Hollywood11 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Long story short met girl was dating girl now i am engaged to this girl. Things were fine when we werent dating. Then get worse as we get more serious. What i mean for example is she never nagged when we werent dating, but it got progressivly worse. She wants certain parts about me to change to please her some are alright like talk more in public and what not. But some like have to smile more and stuff like that what the hell. Anyways i feel she is taking me for granted and has gotten to comfortable with this engagement and has forgotten that hey! even though im a guy i like to know i am cared about and like it shown to me. She nags about things i do and i swear she wants me to change so i am just like her. Im getting sick of the nagging and want her to realize im getting sick of it. And yes we talk, but it hasnt worked So anyways we dated when we lived in the same city, but i moved 40 mins away to a university so because of my work scedule we only see each other once a week. Well work and school have me booked so i wont be able to see her for 2 weeks. So i basically told her for those 2 weeks we aint talking/communicating and in those 2 weeks i want you to decide if i am really the guy for you. I said im getting sick of being kicked around and its not going to happen anymore so in two weeks decide what you want and if things dont change then i am leaving for good. Do you think im being to harsh or is it just what she needs? Id really appreciate any response, im only doing this because i think its for the better and i hope it doesnt blow up in my face.
Mack05 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 (edited) When a girl wants to change you, or nags at you alot, it usually means that they are not happy with you. More importantly, they are probably not happy within themselves. If they are not content/happy within themselves, they cannot make a long term relationship work with anybody. The key to relationship success is being happy within yourself. Can I give you a bit of advise. Buy this book and try have her buy it as well -> http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Thought-Patterns-Loving-Relationship/dp/1569244758. It explains why we have communication problems in our relationships. The book also gets you to focus on you and what you are doing wrong in the relationship. It really is an eye opening read. Take these few weeks off that you have both agreed to. Have you both read the book and then meet up. Hopefully that will help you bridge the gap... Edited September 19, 2011 by Mack05
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