HeavenOrHell Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Said bye to him this morning after an amazing 4 days together, I don't feel too sad (yet) as I'm so happy from spending time with him, the best time I've had with him so far, we packed a lot in and I felt closer than ever to him. I have hope for us, even after the recent disappointment of now not knowing if/when we can close the distance. Looks like we both want to continue regardless, for as long as we're both happy anyway. Hopefully we can meet every 6 weeks, rather than every 8, which is bearable, and just see how things go. I'm on a high from seeing him, I feel infused with love! I know the next few days will be hard though, the reality setting in, apart again, I'm going to keep busy with work and friends. As hard as it is, I feel lucky to have him as my partner, and even if we're apart most of the time, it is worth it for the times we are together, and I feel so close to him when we're apart, he is my other half and I don't want to be without him. Already looking forward to going over to see him
madjac74 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I'm glad you had a great time with your BF, HOH! I'm also glad you are back at the loveshack with us! I am so jealous of you right now though. I bet you have one of those awesome love hangovers
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I was corny enough to say 'I feel infused with love', so yeah huge love hangover I'll PM you later I'm glad you had a great time with your BF, HOH! I'm also glad you are back at the loveshack with us! I am so jealous of you right now though. I bet you have one of those awesome love hangovers
madjac74 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I was corny enough to say 'I feel infused with love', so yeah huge love hangover I'll PM you later That is very corny and I also vomitted in my mouth a little! haha jk! Yes you better PM me later! I want to hear all the disgusting details of your 4 day love fest. And I have a few things to tell you about my SO as well
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 haha!! Will def PM you later! That is very corny and I also vomitted in my mouth a little! haha jk! Yes you better PM me later! I want to hear all the disgusting details of your 4 day love fest. And I have a few things to tell you about my SO as well
wild_urge Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 haha!! Will def PM you later! Ooooh, we get to miss the fun part
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Yes! Ooooh, we get to miss the fun part
folieadeux Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Glad you had such a great trip HOH!!! I just got back from mine as well.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 Aw I'm sure you had a wonderful time as well When will you next see him? Glad you had such a great trip HOH!!! I just got back from mine as well.
Els Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 That's amazing to hear, HOH! Glad you had a great time.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Thanks Elsywth. Very tired now, not sleeping well since he's gone.
folieadeux Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 Aw I'm sure you had a wonderful time as well When will you next see him? We haven't set a date yet but we're thinking sometime next month so not too far away! Have you decided when you'll see each other next? I know what you mean about the not sleeping well thing...the first night sleeping alone again is the worst. I'm very thankful for pillows and stuffed animals.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 End of October/beginning of November hopefully. Feeling low now, really grumpy, hormones don't help, plus the fact he copes with the distance better, or so it seems, making me think he's not missing me, although I know it's just that he doesn't show his emotions much. I feel lonely. We haven't set a date yet but we're thinking sometime next month so not too far away! Have you decided when you'll see each other next? I know what you mean about the not sleeping well thing...the first night sleeping alone again is the worst. I'm very thankful for pillows and stuffed animals.
folieadeux Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 End of October/beginning of November hopefully. Feeling low now, really grumpy, hormones don't help, plus the fact he copes with the distance better, or so it seems, making me think he's not missing me, although I know it's just that he doesn't show his emotions much. I feel lonely. I'm in the exact same boat right now, but trying not to let the negativity overcome me. Hope you're doing a bit better today.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 Yes, thanks, not as bad atm, was partly hormonal nonsense, but he's been really sweet! Hope you are all right? Just feel so up and down after visits; on a high from seeeing him but missing him at the same time, you know how it is Also hoping every 6 weeks will be possible, me going there every 12 weeks and him coming here every 12 weeks, it might not be possible for him workwise, I mean it wouldn't be more than 7 weeks, but 6 weeks feels more bearable/doable to me. Insomnia is pretty awful since he left, does it affect you sleepwise? I'm in the exact same boat right now, but trying not to let the negativity overcome me. Hope you're doing a bit better today.
folieadeux Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 I'm doing okay thanks...just getting anxious more than anything else right now to setup another visit. He's taking it in stride as always. Every six weeks is totally doable...I feel like by the time you get back and get everything organized...it's time to plan the next trip and pack all over again! I'm sleeping a bit better now but the first night after is just...weird. It's horrible going from doing everything together for however long to living by my cell phone and going to bed alone. I swear once we bridge the gap I'm using my phone as little as possible!
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 23, 2011 Author Posted September 23, 2011 I'm a bit concerned he'll say every 6 weeks isn't doable for him and that I'll take it that he's not too bothered waiting longer Whereas realistically it might be work issues preventing him/us. He might say let's stick to every 8 weeks. But I don't want that, seeing as we are doing this indefinitely. I've sent him a message about it. Would every 8 weeks seem harder than 6 weeks to you? Or am I just being silly? Glad you're doing ok, and good luck with planning the next trip, I need to do that soon to go over to his. They care as much though don't they even though they don't show it as much, hope so anyway, I feel he does, he knows I find his lack of emotions at times difficult. Glad you're sleeping better now, hope I am soon too I'm doing okay thanks...just getting anxious more than anything else right now to setup another visit. He's taking it in stride as always. Every six weeks is totally doable...I feel like by the time you get back and get everything organized...it's time to plan the next trip and pack all over again! I'm sleeping a bit better now but the first night after is just...weird. It's horrible going from doing everything together for however long to living by my cell phone and going to bed alone. I swear once we bridge the gap I'm using my phone as little as possible!
