thelibertine Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I became good friends with the girl I really like about one and a half years ago. We did many things together for the first half a year and were great friends. She then got together with another guy, who she then had a relationship with for 9 months. This was her first real boyfriend. During the major part of this time we didn't do much together and only occasionally talked. 3 weeks before the end of their relationship, we started talking a lot again, and she told me that her boyfriend treated her bad and I had the feeling she wasn't happy. He then broke up with her and they have hardly talked since. On the day they broke up she called me and asked if we could meet up, and ever since then we have been seeing each other almost every second day. This was about 3 weeks ago. She's slept over at mine in the same bed as me twice, whereby we spent the whole night talking and did not do more than cuddle. She spends most of her free time with me and tells me that she likes being with me. She told me she thinks her boyfriend has become an idiot, but still has feelings for the person he was when they started their relationship. I am afraid of rushing things, and wanted to ask for advice on how to handle the situation. Thanks!
iJester Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 You have to make a move. Next time you see her, kiss her. If she accepts it, great. If not tell her that you have strong feelings for her, and can't remain casual friends with her anymore. Ask that she not contact you anymore, unless she wants to try dating you.
Author thelibertine Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 You have to make a move. Next time you see her, kiss her. If she accepts it, great. If not tell her that you have strong feelings for her, and can't remain casual friends with her anymore. Ask that she not contact you anymore, unless she wants to try dating you. The thing is, I am willing to stay her friend if that is what it takes... I feel like your suggestion would be rushing the whole thing, I mean she just got out of her first real relationship..
somethingsimple Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 She just got out of a relationship, be wary of her feelings. The right thing to do, is just be a good friend and help her get through this. Give her some time, but note the each person goes through break-ups differently. If she develops feelings for you, then it'll happen naturally. Otherwise, you can make a move. If you want my take on how to make a move, confessions have a really really really low chance of working in your favor. Since she's already comfortable with you, just start of with touching, some holding, then kisses on the cheek or what not. Then make a move. But be wary, this might confuse her some more. I guess, use your own discretion. Personally, I don't go for girls who just came out of a break up. Its not that I'm to prideful to be a rebound. Its just that in the past coming off a relationship myself, I think its imperative that one takes time to recollect themselves.
Author thelibertine Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 She just got out of a relationship, be wary of her feelings. The right thing to do, is just be a good friend and help her get through this. Give her some time, but note the each person goes through break-ups differently. If she develops feelings for you, then it'll happen naturally. Otherwise, you can make a move. If you want my take on how to make a move, confessions have a really really really low chance of working in your favor. Since she's already comfortable with you, just start of with touching, some holding, then kisses on the cheek or what not. Then make a move. But be wary, this might confuse her some more. I guess, use your own discretion. Personally, I don't go for girls who just came out of a break up. Its not that I'm to prideful to be a rebound. Its just that in the past coming off a relationship myself, I think its imperative that one takes time to recollect themselves. thanks, sounds helpful..!
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