Casablanca Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I didn't say that, but I'm being told I'm not allowed to 'look for other tits' but women are allowed to 'look for other cocks'. Again, functionality of the penis vs the astehtics of the boobs...though I dont know why I'm saying this again...maybe the bazillionth and 1st time of me saying will make you see my way Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf18 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Dude ... Having a STRONG preference for something - even if it is a PHYSICAL thing (like a big wiener, humungous boobs, a gorgeous smile, delicate feet, well defined forearms, long hair) is perfectly permissible and does not make the person with the preference somehow "bad." The gigantic chip you have on your shoulder probably hinders many people from seeing the good things about YOU. I don't think it's wrong to have a preference for something. What is wrong is basing an entire relationships outcome on your preference for something, and being totally unwilling to give up an inch (no pun) for someone. I can't understand this mentality and I never will, which is part of my frustration. Since when did the most natural thing possible (being romantically with a woman) become such an obnoxious challenge... Oh yeah that's right since the so-called "sexual revolution" where sex and 100% perfect sex appeal are the only things that actually matter. If the 6'2 bodybuilder she's dating has to put up with this, I can't imagine what women think of us regular guys. Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Again, functionality of the penis vs the astehtics of the boobs...though I dont know why I'm saying this again...maybe the bazillionth and 1st time of me saying will make you see my way lol To be honest I could very easily have said vagina size in my first post and I probably should have, although to me there's no difference. How would she feel if he was on another forum now saying 'I'm with this perfect girl, she's perfect in every way except her vagina is too loose, if she doesn't find a way to satisfy me I'm going to find another vagina that will'. I suspect she would probably be quite hurt and think he's harsh and maybe shallow. The only reason I said tits was because she said the cock was too small, so I went for tits as they can also be too small for some men. Link to post Share on other sites
cherrylips Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I didn't know that women's weight is completely unchanging and that there was nothing she could to lose or gain. Where did I differentiate between changeable and permanent attributes? I didn't. I said that if you don't like someone cause of their weight (changable) or penis size (not changable--except maybe if you use a penis pump), either way its personal preference. If you aren't sexually interested in someone's appearance, FINE. Don't date them. My beef is when people are ridiculed or told their disgusting/inadequate as people because of how they look. Is there a perfect weight/penis size? I believe its relative. I don't like people that expect or make assumption thats you have to change to please others. Breast size is changable, with surgery. Would you personally ask a woman to change her breast size to suit your tastes? Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I hope all of the men who have their panties in a wad about this are open to dating women who are morbidly obese. Or excessively hairy. Or [insert other conventionally unattractive trait here]. People make choices about who and who not to date all the time. There could be a perfectly lovely obese woman, but why bother if that doesn't float your boat? Why should a woman feel bad about not wanting to spend her life tied to a 4 inch penis if she doesn't want to? Humans are hypocritical, period. Men who are insecure about their penis size will be ranty in this thread. In threads about why women prefer tall men, the short men will be ranty. In one of the zillion threads about men not liking fat women, the pudgy women will be ranty. And every single person who rants will turn around and put their own preferences into play when it comes to choosing a partner. Boo-hoo. Hypocrites, all of us. Link to post Share on other sites
shrubs Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 gals can look for a big penis and guys can look for big tits. its called preferences. Link to post Share on other sites
snowflakes88 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 And to the OP's question... I've never had one that small, but I did date a great guy who rarely lasted longer than a minute. Two if I was luuuuuucky. He was amazing otherwise, but it fizzled out after a few months. Couldn't do it. Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I dated a man who had huge hands and feet, and his penis was average size. You just can't always tell. Link to post Share on other sites
laotzu Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 P.S: for all the threads started by men on here bitching about women's weight, guys need to get some thicker skin. Don't want to be with a "fatty"... fine. Don't want to be with a guy with a small dick... fine! Just cause someone doesn't meet your ideal of attractiveness doesn't make it right to tear another person down because of physical qualities. Like. We all have things we like and dislike, and need and prefer. Some people were born small in the genitals, some people are overweight, some people are too tall or too short, and some people were born into a very poor family or with health issues. You dont' get to choose how you were born, but there is something you have a choice in: the partner you choose to stay with. If a girl wants a partner with a 10" dick, well, that's her option. (I know I'm exaggerating, there.) She really liked a guy, but after being with him physically, he might not be everything she wants. Well, that's okay, right? Better she figure that out now than "try to deal" with it for a few years, only to change her mind four years down the line. OP: his penis size is never going to change. If it's that important to you, don't waste your time. Link to post Share on other sites
