TaintedHeart Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Ok so it seems like i get attatched to people way too fast, even though I tell myself not to I always end up failing and sometimes end up getting hurt. If I stop talking to the person that I've attached myself to I kind of go into this depressed mode, I don't know what to do with myself anymore ect.. How can I stop myself from getting attatched and stop myself from missing people that I hardly even know?
Imageiko Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Try and analyze situations objectively. Asses how long you've known them, how many dates you've gone on, what type of connection you've built up. That way you can try figure out what the reality is as emotion does a great job of clouding it up.
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 How can I stop myself from getting attatched and stop myself from missing people that I hardly even know? By having people in your life whom you are healthily attached to and know very well. With such signposts, new potentials can be viewed on a comparative basis.
Author TaintedHeart Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 By having people in your life whom you are healthily attached to and know very well. With such signposts, new potentials can be viewed on a comparative basis. What do you mean?
Author TaintedHeart Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Try and analyze situations objectively. Asses how long you've known them, how many dates you've gone on, what type of connection you've built up. That way you can try figure out what the reality is as emotion does a great job of clouding it up. I think I know what you mean. My emotions have got the better of me it seems.
carhill Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 What do you mean? Tell me about a relationship you view as healthy and satisfying. How you feel about it; how it adds value to your life. Think about the specifics of that. How you became attached within that relationship. That's a good start. Bonus points for the relationship being with another woman who isn't family.
Author TaintedHeart Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 Tell me about a relationship you view as healthy and satisfying. How you feel about it; how it adds value to your life. Think about the specifics of that. How you became attached within that relationship. That's a good start. Bonus points for the relationship being with another woman who isn't family. I'm sorry, I really dont understand what you mean.
carhill Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I'm asking a simple question that any psychologist would ask you in therapy. If you don't understand such a question, there is little I can do to assist.
Author TaintedHeart Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 I'm just simpy asking why I get attched to people so quickly, before I've even had a relationship with them.
carhill Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 An outsider generally cannot answer a question which is unique to your psychology. The answers are within you. My questions were designed to learn more about your attachment style. Evidently, they are not understandable. No worries. Someone else perhaps can be more helpful.
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