myself but my friend decided to take me. What you need to do though is NOT CALL her do not at all
meanttolive4ever Posted May 12, 2004 Posted May 12, 2004 Originally posted by Jareddms LISTEN to me on this I am in similar situation, my fiance broke up with me, she wants to as she put it, 'experience things and go wild' i treated her nice and of course we had fights , she wanted to be 'friends' i talked to her yesterday because i needed to move my stuff out, i hate speaking to her because i missed her alot and i love her and i know everytime i talked to her it hurts more, she is all nice on the phone and the last time i saw her she was telling me about other guys, as much as it burn me to hear this, i play it by saying oh that is nice etc even though my heart was popping out of my chest. Once I get my stuff I wont have to call her for a while and that will help, I know what you mean she is out having fun partying moving in with another guy! and its only been 3 weeks since we broke up. What you need to do is go out, no need to go to bar or clubs that makes me depressed, i go to the bookstore and read , stop watching t.v its just mindless for me at this point and it makes me think of her. And this month end a friend of mine who is a girl is taking me on vacation, I hope that will help me because I missed her alot and it hurts to think another guy is with her because she is beautiful and was so nice to me then she changed. What can I do though, if I make myself more sick and weak she will never respect me, my goal is to when she see me the next time i am looking better, have a promotion at work, and dressing much better, I want her to want me and hopefully by then I wont want her. So please just go out even if you have to go on vacation alone do it, I was going to go by myself but my friend decided to take me. What you need to do though is NOT CALL her do not at all i havent called my ex in like 2 weeks..so im all good.. I want him to call me.
mysoulsearch Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 My friend, I feel your pain and sorrow. I am there as well. I feel like my whole life is falling apart since she left me. I am trying so hard to figure out what to do.........but unlike the advice here....i did call her and cried on the phone. It's hard....and I am emotionally weak..trying to be more tough.
meanttolive4ever Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 Originally posted by mysoulsearch My friend, I feel your pain and sorrow. I am there as well. I feel like my whole life is falling apart since she left me. I am trying so hard to figure out what to do.........but unlike the advice here....i did call her and cried on the phone. It's hard....and I am emotionally weak..trying to be more tough. dont call her and cry on the phone..the more she knows that you're hurting the more she'll continue to hurt you..you have to show her that you're strong enough without her
vhshowdown Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 I feel your pain. I really do, been there less than 2 months ago. When we broke up I was drinking all the time, then when I quit cold turkey, the heart ache started big time. I wasnt allowed to talk with her by orders of her new boyfriend!! whatever.... so i didnt contact her. It was hard, my friends were there to help me thru it, they knew i was hurting. Then i started writing my feelings down to vent my frustration...... this really helped, now i read them and cant believe how i was feeling back then. Sad songs would come on the radio and i would feel like i was gonna lose it..... Someone told me when my heart started hurting, rub it with your hand... when you start thinking about you ex, snap your fingers to clear the thought out of your mind.... Time does heal all wounds, allow yourself to feel the pain, it does get better. And when it does get better, you had the time to collect yourself, so your next love wont be a REBOUND.... Problem is though, when you get over them and move on, they show up, and you are left with the decision as whether to get back with them, or what. This is where i am at right now.... what to do... A friend of mine said why try to remake the movie when the original was so much better.... hmmmm?!?!?!? But when you love someone and you are lonely, how do you what the right move is? I dont know
KelBel Posted May 13, 2004 Posted May 13, 2004 So when you first had broken up you didn't talk to her at all as per the request of her boyfriend? Or did you only have communication going on when she would call you? Cause otherwise how does the other know that your being "strong" and moving on...to give them the wake up call of who and what they left/lost.
vhshowdown Posted May 14, 2004 Posted May 14, 2004 Originally posted by KelBel So when you first had broken up you didn't talk to her at all as per the request of her boyfriend? Or did you only have communication going on when she would call you? Cause otherwise how does the other know that your being "strong" and moving on...to give them the wake up call of who and what they left/lost. No we were talking at first after we broke up.... then she called me one day from work, she got busy so had to let me go. So awhile later i called her house and left a message, well her new boyfriend was there and heard my message, he then proceeded to tell her not to talk to me anymore. She calls me later that night telling me she doesnt care for me anymore, not to call anymore, even if i am in the hospital, etc.... So i was upset about this, so i did just that, did my best to move on.... So now i am not sure if he is still in the picture or not... I am in limbo right now, cause i have gone to talk with her at her work, unannounced, and thought i would get a stunned reaction, and all i got was "oh hi!" She did ask me to hang around with her for awhile, so i did.... But I am now unsure if this going on was just to get things from me, or just to see how I was doing, or to possibly get us back together... I dont know... That was Monday, it is now Friday, and i still have yet to hear from her. Problem I am having now is I am so confused, and I am now getting those feelings back I had right after we broke up again.... I hate feeling like this, like someone has control over my own emotions, and there isnt much I can do about it!!
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