gtiboy Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Is there any hope of getting your ex back, if the relationship was a short term one. My relationship lasted for 3 months. My ex ended the relationship. Haven't spoke to each other now for nearly 2 months since it ended. Is it possible to reconcile? And would it be a bad move if I broke NC? Anyone with experience in this regard? being the dumpee wanting your ex back and getting them back successfully?
name goeshere Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 What was the reason for breaking up? ^ Hey another Vegas person lol reconciliation is not nearly as easy unless the reason for the breakup is fixed or in the process of being fixed.
Author gtiboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Met a girl online, 21 years of age. Everything went well, never argued but she started to act a little weird with me. Coming out with strange comments like "I want someone into me" even though I saw her twice a week, taking out to nice places, giving her lots of affection. I mean what else did she expect. There were other things to, getting upset over trivial things i've said to her, saying I treated her like crap because of it, then saying she really enjoyed the last 3 months, she just sounded really confused and contradicting herself. She ended it to be single again. Felt messed about after that. Especially when you go out of your way to treat someone right, then they don’t want to know you after. Not sure if it was a G.I.G.S related matter and I know that usually is labeled on longer term relationships, but most of the points that are covered under G.I.G.S to me did apply to her, a part from the I love you but not in love with you comment. But wondered if someone acting like this will one day see the light.
goldengirl11 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I was thinking of asking the same question, but my thread last night 'my ex has gone distant again' was a LOT longer! Mine sadly started dating someone else and although as much as I wanted to bring it up, exclusivity hadn't yet been mentioned. Still feel hurt though: (
goldengirl11 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Gtiboy - sorry what does g.i.g.s mean? New poster you see ; )
Author gtiboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Gtiboy - sorry what does g.i.g.s mean? New poster you see ; ) Grass is greener syndrome. see link http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251986/
silly_panda Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 gtiboy... Do you happen to know her past relationship background/history..?
Author gtiboy Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Yeah, she only really had 1 boyfriend, been single for a whole year before she met me, didn't date around. She told me she's be used before, but also says she hasn't really been treated badly either. Thats due to not dating other guys to get those life experiences. Also her dad past away when she was a child. Wonder if that event also had an impact in regards to growing up, as I've seen something on this forum before how that affects someone mentally. Another thing that came across to me when dating her, is that it seemed like she didnt experience alot in her life, I was taking her out to places she'd never been before or even thought about going. Her friends also seemed not very out going in this regard. A week or two before she ended it, she told me how she went out with friends for the first time in a while and enjoyed going out partying having a good time - she didnt really do this much while with me, even though I gave her the freedom to do this if she wished. This is also partly due to her friends not going much either as they all have boyfriends. Edited September 21, 2011 by gtiboy
silly_panda Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Hmm... I think she is just starting to experience life and trying to find out what she wan in life... Yea... A little GIGS... On your original question, is it a possibility to reconcile, I really don't know... But do you really wan the 'her' now..? She is not that 'stable' and mature rite now... If you both get back together, it might having the same ending... I will suggest sticking to NC and work on yourself first... She will contact you when and if she wanna...
name goeshere Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 One of the stronger forces to help with reconciliation is a history with the person which you lack much of. It might be possible but hard.
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