la_trojanskin Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Met a great girl in Jan. We dated all of 6 weeks before I had to go away for work for the better part of 7 months now. She came down to DC and spent 4 weekends with me. I'm 28 she's 27 so not new to dating. I can say I haven't been this attracted to a woman ever, and its her personality that I fell for, which is why I still care 7 months later now. To further complicate things she lives in NYC and I'm down in DC. Before I left she said she really liked me and didn't date people when she liked someone and hoped I was the same. I don't have reason to believe she's been dating anyone based on her FB and she's been pretty up front w/me from what I can tell. Well contact was sporadic due to my work situation but she'd always respond to texts and we'd talk every 2 weeks or so on the phone. Up until this last month she was posting stuff on my FB about coming down to get cupcakes in Georgetown with me(something to do w/some tv show). I sent her flowers on her bday last month...and as of 3 weeks ago when I told her to come down in 2 weekends when I got back she responded saying she had a terrible school schedule but had some holidays coming up shortly and maybe then. Well I lost my cell this past week posted about it on my FB and she ended up giving me her # again a few days later on her own. Since then I texted 2x and called and it took her 2 days to text me back saying she's swamped w/school and sorry for missing my call. That she got a gig as a research assistant and hopes I'm adjusting to being home. No mention of seeing me or anything. How do I pursue this further? My female friends say she's blowing me off and to give up but I've known her to obsess over school...I'm thinking since I've been gone forever I'm low priority to her but somewhere deep down she probably still cares otherwise why give me the # on her own. And nothing bad happened other than I was gone a long time. Should I tell her that I'll be up in NYC in a few weeks and I want to see her? Purpose of the trip being to see her but do I tell her that? I do have buddies up there I visit and can say I'm seeing them but want to see her as well. I fear if I don't do anything fairly soon it'll really fizzle out to the point of no return. Don't think I can count on her coming down either given my low priority status and her schedule. My female friends advised calling her and putting her on the spot but I think things stand a better chance if we just see each other again instead of having things come to a head. Or am I just toast and she's blowing me off...
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