Marianis Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 its been 3 months since NC.. and i want to know about him .. i cant take him out of my mind.. and i tried to start a new relashion ship.. i do like the guy but im always thinking about him.. and im just waiting for him to contact me again.,., just waiting for him to come back.. but he has a gf already.. :'( .. and.. he is in canada and im in mexico sooo .... :s HOPELESS again.. still crying for him and .. just wondering if he will ever come back.. how can i stop thinking about him.. how can i just move on as he did.. the other day he send a message on facebook to my sister.. just saying hi and congratulating her for finishin her deggre... but they werent even closed! .. does that mean he thinks about me?! .. or he miss me even a little?!
gbadboy Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 It depends on who broke up with who and the nature of the relationship. If you broke up with him and regret it , then he's prob hurt. If he broke up with you over something you did, he's prob angry and uses that to move on. My ex bf and I broke up b/c I was utlimately unfaithful to him and he has used this anger to help him move away from me. I live in so much pain and regret and would do anything to fix things...... Like you, he sometimes keeps in touch with my brothers and sends them text messages , and every time he does, I wonder what that means. But he genuinely likes them and doesnt want what happend to us to affect his relationship with them.
mike588 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 its been 3 months since NC.. and i want to know about him .. i cant take him out of my mind.. and i tried to start a new relashion ship.. i do like the guy but im always thinking about him.. and im just waiting for him to contact me again.,., just waiting for him to come back.. but he has a gf already.. :'( .. and.. he is in canada and im in mexico sooo .... :s HOPELESS again.. still crying for him and .. just wondering if he will ever come back.. how can i stop thinking about him.. how can i just move on as he did.. the other day he send a message on facebook to my sister.. just saying hi and congratulating her for finishin her deggre... but they werent even closed! .. does that mean he thinks about me?! .. or he miss me even a little?! Wow that's a tough one with him in Canada and you in Mexico and he already has a g/f,,, or does he?? I know your pain. Keep up with the N.C and see what happens. Before you started N.C. I assume you let him know how you feel and what you wanted? The ball is in his corner now. Don't wait for him. In the mean time you need to move on with your life. You don't have to date if you don't feel like it. It's not fair to the new guy if your heart belongs to someone else. Believe me ,, I know all about that!! It's ok to cry over him and want him back,, get it out of your system. I'm sure at times he thinks about you just like you think about him. Best of luck.
leoc1973 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Well here is my situation. I miss the hell out of my ex and have a new girlfriend. I probably would even take her back at this point. As a guy I think that if he has moved on then he wouldn't care one bit about your sister. I have been there on facebook a million times thinking of something to say to my ex's sister just to put myself back on my ex's mind but I just never can think of anything that doesn't sound fabricated. Who broke up with who? do you actually want him back or are you just thinking about him? Why don't you call him? I hadn't talked to my ex in 2 months and I couldn't think of anything else till she contacted me the other day. Now... I can't think of anything else. My ex and I are far apart too so I don't see anyway it could work even if she wanted it to so is it a posibility with you two?
ConfusedT Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 i have been NC 2 months and just broke it NC. i asked him if he missed me and he said "it doesn't matter", which means, hi im a douchebag, but yes i have! he misses you and thinks of you, some guys are just asses & have too much pride to say anything, immature, egotistical, number of reasons!!! all we did was fight and argue and disrespect each other during our brief period of contact. but the contact was so worth it to me, because it brought me into another frame of mind and actually let me say what i had to say to the person i had to say it to. everything was said by me, nothing left hidden. he of course, the narcissit that he is, didnt apologize and had very little to say other than he didnt want to mess with me ever again, that im a bitch and im like every other bitch, blah blah blah... but even with all the disrespect & screaming, it showed me that i wasnt over him and was being totally fake and not allowing myself to feel like i really wanted to. when you are seen as strong, you always want to maintain that, but i can be strong, because i have been weak. i am at my weakest point, emotionally speaking, right now in my life, but i have been praying & have faith that it will change.
mridul_chajilee Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Same condition here too.Does she miss me?I think not coz if she miss then she could call me,txt me etc etc.I am now 2years of NC,but still have the same pain as before but frequency of pain is low.I hv even no way to contact her but still hv a little hope dat one day she wil come and say 'Mridul,i love u,i cn't live without you.'With that hope i m jst living,believe me. Thank you for ur thread.
Lucio Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Well, I did a dumb thing. I told her "I miss you" n there was like silence for eternity before her text came "what do you want me to say?" My last gf before this, I waited for 8 years only to find that she's married w two kids. I'm so scared to find myself pining for another 8 years.
Isaiah Jackson Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Most likely he won't come back to you but you can still be friends with him if his GF does not have a problem with it, that is I know I miss her but the most I can do is keep in contact with her really the only thing I can do
Author Marianis Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 Who broke up with who? do you actually want him back or are you just thinking about him? Why don't you call him? he broke up with me.. because i kissed a guy twice like in the same week and i told him about it the two times .. he forgave me ... and a year after he said he never did forgive me and that he was too angry .. AFTER A YEAR!! .. the reason i dont want to contact him is because i was the one that decided to start the NC thing.. he hurted me too much after we broke up.. came here to mexico 3 mothns after .. and kiss me.. hug me and .. everything else.. i felt used and he lied to me telling me he didnt have anything with anyone else.. that his door was closed .. but 3 days after i told him i wasnt going to talk to him anymore i saw pics of him on facebook with that other girl.. hugging and one pic was before he even came here to mexico!! what the hell?!!? .. i do want him back.. for 3 years he was the one i wanted.. come on.. i couldnt be perfect.. i got drunk and kiss another guy in a party! :S we saw eachother every 6 months but everytime we saw it was the most amazing feeling.. i do love him still a lot! .. and want him back.. i want him to realize i am the one he wants.. too sick eh?! .. anyway thanks for your comments.. and i have a song for all of you who is like me just hoping to know about that special person you had once.. its a sad song but i guess it is like we are .. :S its hard to keep all that i want to say to him in my inside .. but its good there are blogs like this one that i can put what i feel.. if you feel sad or that you have to tell that person something.. maybe if you write it here will help just to take it out of your chest and keep with the NC... THE SONG: talking to the moon by bruno mars. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sf9dUaATAxY
ScienceGal Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I am now 2years of NC,but still have the same pain as before Jesus H! I hope my healing is more rapid!
Eddie Edirol Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Nah he doesnt miss you, you killed his attraction to you by kissing the guy twice. So he thinks of you as a cheater, and he probably doesnt even know what he did to send you into another guys face. So he used that to lose his emotional connection to you. So no, he doesnt think about you, and he doesnt miss you, at all. He is probably pretty into his new gf, but now he will be looking at her like she could cheat on him at any time, especially if he doesnt know what to do to keep her from doing what you did. He was ready to be rid of you when you broke up, so he doesnt feel the same way you did, you feel like the relationship isnt finished, but he does. So you cant move on like he did. Its totally different.
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