ema3185 Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So here's the deal...I'm dating a guy that I like a LOT. He's awesome in pretty much every way, except 1. We had sex for the first time a few nights ago...the connection was great, but his penis is not big, it's not even average. I hate saying it but it's freakin' small! It's not small to the point where I can't work with it at all...but I don't know what to do with it. I'm used to having a big one in my life...does anybody have tips/advice for me? Positions and such? Ways to make him last longer? I'm open to ANY and ALL suggestions. He's such a nice guy that I need to try and make this work...I'm super sexual though so if I can't figure out a way to be happy with his cock I'm going to have to find a different one. Please help! Link to post Share on other sites
Ginger Beer Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So here's the deal...I'm dating a guy that I like a LOT. He's awesome in pretty much every way, except 1. We had sex for the first time a few nights ago...the connection was great, but his penis is not big, it's not even average. I hate saying it but it's freakin' small! It's not small to the point where I can't work with it at all...but I don't know what to do with it. I'm used to having a big one in my life...does anybody have tips/advice for me? Positions and such? Ways to make him last longer? I'm open to ANY and ALL suggestions. He's such a nice guy that I need to try and make this work...I'm super sexual though so if I can't figure out a way to be happy with his cock I'm going to have to find a different one. Please help! How would you feel if he was on another forum now saying the same thing about your tits? Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 You say you want him to last longer as well as it being below average size. Does he have a foreskin? If he does, that may be contributing to both small size and premature ejaculation (PE) if his foreskin is too tight (a condition know as phimosis). If that's not a cause, his PE probably has a psychological cause such as worrying about the size of his penis and performance anxiety. If penis size is important to you, let him go. Then you can both find partners with more suitably fitting organs for each other. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So here's the deal...I'm dating a guy that I like a LOT. He's awesome in pretty much every way, except 1. We had sex for the first time a few nights ago...the connection was great, but his penis is not big, it's not even average. I hate saying it but it's freakin' small! It's not small to the point where I can't work with it at all...but I don't know what to do with it. I'm used to having a big one in my life...does anybody have tips/advice for me? Positions and such? Ways to make him last longer? I'm open to ANY and ALL suggestions. He's such a nice guy that I need to try and make this work...I'm super sexual though so if I can't figure out a way to be happy with his cock I'm going to have to find a different one. Please help! I'm glad you're laughing your a** off about his small size. I'm sure he finds just as funny. Move on if it is that important. Link to post Share on other sites
missed_theboat Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 ema3185, I totally understand what you're saying. It's not shallow, bceause if you're straight and into penis/vagina intercourse, this is a big issue of how you're going to be sexually pleased. Yeah, there's fingers, dildos, and tongues, but if you're into penis sex, there's nothing like a penis! And I've been with a man whom I LOVED who could never get me anywhere close with his penis. It was just too small. Sorry, man. He was a great guy, and a tender lover, but just could not do anything for me with his cock. It's frustrating, because no matter how much he did otherwise, I craved a bigger penis. Some women may not mind--or find pleasure in other ways, or maybe their vaginas adapt well to smaller penis, but some women just cannot find pleasure with a less-endowed gent. It depends on how much importance sex and in particular, this kind of sex, factors into your relationships. And the comment about the tits, is not actually the same. I mean yes, boobs play a role in sex, for women especially, but they are not functional in intercourse in most circumstances. And, she wasn't being rude about his penis, making jokes about it. If I man came on and said that big breasts were a huge turn on to him but his current interest had tiny boobs, and that he really liked her, but that she didn't turn him on sexually with her breasts, that wouldn't be such a bad thing. It's just personal preference. It doesn't mean they're bad people for their preference, unless they go around making jokes or harrassing people for their bodies. I guess the comment about being happy about his cock is the one you had issue with, Ginger Beer. I can understand where you're coming from, especially since she said "I am going to have to find another one." If you're already conceded to the fact that you're going to find another man, then you have obviously already given up on this one. Maybe it is shallow, but hey, why be unhappy in your relationship if your partner is someone or something you don't like? Either give him a chance to prove that he can use his body to give you pleasure (no matter how big his genitals are) or let him go, without telling him it's because he has a small penis. I wouldn't mention that part at all. Chances are, he knows... and it would probably be hurtful and humiliating to hear something like that. Link to post Share on other sites
chphan Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Err exactly how big does the OP want a penis to be in terms of inches? A penis size is also determine by the person height and body frame. Maybe his penis is fine for a person of his height and body frame. Bet you $10 that if he knew she thought his penis was small and was considering leaving him for it, he would have left her first. Edited September 21, 2011 by chphan Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 I'm super sexual though so if I can't figure out a way to be happy with his cock I'm going to have to find a different one. Please help! Well.. isn't that actually up to you.. how are we supposed to tell you how to be happy with a small penis.. Being super sexual I would think this one would be a no brainer Maybe try 2.75 readers when you look at it Link to post Share on other sites
