irc333 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Okay, there was this woman that I was talking to in the past that I met online (and on talked to on the phone) Over the phone, even in the first phone call to her, she was telling me how busy her work, school, and time with her daughter has been lately, and that she'll be busy for a while. Later, she added stuff that saying she wanted a man witha BUSY schedule, but had time enough to call her to let her know he's thinking of her. She added a picture with a caption with her EX saying, "This is my ex taking me out for my Bday, isn't he sweet?" WTF? LOL VERY strange request there.
FitChick Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 If you are equally busy you won't be bugging her and demanding attention all the time.
Author irc333 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 If you are equally busy you won't be bugging her and demanding attention all the time. If both are equally busy, neither would be capable of a real relationship....perhaps a FWB, but that's about it.
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 OP, head case. Instead of posting and analyzing all these esoteric dating profiles, how about posting one you find attractive and compatible?
Author irc333 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 OP, head case. Instead of posting and analyzing all these esoteric dating profiles, how about posting one you find attractive and compatible? Because I'm afraid if I do do that..... She might wind up being a headcase later
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 It's OK that she's a headcase later. They all are
Stung Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I don't even see why you think this is so weird. In my analysis, she's a single mom with a hectic work schedule, and things will be remaining hectic for some time until she meets some goal. She wants a guy who also has a full life so he understands that she can't get together as often as she might like to under more ideal circumstances, so he won't feel brushed aside if she can't see him multiple times per week--who will still think of her when she's not there just as she will think of him, who will help inject a little passion and romance into her life. She's just seeking some lifestyle compatibility, and some romance, something to look forward to. Everyone is entitled to seek that. It might be harder for her to find than someone with more time, but that's why she's being upfront about her special parameters, and kudos to her for that. I find the assertion that someone who has a busy schedule shouldn't even make an effort to find romance kind of strange. Plenty of people start relationships under less-than-ideal circumstances. When I was first dating my now-husband, we lived in different states and only saw each other every other weekend. We still exchanged phone calls and emails because we were in each other's thoughts throughout our busy other lives. We were definitely not just FWB. When we were able to resolve our schedules and circumstances to be together, we did, but it took several months. As far as the ex thing goes, who really knows. I know a lot of people who have very amicable relationships with their exes, especially if they are co-parenting. I'd probably see the picture as her way of letting prospective suitors know that her ex is still present in her life because of her daughter, that they are still friendly--that scares some guys off. Many guys would be scared off by a hectic schedule that won't be relenting for several months, too. I'd hazard a guess that she's been burned a few times by guys rejecting her because of her time constraints and her friendly relationship with her ex, and so she's trying to lay everything out clearly from the beginning, so she doesn't get invested in somebody who will reject her for those reasons again.
Imageiko Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 If you are equally busy you won't be bugging her and demanding attention all the time. Yeah this. She's giving you a courteous heads up before it gets to far and you get annoyed she isn't available that often.
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 OK, give the dating profile a penis. Discuss. I'm looking forward to introducing you to my sweet exW. I think you'll be great friends. IMO, this is nothing more than a typical setting up of hoops. Man, if you are flexible enough to jump through my hoops, you might get ten seconds of my time. You will like this. My ex still jumps through my hoops. Isn't he sweet?
Emilia Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 OK, give the dating profile a penis. Discuss. I'm looking forward to introducing you to my sweet exW. I think you'll be great friends. IMO, this is nothing more than a typical setting up of hoops. Man, if you are flexible enough to jump through my hoops, you might get ten seconds of my time. You will like this. My ex still jumps through my hoops. Isn't he sweet? Until you learn to relate to women as other human beings rather than view us as an alien species that have power over you, you will always struggle. Earlier in the thread you make the comment that all women are headcases. They probably sense your unease with the gender when you date them, that's why it doesn't tend to work for you
thatone Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Until you learn to relate to women as other human beings rather than view us as an alien species that have power over you, you will always struggle. Earlier in the thread you make the comment that all women are headcases. They probably sense your unease with the gender when you date them, that's why it doesn't tend to work for you you might try reading some of his other posts. and, until you get over your need to defend every action of other women based on some oprah like hive mentality you might continue to repeat their mistakes. to the OP, yeah there are a lot of them like that. a common phrase they'll use is "looking for someone who can keep up with me". that's a red flag you can dismiss them over before even talking to them. do so.
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Until you learn to relate to women as other human beings rather than view us as an alien species that have power over you, you will always struggle. Earlier in the thread you make the comment that all women are headcases. They probably sense your unease with the gender when you date them, that's why it doesn't tend to work for you Clueless, as usual. 98% of my PM box messages here are from women thanking me for my care and compassion. The other 2% are from headcases and men, with men rarely sending PM's. That matches real life. Try again, with more aplomb, to make a personal attack.
Art_Critic Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Why even wonder about this one..seems like wasted energy.. next... When I was dating if some girl sent me that I would be like "WTF".. lose my number please..
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