gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I think it was in error... Him: " Im outside *wave*" (meaning he was outside my condo) I didnt reply and then a few minutes later "Sorry dont pay attention to that" God I think he sent it my accdient. urgh!!! Well its better than nothing.........
hopeful4someday Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I think it was in error... Him: " Im outside *wave*" (meaning he was outside my condo) I didnt reply and then a few minutes later "Sorry dont pay attention to that" God I think he sent it my accdient. urgh!!! Well its better than nothing......... Ha. Any dude who uses *action* language isn't worth having. So lame. I thought a man txting a smiley was pathetic...
Author gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 lol. we're gay so I guess there are exceptions to the rule. Now im stressing this text. I wonder if it was for me? He sent it at 951pm EDT but I didnt look at the message. THen at 956pm EDT he sends the other note.... Im guessing it was by accident, but even if it was - it still means he has my number programed into his contact list. Gosh, I need help.
EgoJoe Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 That was a pathetic attention grabbing ploy. Disregard. You'll be hearing more from him.
Author gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 I deleted him from my contact list, but I know his number by heart, so when it came in, I knew it was in fact him. I was going to reply something stupid like "Ill always wave for you" or some mushy stupid s*** like that, but these forums have given me so much knowledge. Had it not been for these forums, I would have stupidly replied - but im not! And I know I know I know I know he thinks I will reply b/c I always reply back to his notes. Anyway, whatever - if it was in error, at least I know he has my number programmed in his phone still.
EatPrayLove Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Egojoe is right. He meant to text that to you to get attention. He wants you to think he is out and having fun and forgetting about you. My guess is he is at home alone thinking of ways to "accidentally" contact you.
Author gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Hey, Im so happy happy I didnt reply. What if I did and he 1) didnt reply back or 2) said "umm that text wasn't for you"? Id feel so dry. Im so proud that I didnt reply even if it was an error email (it might be it might not) - I just find it very odd that he'd accidentaly send me an email. Believe me, my ex is avoiding me at all costs these days. Anyway, Eat Pray * Love, I read your earlier post, I wish you never replied back to your ex...........as tough as it is, it just empowers them. But who am I to talk? Look at the contents of the text my ex just sent, and that alone almost made me reply. Can u imagine it was a long text like the one your text sent? I prob would have replied with a 2 page essay. Anyway, ive only been NC on him for 1 week, so this text hasn't f**** me up. But had I been 2 or 3 months NC and then recieved it, it would have f***** me up. Go NC and stay NC.
EatPrayLove Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Yeah it was sickening to see his # show up on my phone after 6 months. I wish I hadn't replied either I'm glad you didn't though. You've only been NC for one week but by the time you reach 4 weeks it gets much easier to not think about contacting them or wishing they would text you. Then after a few months its normal not to hear from them. Stay strong! I re-blocked my ex's number so he can't contact me anymore. I made it to nearly 6 months and wish I hadn't responded but at least I know I'm strong enough now to never answer him again
Author gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Honestly, and that is what I'm afraid of. My NC not only cutting the source off but also cutting everyone and everything associated with him.....anyone who reminds me of him (based on their closeness to them) is also being cut off. Drastic I know, but I know me - and I know what I need to do to make me heal ( I succesfully did this before with my first bf and it worked). Why put myself and suffer being around ppl who hang with him? No way. Im going to go out and make new friends, remove myself. Those who are his friends can go party with him and go to the same places over and over again - but it will get tired, i promise. After doing all of this, Im afraid ill reach a point where ill just stop caring.........and i really want us to work and I cant stop thinking about him but oh well. Mind you, im the one that broke us up, im actually the bad guy - he's the good one but nonetheless im trying to work it out with him, but since he doesn't want to - I have to go NC or ill go insane.. Hope you get your cat back!
EatPrayLove Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Honestly, and that is what I'm afraid of. My NC not only cutting the source off but also cutting everyone and everything associated with him.....anyone who reminds me of him (based on their closeness to them) is also being cut off. Drastic I know, but I know me - and I know what I need to do to make me heal ( I succesfully did this before with my first bf and it worked). Why put myself and suffer being around ppl who hang with him? No way. Im going to go out and make new friends, remove myself. Those who are his friends can go party with him and go to the same places over and over again - but it will get tired, i promise. After doing all of this, Im afraid ill reach a point where ill just stop caring.........and i really want us to work and I cant stop thinking about him but oh well. Mind you, im the one that broke us up, im actually the bad guy - he's the good one but nonetheless im trying to work it out with him, but since he doesn't want to - I have to go NC or ill go insane.. Hope you get your cat back! I did the same thing. I cut off anyone who was associated with him and that let me move on and find myself. I was no longer seeing the "old friends" or doing the stuff we used to do as a couple. It hurt for a while starting a new routine but it really makes all the difference in your recovery. You're not the bad guy. You're doing what is right for you. It may work out in the future but if it doesn't then it wasn't meant to be. You may find that you want something completely different out of life that doesn't involve him and you will realize the breakup was the best thing for you. Or, you could realize you were meant to be and maybe after some time apart you two can reconcile. But usually there is a good reason for a breakup. Don't be afraid to stop caring. if you stop caring then it means you never truly cared in the first place. At least not enough for the relationship to be the right one for you. But if you don't stop caring then its a sign that maybe you're meant to be. I still think your ex intentionally texted you. He probably is 'avoiding' you to try to move on with his life. And you both have to let each other do that.
Author gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Hi EatPray& Love, Thank you for the kind words. Actually you were right - the text messsage was intentional! I ignored it and it worked...because a few mintues I got 2 missed callls from a strange number and when they called a third time, I answered and it was his friend (a girl) and she said "we are in the lobby of your building" (we being her and my ex) So he was actually there........Anyway, I created a seperate post on the main board to explain what happend...but it is very positive....my ex came over and while we argued a bit , we ended up having a good conversation (part of him just needs to let off his steam on me....and I allow him to vent and yell because he has EVERY EVERY right too) Its very positive that a reconcilliaton will happen but i need to tackle this with great care and delicacy. Your advice was spot on and its amazing how people who dont even know can be right (as you were) about what his intentions really were. To another poster's point, if you really need your cat back, I know a few guys up here in Canada that can get it back for you. lol
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