annalize Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 We often hear about cheating,and see the stats on it,and it makes one feel very sad and hopeless about relationships.I always fear theat eventually cheating will occur in a relationship,in some form or another. My question is,are there men and women who have never cheated out there??And id really love to hear more about these stories as opp sed to the typical cheating ones!!
NigellaObsidia Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I've never cheated. And God knows, I had every reason to, given what my EX put me through. But, I stayed faithful in the marriage until the divorce was finalized.
Author annalize Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 thats very good of you!!!!
Imageiko Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I definitely haven't and don't plan to. I'd like to think I never will as I feel like I'd be breaking it off before I had any urge to cheat.
Stung Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I have experimented with open relationships before, but I have never cheated on anyone. I just think it's undignified, not honorable, not rational. I treat the people I care about with respect, and if I don't care about or respect them anymore, I need to either concentrate on fixing that or I should not be with them anymore. I'm married now but I've had several relationships in the past, all of them obviously ended to lead me to where I am (happily) now, and some of them ended badly, but only one of them--idk, maybe two-- had anything to do with anyone cheating. Yes, I was cheated on, yes, it hurt, but those experiences were the minority and a long time ago. Statistically, it really just hasn't factored into my life very much. My husband, btw, does have his faults but he is honest to a fault and expressive and loyal. He tells me he has never cheated and I believe him and trust him.
Citizen Erased Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Haven't cheated. My family was torn apart cos my mother couldn't keep her legs closed, since then the concept makes me ill to even contemplate to be honest.
Eve Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Not into cheating. Don't think about it or worry it will happen to me. Hubby feels the same. We have an agreement that if one of us changes and wants something different that we must tell the other and end the marriage first. Fairs fair. Why open another person up to disease and all that? Just leave. Take care, Eve x
Linda9999 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I've had two marriages/long term relationships, have been cheated on by both but have never ever cheated and never would. Unless you count the fact I hooked up with my current husband before the divorce was final from my first husband. We hadn't been together for a few years by that point though.
Eve Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I've had two marriages/long term relationships, have been cheated on by both but have never ever cheated and never would. Unless you count the fact I hooked up with my current husband before the divorce was final from my first husband. We hadn't been together for a few years by that point though. Man.. that is HARSH! Both of them? .. Ouch! .. Take care, Eve x
Cypress25 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 I've never cheated on anyone and I never will. I could never hurt someone that way.
Linda9999 Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Man.. that is HARSH! Both of them? .. Ouch! .. Take care, Eve x Yeah, both. My first husband was a total douchebag all around and used to pick women up in bars and go home with them while I was at home pregnant and/or breastfeeding. I knew but ignored it while we were together, then got confirmation years later. My current hubby was into online crap for a while and it escalated to him meeting up with 'models' before I caught him. He's settled back down now When I see it in print it makes me wonder what the hell is wrong with me. Then I get over it
samsungxoxo Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) Not really but at one point felt like it. Afterall, cheating is a very tempting and even though communication is the key in every type of relationship, sometimes that doesn't work (the partner is either too absent-minded or it's simply not important what you have to say). I can see what would make someone go to that extreme of seeking pleasure from someone else but at the same time don't really want to break it off because it's not easy. Nooo I wouldn't cheat but would probably end up becoming distant or break it off... Now some people act like cheating was the same as a crime. No, you don't get sentenced for that (unless you knowingly gave your partner an STD and still got intimate with them after cheating) and if it wasn't for STDs.. other than an emotional burden to deal with, there are other things in the world that was way worst than cheating. Torturing someone endlessly is worst than getting cheating on. Edited September 21, 2011 by samsungxoxo
Eclypse Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I guess it depends how you define cheating. I kissed a girl who wasn't my girlfriend but nothing further happened.
smudge21 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 Cheated once and felt like crap afterwards. Made me realise how much I loved the person I was with and how much I nearly lost. Never done it since... My take on serial cheaters is that they do not love, care or respect in any way the person they're with and should end the relationship instantly.
