HappyFlower Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 If you're in a comitted relationship, is it ok to be giving your number out to random single strangers who ask for it? I don't have a problem if it's a work colleague or friend of a friend of a friend etc. but my now-ex sat next to a random woman on the train, they talked for 20 minutes, agreed to swap numbers and meet for coffee in the evening the following week as he wanted to make new friends. Is that normal? I don't think so personally, but I'd like other people's opinions xx
norajane Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 If you're in a comitted relationship, is it ok to be giving your number out to random single strangers who ask for it? No. It isn't ok. And if he tries to convince you that it is ok, he's a loser and you need to dump him NOW.
nofool4u Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 If you're in a comitted relationship, is it ok to be giving your number out to random single strangers who ask for it? first of all, no, because why would you want strangers to have your number? now if the question is giving it to the opposite sex because there is an attraction there, then that is a HELL NO! I don't have a problem if it's a work colleague or friend of a friend of a friend etc. but my now-ex sat next to a random woman on the train, they talked for 20 minutes, agreed to swap numbers and meet for coffee in the evening the following week as he wanted to make new friends. coffee in this scenario isn't coffee. coffee is sex. George Costanza even said so. you think he'd like you giving your number to a guy to meet this guy in the evening? how bout this, tell him you would like to join him as you'd love a good cup of coffee and see what he says, or how he reacts.
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 No, it's not okay. "Friends of friends of friends" is also not okay. Unless there is a great reason for it - like one of the friends of the friends has your wallet, or something.
Author HappyFlower Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 Thanks everyone - thats really interesting, because he says everyone he asked about it said I shouldn't have a problem first of all, no, because why would you want strangers to have your number? He said he wanted 'a new friend ready for when I moved' as he's moving to a new city soon - that's true, he was moving. He said that one friend would lead to a new circle of friends, which is all he wanted from it. I can understand him wanting new friends where he lives, but I don't understand why he thinks its appropriate to pick up a single woman on a train who has no connection to him whatsoever. He doesn't see coffee like that as a date apparently, whereas I do, unless its with a previous friend.
PegNosePete Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Thanks everyone - thats really interesting, because he says everyone he asked about it said I shouldn't have a problem Of course he said that! He wants to justify his actions. It's totally wrong to do this and whatever BS reasons he fed you are just that - BS.
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