OnyxSnowfall Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) I agree 200% with this. Although it depends on preferance (some women like heavier men, heavier men like thinner women) altogether its really about who you can get. A hot, tall, gorgeous sexy woman won't go for a fat man, because why do that when the town's brad pitt has his eye on you? Totally agree with the above. Because Brad Pitt has often proven to be a cocky man that can't hold a deep conversation ( not to mention he usually sports a very underdeveloped personality ) I've been with a couple muscle-bound / fit and toned and "symmetrical" men, and they failed to arouse me --- and of the ones I've humored that have pursued me but with whom I never actually became exclusive with... they didn't have values / a lifestyle that were compatible with mine anyway. They didn't *care* that we were incompatible either. I'll take the chubby/over-weight man with intellect and charming character over the hot man that's either full of himself and or has little going on inside of his gray matter every single time (and this is with the option to be with either types of course). I'm sure there's fit and toned men who are "extremely physically attractive" that are also intelligent etc, but I still doubt that we'd be romantically compatible together. Physique is just on the low list of my priorities within a mate. I have also found that men whom are not generally considered to be physically attractive just tend to appreciate me more lol (one of the darker reasons why I don't prefer "highly physically attractive" men). Edited September 21, 2011 by OnyxSnowfall
Elysian Powder Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Be honest. Should someone who is overweight only date someone who is overweight? Do looks for men really matter that much? Why would a woman be interested in a man if he's not physically attractive to her? They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but after having met many men and many women, I'd say that the practicability of the old adage is rarely possible. You're an obese young man, am I right? Why don't you focus your sexual/romantic interests on women who have about the same when it comes to your looks? Pinning for average-weighted women will do no good because, compared to you, they are attractive. There are male forum posters I've seen lamenting that they can't find a woman to be interested in them. I then notice that(they've presented pictures of themselves) that they're average or below average but still seek for a ''cute'' or ''average'' woman. if you want the good-looking women(and average woman from the age of 18-25 are undoubtedly still fairly attractive, despite being considered average by their peers), you'll have to shape up, dress better, and you'll have to honestly let go of that harry potter thing you got going on. You're what? 21 years old? Women your own age have left their wands at home. Now they're interested in dick, and in money, so either present yourself as a highly attractive man(if you want good-looking women), or date an obese woman. It's quite simple. Do not let yourself to be entrapped in a web of bitterness as many forum posters are still struggling with the reality of good-looking/rich/tall men taking away all of the women ''from them''. Edited September 21, 2011 by Elysian Powder
KR10N Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Be honest. Should someone who is overweight only date someone who is overweight? Do looks for men really matter that much? Your threads really humor me. I know a lot of women who a VERY attracted to heavy men. And these are cute, fit women. I'll assume we're talking morbidly obese & not a few pounds overweight? Yes, but clearly, from your description, skinny women would reject the fat man because they have more options, being more attractive. The fat man can only date fat women, because he is physically unappealing. So he can only date physically unappealing women (most fat women are physically unappealing.) Am I on the right track with this? Is the choice to either lose weight, or lower your standards?If fat is unattractive, why isn't skinny unattractive? Once upon a time I was skinny & I didn't like the way I looked at all. S-h-a-l-l-o-w.
thatone Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Because Brad Pitt has often proven to be a cocky man that can't hold a deep conversation ( not to mention he usually sports a very underdeveloped personality ) I've been with a couple muscle-bound / fit and toned and "symmetrical" men, and they failed to arouse me --- and of the ones I've humored that have pursued me but with whom I never actually became exclusive with... they didn't have values / a lifestyle that were compatible with mine anyway. They didn't *care* that we were incompatible either. I'll take the chubby/over-weight man with intellect and charming character over the hot man that's either full of himself and or has little going on inside of his gray matter every single time (and this is with the option to be with either types of course). I'm sure there's fit and toned men who are "extremely physically attractive" that are also intelligent etc, but I still doubt that we'd be romantically compatible together. Physique is just on the low list of my priorities within a mate. I have also found that men whom are not generally considered to be physically attractive just tend to appreciate me more lol (one of the darker reasons why I don't prefer "highly physically attractive" men). just as brad pitt is often a moron, so is megan fox usually a moron. i try to point out to women all the time the examples of men i grew up with that are happily married to women less attractive than they are, but they can't see it when they've zero'd in on how much it's gonna cost for that boob job. nor can men who have admitted deep mental issues up to an including suicide attempts let go of the fact that their loneliness has little to do with them not looking like brad pitt, apparently.