oaks Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Ways to make him last longer? I can't make it bigger for you, but not lasting long the first time could be just be that he's out of practice, which suggests something obvious to try to improve things! Or it could be first time nerves, for which the same obvious remedy applies. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Some women may not mind--or find pleasure in other ways, or maybe their vaginas adapt well to smaller penis, but some women just cannot find pleasure with a less-endowed gent. Vaginas come in different sizes too. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 I think MissedTheBoat is correct in every respect. The OP is not insulting or making unpleasant remarks. It may not be an issue for some people in some circumtstances, but if it is for OP she is right to move on. There is average (penis-size) and sometimes there is "very small". It may not be an issue for some women, but if it is, it is. Then why did she pick the laughing my a** off icon in her OP? Link to post Share on other sites
eatNrM Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Yep, one of the less advertised aspects about a functioning relationship. Looks like you'll be moving on sooner. Just make sure you let him know why in the most gentle way possible. You're doing it because of something he can't change. Nevertheless, I'm going to go make my popcorn now. Link to post Share on other sites
chphan Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 There is average (penis-size) and sometimes there is "very small". It may not be an issue for some women, but if it is, it is. Again what is average and what is very small? OP doesn't even say. Maybe it's an average penis but OP has a higher expectation base on previous penises. lol Link to post Share on other sites
somedude81 Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 How small are we talking here, shorter than your middle finger? Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Look on the bright side. At least you'll never have to worry about choking. Frame and height have nothing to do with size. I dated a guy who was 5'11" with a tiny penis and another guy 5'7" with a big one. The small penis guy had small hands and feet though. Link to post Share on other sites
chphan Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So far no one is giving inches or measurement as to what is consider average and small. lol Link to post Share on other sites
Wolf18 Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Oh wow and I always thought it was about the man attached to the penis, how he is on the inside, how attentive he is, BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH Really just how small is his penis OP? You ought to go to those dating sites for men with very large wangs because I get the feeling nothing pleases you. Of course everything is always the mans fault. Perhaps his penis is not that much smaller than the norm, maybe your vagina is just wider than normal (for a variety of reasons)? I'm sure the lack of pleasure is mutual and probably finds jerking off more pleasurable than being with you. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Then why did she pick the laughing my a** off icon in her OP? Perhaps because she's a bit nervous about the subject? Link to post Share on other sites
missed_theboat Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 I have been with men of varying penis sizes, and I don't measure them, to figure out what is "too-small". The one I mentioned before, that was not big enough for me, was also a man who had a little erectile dysfunction, so we can't blame his small penis for all my dissatisfaction. I would say small is a matter of opinion. I know average is relative...and also dependent upon body size, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Perhaps because she's a bit nervous about the subject? Perhaps maybe she will come back to this thread and post her second post and we will find out. Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Oh wow and I always thought it was about the man attached to the penis, how he is on the inside, how attentive he is, BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH Really just how small is his penis OP? You ought to go to those dating sites for men with very large wangs because I get the feeling nothing pleases you. Of course everything is always the mans fault. Perhaps his penis is not that much smaller than the norm, maybe your vagina is just wider than normal (for a variety of reasons)? I'm sure the lack of pleasure is mutual and probably finds jerking off more pleasurable than being with you. Wow. Chill yer boots, man. I don't like big tits or big vaginas, but I don't hear many women getting upset about that. It's personal preference, innit? I have an average to below average size penis so some women won't like it. Others will. I don't intend to have sex with all women: a couple of dozen is enough to last a lifetime. Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So here's the deal...I'm dating a guy that I like a LOT. He's awesome in pretty much every way, except 1. We had sex for the first time a few nights ago...the connection was great, but his penis is not big, it's not even average. I hate saying it but it's freakin' small! It's not small to the point where I can't work with it at all...but I don't know what to do with it. I'm used to having a big one in my life...does anybody have tips/advice for me? Positions and such? Ways to make him last longer? I'm open to ANY and ALL suggestions. He's such a nice guy that I need to try and make this work...I'm super sexual though so if I can't figure out a way to be happy with his cock I'm going to have to find a different one. Please help! I don't know what kind of advice you expect here. My suggestion is to get your vagina tightened. Lots of plastic surgeons are doing this now. Link to post Share on other sites
Sanman Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Perhaps because she's a bit nervous about the subject? well, if those are the emotions she wants to convey.... Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Perhaps maybe she will come back to this thread and post her second post and we will find out. I doubt it given the hostility displayed by some of the "advice givers" Link to post Share on other sites
betterdeal Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 So far no one is giving inches or measurement as to what is consider average and small. lol http://tinyurl.com/dk8ap2 Link to post Share on other sites
eatNrM Posted September 21, 2011 Share Posted September 21, 2011 Anyone else want some popcorn? Link to post Share on other sites
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