Beachgirl8 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 (edited) I've never cheated on anyone. It just seems like logic to me. If you no longer want to be with the person you are with, then break up with them. Or be in an open relationship or fwb or whatever. I mean, most likely your partner who wants you to be faithful probably won't agree to such an arrangement, but there are plenty of people who are, so go find one of them. Why is that so difficult to understand? I do not understand cheating. I think it is weak and cowardly behavior to promise someone you won't sleep with other people and then go do it anyway. If you like to sleep around then just be single. Whenever I read posts in the Om/OW or infidelity forums I feel like I'm reading posts from alien beings from another planet. My ex (8 yr relationship) cheated on me for no good reason. He regrets it to this day because when I found out (the second time- i did give him ONE second chance against my better judgement) I left him and moved across the country. He spent a year trying to get me to move back and marry him. NO WAY. If I can manage to not cheat then I expect the same from a partner. Good riddance. The funny thing is, I'm not a prude and was open to experimenting, occasional threesomes or whatever and he was vehemently against any of that. Dumbass. Edited September 22, 2011 by Beachgirl8 Spelling
missed_theboat Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I have never cheated on a partner, either. Some may consider an "open-relationship" cheating, but I was in a relationship with a man and I went to Argentina for study-abroad. Shortly after, I told him I was interested in seeing other people, but that I didn't want to have to end our relationship. Yes, it was selfish. But I was being honest. I would never have gone out and actually done something without letting him know I was feeling tempted, feeling all these things. So, he agreed that we should have an open relationship, where we saw other people for a time period. Was it a mistake? Well, I should have probably just broke up with him at that time, because my being away and him thinking I was with other men made him terribly sad and he later broke up with me, not able to take the pain of me possibly sleeping with other men. But, from my standpoint, he had the option to say "No, I'm not OK with that, and it bothers me that you want to sleep with other men." And we could have talked about the future of our relationship. At the time, I was honest with him and he did not express his concern until later. It wasn't necessarily a good decision on my part, but I'm glad now that we are not in a relationship anymore. We wouldn't have been compatible in the long-run. I definitely cared about him, but I was also having a hard time figuring out what I wanted. Although I do not consider that cheating (considering I told him everything I was thinking/feeling and kept him "in the know"), some people may. I have never gone behind someone's back and done something while in a relationship... whether kissing, sex, or anything in between.
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I have never cheated on either a GF or Wife.. I also have never thought about it.. I have also never sport dated and have always tried to date one person at a time. (when I was single).. I would never cheat.. ever.. I can say that because I know myself well enough to know that I would get a divorce before going down that road or I would be in acceptance of my position at the time and would remain committed. When I commit to a person I mean it...
Afishwithabike Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I haven't cheated on anyone I dated. I haven't cheated on my husband. And to the best of my knowledge, he hasn't cheated on any past girlfriends and he hasn't cheated on me. I've seen what infidelity does to a person, to a family, to a relationship. I don't want to put anyone through that.
Woggle Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I never cheated on anybody and never will. The times in my life where I was not ready to commit to one woman I didn't.
KathyM Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 I've never cheated, and never will. I've never been tempted to either. It's just not in my nature. I get hit on frequently by men of all ages, so I've had the opportunity. I've had times when my husband and I were going through difficult times, so I've had that to deal with also. Someone who has been married as long as I have doesn't get there with smooth sailing the whole way. But not only would I consider it dishonest and hurtful, I could never look my children in the eye again knowing I had been fooling around outside the marriage. I want to be someone they can look up to and set a good example for them. I could never be hypocritical and pretend to be someone that I'm not. As a Christian, I also feel I have an obligation and commitment, not only to my husband, but to God. I would never disappoint Him in that way. My relationship with Him is way too valuable to me to ever hurt Him in that way. So regardless of how I feel about my husband at the moment (and there are times I am angry with him), I would never betray my faith in that way. I could never live with myself or feel good about myself again if I ever stooped to that level of behavior.
wolfess Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Never cheated, never been cheated on, same with the bf, though that goes without saying because we're each other's first everything. He doesn't think other girls are hot, really, I'm not making this up, he's not just saying that either. SO I never have to worry about him, well, gee, that and he loves me. He also has the view that I do, "why cheat, when you can break up with someone?" It's just rude.
GoodOnPaper Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Have never cheated -- there hasn't been any opportunity to, anyway. Attracting just one woman at a time was always difficult and exhausting -- if two were ever interested at the same time, I'd feel like I was in the Twilight Zone.
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