Janik Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I can now see that you backed out of our relationship months before you did the actual deed. You no longer held back what you were thinking, but went about it in the most hurtful ways. Even when we broke up you told me some of the most painful things I've ever heard from you.. I'm not one to hurt people and I was so focused on trying to save our relationship there that I never go to ask you certain things or tell you what I thought.. so here goes: 1. How is it you were never man enough to tell me what was actually on your mind? If I didn't like it I probably would have gotten upset or man but suck it up. Do you really want to be a push over for the rest of your life? 2. YOU asked me to marry you one day just after a few months of us dating, YOU took me back a second time, YOU asked me to move in with you one day shortly after we got back together, YOU told me you had never loved anyone as much as you love me, yet you left me. 3. Aren't you sick and tired of people having to tell you what to do with your life? Do you really enjoy your parents and I nagging you for everything? I payed your phone bills while you were out of a job, they bought your bus passes while you were out of a job, I signed you up for college, they forced you to get your drivers license, I forced you to finish your community hours before you ended up in jail, you went almost a year with no job not even looking for one and just living off my money and at my house while I told you almost every day to go look for one. How can you not be ashamed that at the age of 20 you still need people to rag on you until you get things done? On top of that you turn around and get mad at the ones who love you the most just for helping you out. 4. You lied so much to me. From the beginning to the end, you always lied. You promised so much that you never met. I would have rather the truth. Again, couldn't you be a man? 5. "It's not my fault a bunch of girls I don't know text me all the time, my number is on facebook." Your favorite excuse. You're a huge flirt, it's easy to see. Me getting annoyed at the fact that you always had random girls text you is NORMAL to get mad about. How stupid can you be to not see that? I could go on forever. You treated me like **** Chris and I'll never forget it. Unlike you I wouldn't let that affect a relationship, but it's easy to see who is the bigger person. You helped me grow up when I needed it the most and for that I'll be forever grateful, but it got to a point where I kept growing and you didn't. Having people tell you what to do with your life, drinking as much as you can as often as you can, smoking cigarette after cigarette, spending your whole paycheck as soon as you get it, treating people like **** because apparently you don't care about anyone but yourself, are all reasons that show me how immature you still are. For the last how ever many years you've never been without a girlfriend. You jump from one relationship to another then dispose of them when you get tired of committing, find someone better, or just can't deal with confrontation. I really hope that for once you stay alone like you actually said you would, and grow up a bit. I could never take you back after what you've done. In years from now after we've dated other people and you've done a complete 180 with your life we could see, but to be honest the though of that is almost repulsive. I won't hold this against you and I plan on becoming best friends with you again, but for now I can't do it. You need to change a lot Chris, not for me, but for yourself. My dad said you were nothing special and you weren't going anywhere in life.. please prove him wrong and do something for yourself. I would love for nothing more than to see you succeed and be happy.
gbadboy Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Im not defending him at all. God knows I dont know your situation. But a lot of 20yr's are not in my opinion mature enough to handle a full fledged committed relationship as they're still searching for themselves. Thats why its never good to get married too young - you need to experience life first. Is there an age gap between the 2 of you?
Author Janik Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 I'm only older by about half a year, but it seems to make sure a big difference. He really needs to mature, I'm just worried about how he'll do without having someone encourage him to work hard.
silly_panda Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I'm only older by about half a year, but it seems to make sure a big difference. He really needs to mature, I'm just worried about how he'll do without having someone encourage him to work hard. Leave him be... Maybe by then he will realized who was the one that really cared fo him... Sometimes people need to go through some hard time in order to grow up...
Author Janik Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 I'm sure he'll realize one day how lucky he was to have me. I'm not saying this in an obnoxious way, just that our relationship could have been amazing and I put some much effort into making sure he was always happy. He's never really gone through a hard time before, and when he has, I was there to support him through it. I don't wish ill upon him, but you're right and he does need to go through experiences that will actually take effect on him.
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