Author TheBigQuestion Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 (edited) My view is that in casual sex, people are being used. Since in most cases, men do more easily have casual sex, it's usually the woman getting used. Not always, but certainly more then men. Women do get attached more easily. We release a bonding hormones when we have sex that seems to be stronger then what goes on with men. Hey, sometimes it happens where both people are on it just for the sex and everyone goes home happy. But there are a lot more stories about women being hurt by this then men. Honestly , men do have more of an honest reputation for using women for their bodies. Oh I agree that committed relationships are wrought with deceit sometimes. But those relationships aren't really committed are they? They might be at surface value but anyone that achieves a "relationship" through manipulation isn't have a real relationship to begin with. Committed relatoinsihps are associated with positives. Love, loyatly, honesty..the list goes on. So I do think when a relationship is a healthy one, it DOES validate it as a significant institution. Big, you talk about how you were shamed then right along after that go and shame women again. The way I like to date isn't creating an unfair "advantage". But by saying that it does, you are infact shaming me for my more traditional dating yes? Clearly you found a good woman that cares about you and likes to date like you do. I personally disagree with your style but all that means is that you and me aren't compatible. not that I am trying to crap on men because I have more traditional dating views. I can't be arsed to find them now, but I've read plenty of surveys and even a few scientific studies indicating that the whole idea that women attach more easily than men do after sex is false. The difference in attachment is negligible. Women's motivations for having sex are generally the same as for men: physical gratification above all else. You're free to disagree with me. I just find that most people who think your way have no rational reason for thinking the way they do. They're just used to the good treatment. And I disagree with your assessment about me being incompatible with women like yourself. Most of the other women I was involved with, including my girlfriend, have been on plenty of traditional dates and that was what they were used to. That changed when I came along. Why exactly that is, I don't know. It probably had to do with the attraction being firmly established beforehand, to the point where there was no longer any need to date in the traditional way. That's what I advocate. It can be done, especially if you're in your 20s, and my success with women of varying attitudes and backgrounds indicates that you don't need to limit the women you're interested in to egalitarian feminists. I don't believe you've insulted me in this thread, but could you at least agree that most of the female responses towards me have been a bit over the top? I mean, seriously. Calling me cheap. Saying I will be perpetually single. Calling me poor. Calling me "angry." (apparently wanting to discuss something with vigor on a message board is really just me expressing anger). Saying I'd be no fun to date. None of this was necessary. None of this could be inferred about someone who posts something on a message board. All those comments were just women reacting defensively. These comments would be the equivalent of me calling you a golddigger. It's not based on reality at all. It's almost like they proved all my points. Edited September 23, 2011 by TheBigQuestion
karaoke Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 hey people, please read my new thread!! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t299137/ thanks a lot!!
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