bdbmwer Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Ok if you saw my earlier post I apologize for making a new one but this is pretty much an update with a summarized backstory. 3 days ago my ex said that she didn't understand her feelings right now and thought we should take a break. Followed by maybe one day I'll find my way back to you. Like an idiot I said "I said I'm worried you'll find someone else you like more during this break" and she said she felt the same way about me and when I told her I don't see that happening she said that's how she felt so I truly believe there's not another guy creeping in. The day after we went to the local football game together she was working a booth beforehand and when I came up to get her early she was very forward and was like nice hat and when I said I'm gonna go wait for her over there she's like no it's fine you can stay I'm bored anyways. She also went out of her way to tell me this guy that came onto her earlier while we were dating had asked her to come over and she refused. I played it calm and just said ok. She continued this normal forward stance till the end of the quarter where she said she was hungry and tired and thought she was gonna go get subway away from the stadium but that she was sorry and wanted to watch the game with me and appreciated it. The next day she changed her fb relationship status to single and her prof pic and I followed suit with both and went out and had a good time.with no contact all day. Today (Monday) at about 11 (the tome we normally meet for lunch) she texts me saying " don't forget to read the illiad for mythology!" and I replied " doing that now thanks for reminding me though!" We also have a class together at 5..... I have no clue how to treat this whether to respond to her texts so as to not push her away or to ignore them and keep her missing me. I plan on being civil in class but for future reference which is better?should I contact her first at any point? I feel like she regrets her decision. My plan of action is to give it a week and half of little to no texts unless she initiates them then after that ask her to lunch and say " do you want to give it another shot? If not I think we need to have NC and you only contact me if you have made up your mind because I can't be hopelessly strung along" Is my mind I'm the right place? Am I doing something wrong? Any help appreciated and sorry for typos I did this on my lhone As of now my plan is to
Author bdbmwer Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 told her im initiating nc today because she sends mixed signals and to get back to me when shes made up her mind. said she only contacted because she thought we were still friends
Hollywood11 Posted September 22, 2011 Posted September 22, 2011 (edited) I see your balls in her purse simple as that. She has the power in the relationship. Think about it for a minute and be honest with yourself. I bet you do what she wants because your afriad she will get mad and leave or you dont want to upset her and perhaps im wrong, but the way your post reads something has got to change there man. Wondering about whehter to text or not to text. Thinking she regrets her decision. Dude! this thing has got to consumed with what move should i make next. She said take a break, so be like "If thats how you feel then alright" no i think youll find someone else and she says take a break, but your giogn to a football game toghther. Seems to me that was a nice way of breaking up, but the possibility of getting back toghether is there. And also if she texted you i would of just ignored it for a while and then texted. I bet you texted within 5 minutes of recieving that message. man if she says take a break you take a break and act like a confident guy. Not a lost puppy who cant live without her. Girls MOST girls dont like a guy who is submissive and weak. If they wanted to date a girl they turn into a lesbian. Toughen up man i know its hard and i know it sucks, but you have to do it You need to stop worrying so much about the relationshp and go do your own thing. Yes make her miss you. IF HER FEELING FOR YOU ARE THE SAME THAT IS. because if your just a friend in her mind missing you may work and it may not. For instance if she says what you doing in a text say hanging out with some friends. You dont have to be lie lie lie man she dont know that yoru not hanging out with friends unless she is right outside your door. Least then you dont seem like some guy in his room lost and lonely.. You may not be able to get her back and you may....the scale isnt in your favor seeing as how she wanted a break. seems to me with regards to how you wrote your post and even apologized for having posted again. That your girl is looking for a guy who will tell her no, who will be the man in the relationship, a guy who is a little to confident with himself, a guy who will stand up to her, a guy who will slap her on the ass and tell her behave when she is acting bad (not being literal just saying dont put up with her ****).....a guy that will make the girl chase him....... that is how you do not seem and it seems because of it your girl has lost attracton for you........ perhaps i am wrong..... if you see that the relationship is over and no way you can get back with her... then ask why the break.....and be straight forward with it, ask her did i not stand up to you enough and stand my ground enough etc.. perhaps you'll find what i am saying is right and it will be an eye opener or maybe you'll find what im saying to be completly wrong and then just let me know either way hope u figure it out and i just thought of it while re reading my post.... but think long and hard....was she acting weird before the break, less affectionate, less touchy feely, less whatever.. basically did you see this break as a not so much of a surprise? did you expect the break is what i am saying here? if you did then slap yourself for me because you should of said i want to take a break first then all decisions would have been yours and you could of played any angle you want.. straight up with you right now....dating, engagement, marriage is all a game.....never never never never never give up your power is a relationship.....dating its 80 20....engagement is 70 30....marriage is 60 40.....what i mean is your contol of the relationship does not stop never never never.....woman date, engage, and marry a man because he is a man and will act like a man sure the number decreases as you get more serious but it never hits 50/50 like so many people say a marriage shoudl be......LMOA!! a woman wants a man who is a man not a guy who will compromise on everyting that is 50/50 ..... For example, when you go out to eat do you ask where do you want to eat instead of saying lets go here. Because if she doesnt want to go she will tell you. Make the decision not everytime though Edited September 22, 2011 by Hollywood11
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