primer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I need help understanding my friend. She is a: Serial Infatuator Def: A Serial Infatuator is someone who continually has intimate relationships that last only between 3-5 months. It is the defined timeline for infatuation. The problem I have is: She is approaching 40, has three teenagers, and she always wants her friends and family to meet these men. She wants us to love them and accept them too. Right now she is on number 5 and it is getting hard for me to be excited about her new relationship. What does she do this? Is she trying to prove her worthiness? I thought maybe people on this dating website could help me understand her thinking. She gets mad when I ask her about it.
Calutaxi484 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I need help understanding my friend. She is a: Serial Infatuator Def: A Serial Infatuator is someone who continually has intimate relationships that last only between 3-5 months. It is the defined timeline for infatuation. The problem I have is: She is approaching 40, has three teenagers, and she always wants her friends and family to meet these men. She wants us to love them and accept them too. Right now she is on number 5 and it is getting hard for me to be excited about her new relationship. What does she do this? Is she trying to prove her worthiness? I thought maybe people on this dating website could help me understand her thinking. She gets mad when I ask her about it. Are these guys typically way younger then her too ( like late 20s-early 30s)? If so she's can't come to grips with the fact that she's getting older. She still wants to be 25-30 and doesn't accept the fact that she's 40. I worked with a lady that was like that.
ShannonMI Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I need help understanding my friend. She is a: Serial Infatuator Def: A Serial Infatuator is someone who continually has intimate relationships that last only between 3-5 months. It is the defined timeline for infatuation. The problem I have is: She is approaching 40, has three teenagers, and she always wants her friends and family to meet these men. She wants us to love them and accept them too. Right now she is on number 5 and it is getting hard for me to be excited about her new relationship. What does she do this? Is she trying to prove her worthiness? I thought maybe people on this dating website could help me understand her thinking. She gets mad when I ask her about it. Maybe she gets bored with them after awhile? That's the only explanation I can think of. Have you asked her why she keeps ditching these men?
Author primer Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 The men all seem to be her age or older. They are also divorced with children. They are ditching her. Maybe she is too needy or too clingy.
ShannonMI Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 The men all seem to be her age or older. They are also divorced with children. They are ditching her. Maybe she is too needy or too clingy. Oh ok...you made it sound like she was ditching them after the infatuation stage was over. So maybe the problem isn't her issue with them, but their issue with her.
EasyHeart Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I was going to ask how old she is, and I expected you to say 19. Insecurity, low self-esteem, emotional unavailablity. Sadly, there are lots and lots of women like this. LOTS.
Lil1 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 The men all seem to be her age or older. They are also divorced with children. They are ditching her. Maybe she is too needy or too clingy. Sounds like this is the reason why she is a 'serial infatuator'. She is not finding quality men or only attracts men with too much baggage. It also sounds as if she falls hard and fast for her SOs. While it is not the best position to put her family in, I would say that as a family member/friend showing her unconditional love is the best support you can give her. She will find her way eventually but maybe she's gotta go through a few frogs before meeting her prince! I'm sure her age is also playing a big role into her serial dating.
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