confusedgirl56 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I have been dating this guy for about 3 months. I'm really into him. He was gone for a long business trip for the last 2 months. He got back this weekend and took me to a really fancy restaurant last night. While he was gone, he kept in touch every day. It was great last night until ... After dinner, we were playing around and did some intimate things. No sex. My arms got really sore and I told him that I was disappointed that I couldn't make him come. He said that he was exhausted from the trip and had too much wine. I'm really disappointed in myself. I thought I was great at giving my man pleasure and had a lot of compliments in the past from my exes. But this time, I couldn't make him come, after trying really hard. I'm also frustrated because we didn't get to have sex. Even though I didn't give him a happy ending, he still texted me afterwards. Also I told him that I wanted to move in with him, so I can see him more often (we live 40 mins from each other and both of us are busy professionals). And he said "Yes!!!" I'll still keep my own place for a while, until I know things are definitely working out. Here are my questions: (1) Is he into me sexually or not? Why couldn't he come after I tried so hard? From my past experiences, when the guy is really into me, he won't have any problems coming. (2) If he's fine with me moving into his place, after the long 2 months apart and no happy ending last night, does it mean that he really likes me and it's not just about sex? Or, am I just hoping for something that's not there. Thanks for your help.
saboy Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 sometimes you just cant cum, dont know why but it just happens. I wouldnt worry about it.
robdrm32 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 From your post i take it you only used your hands? (and not your mouth) personally I hate handjobs, its ok for geting me started but to make me come, not gonna happen. so save your arms and down down on him or get to sex. I doubt he would tell you handjobs suck.
motive2002 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 sometimes you just cant cum, dont know why but it just happens. I wouldnt worry about it. Yeah, we're not machines. Don't worry about it. If he didn't come he didn't. I'm sure he appreciated the effort
laotzu Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Yeah, what everyone else said. Recently I wasn't able to get hard, either, something that happens every once in a while. The penis is a tricky organ; sometimes you find yourself with an erection in the middle of a business conference, and sometimes you find yourself without one just when you wanted it to show up. Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it; at those times when I've had difficulty orgasming, it's because it almost happened "too fast" and I was worried that getting off too quickly would be embarrassing, so I do something mentally to stop from orgasming... and then it can take forty minutes, because I've disrupted the natural progression of things. And oh: getting off from a handjob is incredibly difficult. Someone even made a handjob protest song...
Author confusedgirl56 Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 It was oral. I used my hands to help. Also, if he couldn't get an orgasm with me, does it mean he got it from some other woman that day??
laotzu Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Jesus... do people really think this way, and then: put those thoughts down on text? No, of course it doesn't mean that. I'm sorry that your streak of making a guy orgasm every time you wanted to has come to an end, but you needn't imbue it with more significance than it actually has. He didn't get off, perhaps because he masturbated earlier, because he had to go to the bathroom, because he was bored, or because he was pumping his mistress forty minutes beforehand. Accept the most logical possibility based on the specific circumstances and your knowledge of him, and operate based on that conclusion.
country_gurl Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 confusedgirl ---- you're confused? well so am I. You posted on Sept 16th that you've been dating this guy for "one month" (link to that post below) yet now 3 days later you claim you've been dating him for 3 months. Is your calendar different than most? Why would you be asking a guy you've known for such a short period of time if you could "move in with him"? -- that just sounds so desperate and needy. Are any of your posts for real? Your posting history is rather "off", to say the least. Just yesterday you posted that you've never even been to his home and now you're suddenly going to be moving in with him? Alrighty then. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3628652#post3628652
veggirl Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 You...asked a guy if you could move in after (at best) 3 months? :confused::confused::confused: You specified no sex... so, you haven't had sex, but you want to move in? :confused: He must be as crazy as you are if he agreed to this. Good luck.
country_gurl Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 My guess is that he was 'spent' from having done his wife shortly before your meeting, or one of this other lady friends. I wonder if he bought them $800 shoes as well? So he's a big CEO is he? Did you meet him on one of those sugardaddy sites? Your posting history is a scream. More inconsistencies than one could shake a stick at. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=3628652#post3628652
veggirl Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 ahh. so, you haven't been in his home, but you are moving into it? Make sure it isn't his spare apartment He def has other women on the side...was this hand/blow job in his car per chance?
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