folieadeux Posted September 23, 2011 Posted September 23, 2011 Hope you're having a good night. Yeah, I wish these men would show it a bit more sometimes but that's just how it goes I suppose. There definitely is a huge difference between six and eight weeks...at least for me. In an LDR, two extra weeks might as well be two extra years. In a local relationship I wouldn't give waiting two weeks for something a second thought. But when you only see each other a few times a year, every hour means the world. I think it's good you sent him a message about it...I hope he sees it as we do.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 24, 2011 Author Posted September 24, 2011 Thank you Sleeping badly still, I'm making it worse by staying up much too late though Good to hear you'd find 8 weeks a lot harder than 6 weeks too! Does seem to make a big difference, although not for couples who can only meet every few months or once a year If that makes sense, I mean they'd think us lucky whether it's 6 or 8 weeks, which is true! My partner was great, he said seeing each other every 6 weeks sounds lovely and that it's not like he doesn't want to see me more often So we're going to give it a try How are you doing? Hope you're having a good night. Yeah, I wish these men would show it a bit more sometimes but that's just how it goes I suppose. There definitely is a huge difference between six and eight weeks...at least for me. In an LDR, two extra weeks might as well be two extra years. In a local relationship I wouldn't give waiting two weeks for something a second thought. But when you only see each other a few times a year, every hour means the world. I think it's good you sent him a message about it...I hope he sees it as we do.
folieadeux Posted September 25, 2011 Posted September 25, 2011 I'm so glad he had such a positive reaction to your suggestion!!!!! That must feel really good and a BIG relief for sure. I know what you mean too...I feel bad complaining about how long I have to wait to see my SO when I know others have to wait months or even years to see theirs. Puts everything in perspective I suppose...but it's still tough not seeing the person you love as much as you want to. I've been staying up way too late too. I go through stages of it. It's back again, lol. I'll be doing stupid stuff too like watching some random movie on TV or going online. Then I wake up tired and mad at myself. Other than that I've been hanging in. I'm just waiting for him to get his holiday approval at work next week so we can organize our next visit. It'll be the longest week ever.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 Thank you I hit a bit of a slump a few says after he left, usually happens Still getting to bed late, and annoyed with myself because of it, just want to stay up and talk to him. And not go to bed cos he's not in it I wake up tired and mad at myself too Are you getting to bed any earlier now? It's ok though, I'm doing fine really. Time to plan our next visit, hopefully end of Oct. Have you got a date for next visit sorted? I'm so glad he had such a positive reaction to your suggestion!!!!! That must feel really good and a BIG relief for sure. I know what you mean too...I feel bad complaining about how long I have to wait to see my SO when I know others have to wait months or even years to see theirs. Puts everything in perspective I suppose...but it's still tough not seeing the person you love as much as you want to. I've been staying up way too late too. I go through stages of it. It's back again, lol. I'll be doing stupid stuff too like watching some random movie on TV or going online. Then I wake up tired and mad at myself. Other than that I've been hanging in. I'm just waiting for him to get his holiday approval at work next week so we can organize our next visit. It'll be the longest week ever.
folieadeux Posted September 30, 2011 Posted September 30, 2011 Howdy HOH, I'm still getting to bed sorta late...but I've been content with things so far and am mostly awake doing unrelated, stupid things like catching up on errands or watching a bad movie on TV. We were hoping for an October visit, but it looks like it'll be the beginning of November instead. I'm actually doing okay with the minor set back because the start of October is tomorrow so I'll only have about four weeks to wait...yeah, I'm trying to stay positive with this hahaha. Have fun planning your trip...that's always the time I have the most fun...besides being on the trip of course!
Gold Pile Posted October 4, 2011 Posted October 4, 2011 Said bye to him this morning after an amazing 4 days together, I don't feel too sad (yet) as I'm so happy from spending time with him, the best time I've had with him so far, we packed a lot in and I felt closer than ever to him. I have hope for us, even after the recent disappointment of now not knowing if/when we can close the distance. Looks like we both want to continue regardless, for as long as we're both happy anyway. Hopefully we can meet every 6 weeks, rather than every 8, which is bearable, and just see how things go. I'm on a high from seeing him, I feel infused with love! I know the next few days will be hard though, the reality setting in, apart again, I'm going to keep busy with work and friends. As hard as it is, I feel lucky to have him as my partner, and even if we're apart most of the time, it is worth it for the times we are together, and I feel so close to him when we're apart, he is my other half and I don't want to be without him. Already looking forward to going over to see him He won't go six weeks without sex (unless he is real bd looking). You will be ONE of his ladies, not THEEE one.
FitChick Posted October 5, 2011 Posted October 5, 2011 He won't go six weeks without sex (unless he is real bd looking). You will be ONE of his ladies, not THEEE one. Most of the men on this forum go six months without sex.
Author HeavenOrHell Posted October 5, 2011 Author Posted October 5, 2011 (edited) Nice of you to say so, thanks for your astounding nugget of wisdom He won't go six weeks without sex (unless he is real bd looking). You will be ONE of his ladies, not THEEE one. Edited October 5, 2011 by HeavenOrHell
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