DorothyGail Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Be honest. Should someone who is overweight only date someone who is overweight? Do looks for men really matter that much? Sorry but I think this question and thread are ridiculous.
eatNrM Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Honestly, just lose the weight. Like all of us, we want as many conveniences as possible in life. But the reality is we have to work for what we want. Want some fine women? Well you have to pay the price. A sexy woman who takes care of herself won't be attracted to a man who doesn't. In large part due to differences in lifestyle.
cutecatch Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Sheesh, this is silly - it's a false dichotomy even based on your initial post, which was about overweight men only dating overweight women. Now you're saying either you lose weight, or you never get a date? How about: Either lose weight, or date someone who's of a similar physical stature as yourself? I go to the gym six freaking times a week, and so no, I'm not interested in someone who isn't also into fitness and maintaining a healthy lifestyle. Why do you think that a thin girl would be interested in someone who's overweight, particularly when the insinuation of your thread is that you, an overweight man, wishes to date thin girls, and - since you cannot - you can never get a date? You can. With non-thin girls who can't get dates with thin or in-shape men. I'm excactly like this guy I work out everyday. I run 5 miles every morning and lift weights in the evening after work, I go to bars after and have random sex with at least 1 girl a night. I see fat guys hitting on thin girls and see them get rejected. But should they settle? I say no, I had a co-worker a few months back who was a model in her teens and early 20's. I tried hooking up with her, we had fun at lunch and joked around, but she chose this fat co-worker over me. I was flabergasted and so was everyone else in office. This guy had confidence he was funny and got along with people a good guy, but I am an LA 10, meaning I walk down the street and people stare. So of course i was shocked when she turned me down and started dating fat ass, but that just shows every guy with a functioning penis has a chance with any girl Edited September 21, 2011 by cutecatch Spelling
DorothyGail Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I'm excactly like this guy I work out everyday. I run 5 miles every morning and lift weights in the evening after work, I go to bars after and have random sex with at least 1 girl a night. I see fat guys hitting on thin girls and see them get rejected. But should they settle? I say no, I had a co-worker a few months back who was a model in her teens and early 20's. I tried hooking up with her, we had fun at lunch and joked around, but she chose this fat co-worker over me. I was flabergasted and so was everyone else in office. This guy had confidence he was funny and got along with people a good guy, but I am an LA 10, meaning I walk down the street and people stare. So of course i was shocked when she turned me down and started dating fat ass, but that just shows every guy with a functioning penis has a chance with any girl Maybe the coworker you mention liked the guy for his personality. Maybe that made his weight not matter to her. So a guy you call "fat ass" could be her prince charming. Maybe you were lacking in what she was looking for. Women don't like men conceited men, that walk around calling themselves a "ten".
Cypress25 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Maybe the coworker you mention liked the guy for his personality. Maybe that made his weight not matter to her. So a guy you call "fat ass" could be her prince charming. Maybe you were lacking in what she was looking for. Women don't like men conceited men, that walk around calling themselves a "ten". +1. Arrogance is the #1 turn-off for me. I can't stand it in men or women.
DorothyGail Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 +1. Arrogance is the #1 turn-off for me. I can't stand it in men or women. I agree. But I do like confidence and I think there is a huge difference between a confident man and a cocky one. Confidence is sexy, the other is not.
cutecatch Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Maybe the coworker you mention liked the guy for his personality. Maybe that made his weight not matter to her. So a guy you call "fat ass" could be her prince charming. Maybe you were lacking in what she was looking for. Women don't like men conceited men, that walk around calling themselves a "ten". I know am an *******. I am constantly told that, it doesn't bother me though
DorothyGail Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I know am an *******. I am constantly told that, it doesn't bother me though I think that is a lie, because you were upset that the woman went out with your coworker over you. Keep up with your attitude and no matter how hot you may be, no woman will go out with you.
irc333 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Funny this topic had come up. I know of this very small, petite woman, I would gather she is like 90 lbs and 5'0", slender and dainty, cute, too. She's dating a guy that's not chunky or overweight, but seriously and chronically obese, they're both in their mid-20's. Had they had met by traditional means in real life, I could buy this. But they actually had met on an ONLINE dating site, and I couldn't for the life of me what that cutie to not just immediately delete her profile. He might wind up with chronic heart disease before he even reaches age 30, and I'm surprised he doesn't roll over and crush her in the same bed. And no, he doesn't make money had over fist, just a meager job, and she works in retail nothing more. He better not screw that relationship up, because he just SERIOUSLY lucked out. one of those few rarities.
Author AHardDaysNight Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 I feel ashamed for this thread. Yes, it was shallow of me to say this. I think what I've gathered from this thread is: - It's not my weight that is keeping me single, it's my low self esteem - I have to love myself before I can love anyone else - Nobody is entitled to anything in this life - I "should" work on losing weight; not for a girl, but for my own physical and mental health - People don't like depressed or bitter people - I should stop hating obesity and especially stop hating myself I feel in a better mood today. Again, I'm sorry for this thread, it was incredibly hurtful and shallow.
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