mrgoodcat Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I'm 5'' ..............................................in circumference. Average guy is 6'' which is where I'm at. How small was the dude? 4"......3????? Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I hope all of the men who have their panties in a wad about this are open to dating women who are morbidly obese. Or excessively hairy. Or [insert other conventionally unattractive trait here]. People make choices about who and who not to date all the time. There could be a perfectly lovely obese woman, but why bother if that doesn't float your boat? Why should a woman feel bad about not wanting to spend her life tied to a 4 inch penis if she doesn't want to? Humans are hypocritical, period. Men who are insecure about their penis size will be ranty in this thread. In threads about why women prefer tall men, the short men will be ranty. In one of the zillion threads about men not liking fat women, the pudgy women will be ranty. And every single person who rants will turn around and put their own preferences into play when it comes to choosing a partner. Boo-hoo. Hypocrites, all of us. I didn't say I was unhappy about it, I asked a question, how would she feel if he was doing the same on another forum. I was a bit puzzled by her harsh wording of the OP. Link to post Share on other sites
Imageiko Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Poor op, asks a question on how to make the sex better with her current boyfriend and the thread gets trainrecked by people being defensive over penis size. I'm sorry op I don't have any advice for you except try google. I'm sure there are people out there who have actual answers for you. Link to post Share on other sites
2011aug Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 - I respect him and care about his feelings, I am in no way trying to make fun of him and I would NEVER turn to him and say "your cock is too small" - I've had 4 relationships, all of them were 6"+ and thick...this guy is 4" at best and thin...that is a drastic difference in sensation - The actual sex lasted only about 2 minutes (I understand 1st time being too excited) The vagina can be stretched so that a fist can fit. It can also shrink with time. So, if you dont put anything wider than "thin" in it, eventually it should shrink. May take many months. All theory since I dont have too many women to test this with. In fact, I have none. Someone mentioned Kegel exercise. Try this too. Link to post Share on other sites
2011aug Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 And to the OP's question... I've never had one that small, but I did date a great guy who rarely lasted longer than a minute. Two if I was luuuuuucky. He was amazing otherwise, but it fizzled out after a few months. Couldn't do it. So, you're saying he went from 2 minutes(?) to zero minutes in a few months? Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Personally, I applaud what the OP is looking for in this thread. She is actively taking charge of her orgasms. Most of us guys do that naturally. The guy has a small dick... so what? She is looking to find a way to make that work. I do the same thing every time... If I'm not feeling it, I'm going to change positions and do something different. Aren't women who just lay there like a corpse and expect to be pleased more bothersome than OP? The OP is honestly seeking advice on how to get off with the tools she is being provided. To that end, there really is no solid answer. Fact is that OP is just going to have to experiment and practice with it to figure this out on her own. Getting some piece of advice that worked for someone else may just wind up causing frustration. The truth is what works for one couple may not work for another. There isn't going to be a shortcut with this. OP needs to take charge and make this work herself. If she can't have an orgasm with this guy it's her own damn fault... and I think she knows this. Lesson to be learned here.... Ladies, it's YOUR orgasm and if you can't make it happen barring a totally uncooperative partner... you have nobody to blame but yourselves. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I think you've been really sensitive about this subject, which is refreshing to see, so thank you I've had partners who were about 4 or 4 1/2 or maybe 5" and quite thin, I'm also tight, so for me I was fully satisfied, I don't know if that would make a difference to you or not, maybe you're tight and you still don't feel much Best positions for me were him on top with my legs/knees right up and back (over my ears if poss!!). Doggy style is deep penetration. Also sometimes with me on top he'd do something like (tying to remember exactly what he did!) gently pulling my inner thighs apart and it felt really deep and sexy. I think with practice you'll find ways to make it pleasurable, sounds like you're really into him The PE should improve over time as he gets more familiar with the sensations, what you can do is if if he feels close to cumming you can both stop all movement and focus on non sexy things in his mind! This worked well for me and an ex, the first time we had sex (virgin) he came as soon as he entered me, but even by the second time a few hours later he lasted longer. Google premature ejaculation, there's quite a few tips there >The squeeze technique Your doctor may instruct you and your partner in the use of a method called the squeeze technique. This method works as follows: Step 1. Begin sexual activity as usual, including stimulation of the penis, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate. Step 2. Have your partner squeeze the end of your penis, at the point where the head (glans) joins the shaft, and maintain the squeeze for several seconds, until the urge to ejaculate passes. Step 3. After the squeeze is released, wait for about 30 seconds, then go back to foreplay. You may notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect, but when sexual stimulation is resumed, it soon regains full erection. Step 4. If you again feel you're about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process. By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without ejaculating. