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Hey guys lol. I been soooo busy w/ school & stuff u know but Im now in a relationship w/ this cute guy I talked about before. The one that my friend introduced. Anyway since we been dating its only been like lots of kissing, yada yada. I mean Im okay w/ it or w/e but its like since I finally let my bf kiss me he hasnt stopped :rolleyes: its on & on whenever.

 

Like on saturday he had me on his lap & he was just rubbing my stomach, yada yada. He tried to feel on my chest but I told him no so he laughed & stopped. But anyway after that he wanted to drink at this lounge and Im not really allowed to drink legally since Im 19 but he snuck me a few so I hit up 2 thats it.

 

Then he was at it again w/ all the making out, slobbering on my neck w/e. Then last night outside against his car he was doing it again. I wanted to talk about stuff like the diff movies coming out & stuff but he ignored me & was like 'oh come on, your so sexy, bla bla bla' and sucking on my neck like a vampire & left me 3 hickeys already. I woulda had more if I didnt try to stop him & it was just ****ing weird :o

 

But I really like him. He's really into me & has this vibe about him that alot of guys dont have u know like confidence & stuff. He's 1/2 pr & italian. Im 100% italian so we click & ****. Idk, can it work? We talk less & just do a bunch of hugging & intimacy. How long do these things last? Am I messing this up? Help :(

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Sounds like he obviously has sex on his mind over anything else. Tell him what you told us, and if he doesn't comply, then he just wants your body - nothing more

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Hey guys lol. I been soooo busy w/ school & stuff u know but Im now in a relationship w/ this cute guy I talked about before. The one that my friend introduced. Anyway since we been dating its only been like lots of kissing, yada yada. I mean Im okay w/ it or w/e but its like since I finally let my bf kiss me he hasnt stopped :rolleyes: its on & on whenever.

 

Like on saturday he had me on his lap & he was just rubbing my stomach, yada yada. He tried to feel on my chest but I told him no so he laughed & stopped. But anyway after that he wanted to drink at this lounge and Im not really allowed to drink legally since Im 19 but he snuck me a few so I hit up 2 thats it.

 

Then he was at it again w/ all the making out, slobbering on my neck w/e. Then last night outside against his car he was doing it again. I wanted to talk about stuff like the diff movies coming out & stuff but he ignored me & was like 'oh come on, your so sexy, bla bla bla' and sucking on my neck like a vampire & left me 3 hickeys already. I woulda had more if I didnt try to stop him & it was just ****ing weird :o

 

But I really like him. He's really into me & has this vibe about him that alot of guys dont have u know like confidence & stuff. He's 1/2 pr & italian. Im 100% italian so we click & ****. Idk, can it work? We talk less & just do a bunch of hugging & intimacy. How long do these things last? Am I messing this up? Help :(

 

hmm...sounds like he just wants to get laid honestly. I know you're 19 but how old is he? around the same age? I think it's best that you keep your legs closed because he might bail after he gets what he wants. and no, a relationship cant work based on intimacy alone. it will get tired eventually if you guys have nothing else in common to keep the flames going. please tread lightly with this guy sweetheart for your own good.

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Sounds like he obviously has sex on his mind over anything else. Tell him what you told us, and if he doesn't comply, then he just wants your body - nothing more

 

Thanx but I decided to not see him today. I wanna give us a lil rest now. I think its moving 2 fast. I told my friend about it & she says that all guys are gonna be that way to me so its like w/e.

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I think you should break up with him. He is not a responsible person you want to get involved with if he is encouraging you to drink illegally.

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He's not looking for a girlfriend, he's looking to get laid. Sorry, but this guy isn't worth your time unless you want just fooling around and possible sex at some point.

 

What is it that you "like" about him? What sort of person is he? Or do you just connect with him on a sexual level and you're basing what you feel on lust, not on actually knowing who he is.. Is he loving and giving, kind hearted person? Someone who is there for his friends, a nice guy? These are reasons why to fall for him, not just coz you think he's hot or something.

 

He seems interested in one thing and not very nice to you unless he's sticking his tongue all over you!

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It takes a lot more than make out sessions and feel-up attempts to build a relationship. And that stuff is not "intimacy," either. It's just the behavior of a very horny young man. Most of us here have experienced it at some time or another, whether on the horny guy side or the recipient's.

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He's not looking for a girlfriend, he's looking to get laid. Sorry, but this guy isn't worth your time unless you want just fooling around and possible sex at some point.

 

What is it that you "like" about him? What sort of person is he? Or do you just connect with him on a sexual level and you're basing what you feel on lust, not on actually knowing who he is.. Is he loving and giving, kind hearted person? Someone who is there for his friends, a nice guy? These are reasons why to fall for him, not just coz you think he's hot or something.

 

He seems interested in one thing and not very nice to you unless he's sticking his tongue all over you!

 

He told me Im the prettiest girl he's been w/ & ****. Um, he's a lil bit nice but not nicey-nice lol. I like how he looks at me & teases me. He's funny. Other guys that try to hit on me are so lame & obvious. He's different to me in that way u know. :)

 

Anyway he tried getting me out tonight but I told him no & was busy. He said tomorrow he wants me to come over but Im not answering. I got ice on my neck right now & had to throw my hair over the front to hide these marks from my parents or they flip lol.

 

Im trying to take a break right now. I dont wanna break up w/ him unless he does something really bad to me or lies about some stuff. My only prob w/ him is he acts so horny. Maybe if I take off 3-4 days he calm down?

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He's telling you what you want to hear.

 

Also, taking a break from hanging out with him will not tame him. He'll still try to go for the sex.

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He's telling you what you want to hear.

 

Also, taking a break from hanging out with him will not tame him. He'll still try to go for the sex.

 

^agree with cracker jack. having your boyfriend not see you in a few days will only make him hornier when he does get his hands and mouth on you, so remember you were warned. Im not sure if you should call it quits with him but you definitely need to set some boundaries with him before this guy puts the pressure on wanting intercourse, no longer settling for just a round of foreplay. by the way is he your 1st boyfriend? you seem clueless.

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