leoc1973 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Ok so I met with my ex. We hung out for a couple hours. She asked if I was seeing anyone I told her yes and she asked if I liked her I told her yes. Which I really do. I asked her the same questions she tells me she is seeing some rich guy and she doesn't really like him but he is a good guy and spends lots of money on her. We have been broke up for about 5 months now I can see that she is jealous of the new girl and she probably wants me to wait around till she enjoys her freedom but I just can't be anyones plan B. For the first time I asked her what the real reason she broke up with me was. She told me that its basically that I do not make enough money to travel the world and go to thousand dollar resturaunts. She then asked me the question that if I met a girl that didn't have any education or money wouldn't that turn me off and I told her that after you eat and are full and the friends to show off your money have gone home you still have to lay down in bed with that person at night alone just you and them. So I guess what I am saying that love is everything to me and love is second to money to her. She also told me that I am perfect in every other way. She said she would change nothing. She misses things like me playing with her hair so she could fall asleep at night or the nightly footrubs and all the little things I do. Like listening and actually caring what she says. I guess my question is this to the ladies... Can you somehow make me understand how money could trump love? I just don't get it. And by the way I have held down a job for 17 years. A good paying full time job. No I am not rich and never will be but I am not by any means a bum. Someone explain this to me.
wilsonx Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 stay away from those bitches. Theres more to life then eating at 1000 dollar restaurants and travelling the world. I definitely do not have the best job in the world but I still travel twice a year. Life is what you make of it and if shes sacrificing her happiness so that someone else can take care of her, let her go bro, shes not worth it
EgoJoe Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I am having a fit about the role reversal here, Wilson. You were more compassionate and articulate than I was just now! There is hope for you yet, my friend!
LelouchIsZero Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Does she have a "high" paying job, or anything of the sort? Edited September 21, 2011 by LelouchIsZero
bigmomma1974 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 WOW what a b*tch! that is all i have to say about this matter.....RUn away and stay away shes a triffling ass Ho as someone stated earlier.
UpDownAllAround Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 She's a gold digger. Plain and simple. Run far away from this b**** and never look back.
dreamcity Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I've stayed with someone longer than I should have because I got used to the lifestyle but at least I actually loved the person! Maybe someone should mention to her that as an adult she can always save her own money and take herself on trips and go to restaurants under her own steam. On the other hand at least she's honest. Makes your life a bit easier no?
Buttercup84 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 My ex was obsessed with money , and was unhappy that my job paid crap , despite me paying my share . It's so easy to find a man who earns a lot and who would shower me with gifts , but I want someone who truely loves mr . Your ex will lead a sad Lonley life .
Daremo_06 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I would draw a line in the sand saying this is who I am. If she is truly that shallow, then she is not a good partner for you anyways. Let her come to you and if she doesn't then you have your answer. Its not fun, as I have done it myself. Its the best thing you can do for YOU though and in the end that is what matters. Would you really want a woman that only wanted to be with you for the material things you have? I hope not....
geegirl Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Can you somehow make me understand how money could trump love? I just don't get it. And by the way I have held down a job for 17 years. A good paying full time job. No I am not rich and never will be but I am not by any means a bum. Someone explain this to me. Well, there are women out there that view money and status as a priority in life and will trump love just to get what they want. When you get to being shallow and superficial, most times you are likely to be an empty shell. It shows because she is able to lay with a man she has no feelings for just for the material benefits. Pretty empty if you ask me. It's how she is built. This is who she is as a person. Just as you have your set of values, principles and needs in life, this is her "set". You on the other hand, you're able to love and care with a deeper meaning. Most likely, she will never be able to grasp that because her love is money. Nothing wrong with that, it's just what she wants for her life. It is not about you. It's about her. Clearly two people that are completely incompatible for each other. I hope your new R works out. You have good head on your shoulders. It's a far more "richer" life to have love than all the money in the world.
Mack05 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) She told me that its basically that I do not make enough money to travel the world and go to thousand dollar resturaunts. As soon as those words came out of her mouth I would stop conversing. Eventually she would say, why have you gone all quiet. I would then stare at her for 30 very uncomfortable seconds. I would then say to her "I am angry at myself. Angry I wasted so much precious time of my life, with such a superficial woman like you. Note my words and note them clearly. I never want to talk to you again. I never want you to contact me again. If you make any effort to contact me, I will not only never reply but never read anything you write to me. I am going to find myself a girl that deserves me. A woman with a kind heart, with class, with self respect, with a beautiful soul. Attributes my dear that you will never have. Take care of yourself. I hope you enjoy your shallow life". I am then out the door and I am never looking back.... Harsh, maybe but I have ZERO respect for girls like your ex and neither should you. Edited September 21, 2011 by Mack05
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