D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 My cousin , not realizing who I am sent me a message on POF about 20 minutes ago:lmao:. I am adopted, I met my bio family when I was about 25, including some of my cousins. Granted, I was a red head back then and a little heavier- but my face hasn't changed... I spent 2 x-mas's in his presence. I recognized him right away being my biolgical cousin because I have spent time with him and I don't generally forget people. His opening line: U R Hawt My response: Thanks, I'm your cousin btw:lmao:
Kamille Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 :lmao: Didn't you mean to reply: "Thx. Am ur Cuz btw. No sexy time." ?
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 :lmao: Didn't you mean to reply: "Thx. Am ur Cuz btw. No sexy time." ? He is cute Kam:lmao: They can't make this stuff up No you can't. This is a priceless moment in my life. Haven't heard back since the message. Wonder how he is feeling right now:p
carhill Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I'd say something but it probably wouldn't scan right
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 I'd say something but it probably wouldn't scan right Say it. You know me, I have no boundaries:cool:
Hot Chick Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I had something similar, with a cousin, and since I was also adopted we did flirt quite a bit. He saw me on the site and knew who I was. He was seeing someone at the time, but confessed that he always had a crush on me. I moved across the country and now he is single, but we still flirt via text. Next time I go back home, we're going to get together for drinks. It's fun being adopted in that a family reunion each year can also be a place for dating possibilities. I have another cousin who is a millionaire who I've always had a crush on. Unfortunately after his divorce, he did flirt with me at the family reunion, but it was right before I moved across the country. Now he is seeing a really nice woman.
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 I should have put my headline as "My cousin wants to eff me"... I would get more responses.
daphne Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 That's too funny. Good thing he didn't get too graphic or weird. It'll make fodder for the next reunion...
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 I had something similar, with a cousin, and since I was also adopted we did flirt quite a bit. He saw me on the site and knew who I was. He was seeing someone at the time, but confessed that he always had a crush on me. I moved across the country and now he is single, but we still flirt via text. Next time I go back home, we're going to get together for drinks. It's fun being adopted in that a family reunion each year can also be a place for dating possibilities. I have another cousin who is a millionaire who I've always had a crush on. Unfortunately after his divorce, he did flirt with me at the family reunion, but it was right before I moved across the country. Now he is seeing a really nice woman. He's full on related to me- We are biologically linked and share genetics.
carhill Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Say it. You know me, I have no boundaries:cool: Repeating something I oft heard as a teenager, 'incest is best' Remember, this during a time when, as an example, my mom thought getting me a t-shirt was a cool thing.
ja123 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 D-Lish - do you think he really knows who you are now? Or, he just thinks you've found a new twist on the ol' blow-off?
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 That's too funny. Good thing he didn't get too graphic or weird. It'll make fodder for the next reunion... There won't be more reunions, I cut out my bio-mom from my life about 3 years back. I ran into her grocery shopping, she was with her old step-mom. She walked past me and pretended not to know me. I ran back thinking she didn't see me, but she had. She told me in a panic "Nan doesn't know about you, we can't talk right now. (her dad never knew, nor did her step mom- her mom and dad split long before I came along) Her dad ( my grandpa I guess never knew about me). I've never talked to her since, it was like being abandoned all over again- being someone's dirty little secret. All the issues of being an abandoned child just came crawling back in a big way. Her sister's on her mother's side knew= those are the people I met.
Imajerk17 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 New meaning to the phrase "keeping it in the family"...
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 D-Lish - do you think he really knows who you are now? Or, he just thinks you've found a new twist on the ol' blow-off? Geez. no- I'm his biological cousin. We've had 2 very long times together previous to this.
Imajerk17 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 So... will you guys be spending Thanksgiving together??
Art_Critic Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 If he hides his profile or blocks you then you know he is embarrassed...
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 So... will you guys be spending Thanksgiving together?? Ony if you want to be a Chaperone:p No, I'm pretty level headed and healthy, sleeping with a cousin is not something I"d ever in a million years consider.
daphne Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 There won't be more reunions, I cut out my bio-mom from my life about 3 years back. I ran into her grocery shopping, she was with her old step-mom. She walked past me and pretended not to know me. I ran back thinking she didn't see me, but she had. She told me in a panic "Nan doesn't know about you, we can't talk right now. (her dad never knew, nor did her step mom- her mom and dad split long before I came along) Her dad ( my grandpa I guess never knew about me). I've never talked to her since, it was like being abandoned all over again- being someone's dirty little secret. All the issues of being an abandoned child just came crawling back in a big way. Her sister's on her mother's side knew= those are the people I met. I can't blame you. Wow. Some women just dont' have a mothering instinct. I say that, because I'm estranged from my own mother. The only time I've heard from her in the past 15 years was when she found out I was well off. Meanwhile, she has 2 other daughters who are also estranged from her. I hope you can get to the place where you realize that you're better off without her. It's her, not you. That's the gospel. Hugs.
Author D-Lish Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 I can't blame you. Wow. Some women just dont' have a mothering instinct. I say that, because I'm estranged from my own mother. The only time I've heard from her in the past 15 years was when she found out I was well off. Meanwhile, she has 2 other daughters who are also estranged from her. I hope you can get to the place where you realize that you're better off without her. It's her, not you. That's the gospel. Hugs. I don't know if I realized how much her brush off affected me until a few short weeks ago. I grew up thinking I was a dirty little secret- she just confirmed that I was and still am. That hurts. I can't let that childhood abandonment screw me up anymore.
daphne Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I don't know if I realized how much her brush off affected me until a few short weeks ago. I grew up thinking I was a dirty little secret- she just confirmed that I was and still am. That hurts. I can't let that childhood abandonment screw me up anymore. I wish you could realize, that if this is the way she is, you were much better off without her. Can you imagine the damage she could have done if you'd lived with her? I count my blessings that my father raised me when I see my younger sister (who she raised) and her issues. They are legion. She's a lost little girl. I hope your adoptive parents were good to you. It would be easier to realize you're better off in that case.
Hot Chick Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 (edited) I agree, you are lucky. I haven't met my birth mother, but she has lived a pretty messed up life. I was very loved growing up. so I am very glad I was adopted. my birth father, my sister has met him (i have a twin sister and we were adopted together.) He is an alcoholic, and lives a very sad life. So count your blessings - being adopted is a gift. Edited September 20, 2011 by Hot Chick
oldguy Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 (edited) Sorry, I commented on the opening post before reading further & now LS wont let me simply delete. Speaking of awkward. Edited September 20, 2011 by oldguy
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