somethingsimple Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 There's no excitement. People who do that **** are never happy. I've had sexual encounters and been out all the time trying to get girls and most were when I was a young teenager and you're not missing much. The excitement of being with someone you love beats it every time. He's right. If you're breaking up with her because you think it'll be so much fun hooking up or doing whatever with other females, you'll be surely mistaken. Especially if she's good to you and you're happy. Go watch Hall Pass its something like that.
Dusk1983 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Trust me, sex with emotion is usually the best sex. ...which is precisely why a history of promiscuity is a red flag.
rafallus Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 if staying with her(which is amazing and I know I couldnt have a better future with anyone else) is worth missing out on alll the cool fun excitement of not only sex but new relationships and just having other girls. In your situation, no. (If it was, all the cool fun with other girls wouldn't even enter your mind).
Author saboy Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 It's only natural for a confident outgoing guy like myself to wonder about thing like this. It's a hard choice anyway deciding you want to stay with someone foreve let alone when you're 18/19! No matter how amazing it is.
Kindaconfused_77 Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I recently had a summer fling with a girl with an insanely wild past of promiscuity. I myself had only ever bene in 3 relationships in the past, nowhere enar as wild, but still I enjoyed every moment, and while she was with me, I never really thought about all the other people she'd been with, I just enjoyed my time. Of course, it was jsut a summer fling, what you have seems to be way more valuable, so in my mind, even more of a reason NOt to give it up for your "sowing oats" period. Hell, if she is THE ONE (concept I dont really believe in, but well..) for you, you can consider yourself lucky that you have found the girl RIGHT for you at such an early age, but being realistic, you are both still young despite the age difference, and will be entirely different people when you hit your thirties. Wether you are in your teens, 20s or 30s you will always have your chance at a wild time of fun if you ever go abck to being single, but being with a person that is special to you... thats a lot harder to find. I would stick it out and see it through, tis better to live with the regret of not having messed around like a horndog in your teens, than with the regret of having lost the potential love of your life, for some wild sexual period of promiscuity.
stillafool Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 There does seem to be alot of threads about 'girlsfriends sexual past" around LS. It's funny that women never start threads about a man's sexual past. Anywho, has it ever ocurred to you guys to ask a woman about her sexual past before you start dating her? If it bothers you guys so much why don't you find these things out before you ask her out?
Red Arremer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 It's my attitude towards everyone actually, male or female. Don't try and play the sexist card. Sorry, let me rephrase then. Wow, lots of healthy attitudes about sexuality up in here There, better? You saying it doesn't matter how many drugs someone has taken or how many people they've killed as well? If you're going to commit a murder, who would you want teaching you, the Washington sniper or Mother Theresa? Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn, that's a hell of a strawman you've got there.
Ginger Beer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Sorry, let me rephrase then. Wow, lots of healthy attitudes about sexuality up in here There, better? Well, no, because you implied I was sexist by being sexist yourself.
othersideofthepillow Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Saboy...after reading your thread as well as following posts, there is something that i want to let you in on... i am a 25 years old man, a former military man that has been around the entire world, seen-met-been with many different woman. i have been serious with 3 woman. the woman that i have been with on a serious level have outweighed the "one night stands, the random hook ups, the hit it an quit it" stereotypes that everyone feels matter in todays society. trust me when i tell you this, THE AMOUNT OF CONNECTION THAT YOU FEEL WHEN YOU ARE WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE....YES LOVE....BLOWS ANYTHING, ANYTHING ANYTHING OUT OF THE WATER of just "having fun, different experiences, etc.... more often than not you will hear how woman talk about how they love how connected they feel with their bf and how amazing the intimacy is because of that connection ----- think a random girl is gonna thing that ---- NOT FOR A MILLION DOLLARS. you both are still rather young but love knows no age. years ago people fell in love and stayed together forever like it was nothing and at much younger of an age than the two of you are at right now. for what its worth, dont throw away a great thing you have right now for something "you think is so great" or "that i need to have my fun" or "im to young to have just one woman" cause in the end ---- your not gonna miss the notches on your belt ---- but YOU ARE GONNA MISS THE ONES THAT YOU LET GET AWAY ps....her past is just that...the past. let it stay there and only worry about the present and what the future may bring the 2 of you!
whichwayisup Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Are you the type of guy who wants casual sex? Wants to experience 3-somes, one night stands, etc? If so, then break up with your girlfriend and go sow your oats. If you are the type of guy who loves having companionship, having a girlfriend, having a relationship, someone you can spend time with, have friendship and fun, sex etc., then stay with your girlfriend.. Just know though, you both are young and anything can happen in life. Maybe you two will get married, maybe you won't. Maybe you two will split up and go on other paths and later in the future find your way back to one another..Anything is possible. Just be honest with yourself and with her. Don't ever cheat on her! If you break up with her, make sure it's what you truly want..No regrets.
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