tomblanco123 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Okay! I went out with this girl twice about 3 weeks ago. We had a good time, we kissed. After that she started to ask strange. Hot & cold, acknowledged my little gift a week later. She also stood me up once, before the 2nd date with a reason I accepted (but finding silly) I wanted to talk to her after work last week, she told me ok but she just left at the end of the day. I jokingly asked her what happened and she just came up with a lame excuse. She promised me to call me at the weekend to meet up - well, I didn't really thrust this to happen but I gave her a chance. Of course, she didn't contact. It felt that I put more effort in the relationship that she did and in my opinion it should be 50-50. I won't ask her agin, if she wants anything she has to come around. I want her but I don't need her like this - I won't be a doormat. I just want to ask if it's right to distance myself from her. I see her every day, I am not mean to her but I just simply won't initiate contact with her as much. I acknowledge her existence, say hi & good morning with a smile on my face but that's about it. Is it ok or girls would consider this behaviour as being a jerk. Would this make her think about the reasons behind it? I don't want to hurt her in any way but I don't want to stress myself neither anymore.
madjac74 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 It felt that I put more effort in the relationship that she did and in my opinion it should be 50-50. You went out with her twice 3 weeks ago? You are the mad smotherer. And yes it is OK for you to distance yourself from her because I doubt she will mind. Sorry to be so harsh but she just isn't that into you.
Author tomblanco123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 You went out with her twice 3 weeks ago? You are the mad smotherer. And yes it is OK for you to distance yourself from her because I doubt she will mind. Sorry to be so harsh but she just isn't that into you. What I mean, I went out with her twice in 3 weeks, or may be 2. We met once week. Anyways! Don't really understad your "smotherer" comment.
madjac74 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 What I mean, I went out with her twice in 3 weeks, or may be 2. We met once week. Anyways! Don't really understad your "smotherer" comment. Either way...that is not a relationship! And you are already expecting that from her. How long have you known her?
darkmoon Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 jus sounds like she's young and flighty but you want to go steady, move on and she might resume comtact, but perhaps you don't have much in common, thousands of date-sites on-line 4 better prospects
Author tomblanco123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 jus sounds like she's young and flighty but you want to go steady, move on and she might resume comtact, but perhaps you don't have much in common, thousands of date-sites on-line 4 better prospects Well, we have a lot in common and we have fune ever time we go out. But she just changed. Anyways! I am not going after her anymore, I just wanted to make sure that I'm doing the right thing without hurting her.
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