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation may become a habit that no longer requires the squeeze technique < Good luck! Ok seriously people...this thread has gone bonkers! All I want is some good sex tips... Facts of my situation: - I REALLY REALLY like this guy a LOT - I respect him and care about his feelings, I am in no way trying to make fun of him and I would NEVER turn to him and say "your cock is too small" - I've had 4 relationships, all of them were 6"+ and thick...this guy is 4" at best and thin...that is a drastic difference in sensation - The actual sex lasted only about 2 minutes (I understand 1st time being too excited) - It doesn't matter what I look like, big tits, small tits, whatever...he's not the one posting on here for advice, I am and I want nothing but sex tips from women who have had a small penis...is that really that terrible of me to ask??? Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 I've found cock rings not great with smaller penises as they take away some of the length, even with the smallest rings. -Definitely do your Kegels. -Someone mentioned anal, but you might want to consider using anal beads or a plug, in order to get a more "fuller" feeling while having PIV intercourse -Maybe try a cock ring, to keep him from ejaculating too soon, and keep a lot of blood to the penis -Positions that provide deeper penetration. Doggy style, missionary with legs pinned back. The vagina only has nerve endings in the top 1/3 of it. The clitoris is what you need to focus on. Have him concentrate on making contact with the clit with his pelvis. P.S: for all the threads started by men on here bitching about women's weight, guys need to get some thicker skin. Don't want to be with a "fatty"... fine. Don't want to be with a guy with a small dick... fine! Just cause someone doesn't meet your ideal of attractiveness doesn't make it right to tear another person down because of physical qualities. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Argh! generalisations of penis size based on race Oh please, surely you know by now that's a load of BS!!!!!!!!!! Hee Hee, what is wrong with loving a large beautiful penis! I would say the perfect size is 61/2 to 8 inches, right? The downside if it hits the wrong spot/cervix... like lightening! He could always use the fake penis lesbians use, a prosthetic, not a dildo. I think they say German, Italians, Greeks, Afro Americans, and Spanish men usually have the largest, a study showed that asians were smaller, and East Indians were the littlest on average, although not all I suppose would fit in that group. Have to have large in each ethnicity. Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Try the sex forum on LS. I guess this original post bothered me because I hate to see people judged on the basis of a body part that is unchangeable (for the most part). If a man came on here and said that he really liked a woman but she had a big floppy p*ssy, that would bother me, too. I just can't see that a penis or a vagina need to make the strongest basis for a healthy relationship. well maybe you have never been in a relationship with a partner who couldn't pleasure you sexually. Link to post Share on other sites
Titania22 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 The vagina can be stretched so that a fist can fit. It can also shrink with time. Actually the vagina stretches to fit a whole baby out of it. Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Actually the vagina stretches to fit a whole baby out of it. I was hoping someone would've got there and said this by the time I got to the end of the thread. Link to post Share on other sites
ChessPieceFace Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 There are a lot of supplements, devices and methods for penis enlargement nowadays, aren't there? I know many of them are probably crap, but some have to work?? 4" and thin is just not going to satisfy most women IMO. I'm better endowed than him and even I am self-conscious about mine, wishing it was longer. For his own sake I think he needs to look into some kind of enlargement. I've considered it myself. If I were only 4" and thin I would be humiliated having sex with anyone and would have looked into enlargement by now. OP, you might want to try to find a way to suggest that politely. The problem is, I don't know if there is ANY way to suggest that politely even with the best of intentions. Hmm. Or if you're into anal, or could possibly be willing to try anal, then you might enjoy having him... up there while you have something else up... well you figure it out. If you are genuinely interested in pleasuring yourself and also making it work with this guy, I would really consider that. Link to post Share on other sites
Author ema3185 Posted September 22, 2011 Author Share Posted September 22, 2011 Yay! I have awesome news to report! We spent the night together and it was amazing!!!!! I'm REALLY tired today b/c we were up all night...but I'm really excited and relieved I tried a few different things and gave him some tips and voi la, the big O with no problem. The minute man issue was no longer a factor at all...I guess the first time was just nerves or something, but I found out last night that he can keep going even after getting off, and can get off multiple times as well. And as far as his size, it's not a problem anymore b/c I found at least 5 positions where it's perfect! A big thank you to those of you that actually shared good info...for the rest of you that were upset by my post, well enjoy being upset, I'll be enjoying good sex from this point on and won't be giving you a second thought Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Yay! I have awesome news to report! We spent the night together and it was amazing!!!!! Hurrah! Good to hear a good-news story for a change. Link to post Share on other sites
Dusk1983 Posted September 22, 2011 Share Posted September 22, 2011 Hopefully next time you'll find a solution to your intimate relationship problems by talking to your partner, rather than hundreds of strangers on the internet. I think I speak for most men here when I say, if I was him and I found this thread I'd never talk to you again. Link to post Share on other sites
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