mike588 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I was just reading SugarLilys response to a thread about rebound people that there was no substance,,there was no future with those people. Ouch,most of you know my rebound experience I was my now ex g/f rebound guy, shes back with her ex. It's sad to know that and to hear that (no substance,no future)and makes me feel like such a fool for believing there was something there. The betrayel is what really stings! I've also read that rebounds don't last long,, 2 maybe 4 months? Mine lasted 10 months,,,I guess each rebound relationship is different though? Actually hearing that makes me angry towards her and will help in the healing process. I've already come so far and I thank ALL of you for helping me thru this difficult time. Off to the gym.
gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 How long was your ex's relationship prior to you? Was it also short term? Do you think this encounter with her xbf is short term? Does she have a history of short term commitments?
SugarLily Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Mike - Stop bitching. Seriously. I've dates 2 guys inbetween my on/off relationship with my ex. The first one - I was crazy about. He was amazing, I LOVED him. I cared, and still care for him greatly. I remain friends with this incredible guy. The second one - A complete player. Cheated on me all the time. Don't care about him at all. Ditched him when I found out. I've told you before - you could be the most AMAZING guy in the world - if your gf still loves her ex, he will always 'win'. No matter how much of an a%s he is. It doesn't mean that she didn't love you - or care for you. I sincerely hope you weren't 'used'. I'm sure she had no intention of hurting you the way she has. She probably thought she could work past her feelings for her ex. But she couldn't.
Author mike588 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 How long was your ex's relationship prior to you? Was it also short term? Do you think this encounter with her xbf is short term? Does she have a history of short term commitments? They were together approx.15 months. Do I think it will last,,I really don't know. It's her 3rd time back to him. She brokeup with him twice before and told me she had to go back because it was her fault,, atleast the last breakup. No, with the short term relationships,, married 13 yrs. several other relationships 2 maybe 3 years. Were both in our 40s
wilsonx Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Is this your first relationship? You got hosed bro One of the things I was thinking about the other day because I am writing up a dating for dumpee's guide is something I noticed you said a lot. In your relationship with her, you had her on a pedestal, you did all these nice things for her. What did you do about you? It sounds like you lost your identity in the relationship. Instead of sitting at home drinking beers and posting on LS, pack a bag, and go on a walk-a-bout (crocodile dundee style). I am dead serious
Author mike588 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Is this your first relationship? You got hosed bro One of the things I was thinking about the other day because I am writing up a dating for dumpee's guide is something I noticed you said a lot. In your relationship with her, you had her on a pedestal, you did all these nice things for her. What did you do about you? It sounds like you lost your identity in the relationship. Instead of sitting at home drinking beers and posting on LS, pack a bag, and go on a walk-a-bout (crocodile dundee style). I am dead serious Oh no not my 1st relationship by far! Yes I'm guilty of putting her on a pedestal and I'm not sitting at home all the time. Alot of my posts I do from work and I do stay busy. Joined a gym last week and that has helped alot. Thanks for your input.
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