IREGRETIT Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Ok. So please people give me advice. Ive been dating my bf for the past year hes 20 and im 19. He broke up with me 2 days ago because i was dumb enough to kinda cheat on him. I have a friend on facebook. This guy was drunk and he asked me to send him a private pic of myself and he would do the same. So i sent it to his phone and he sent one back. My bf logged onto my profile to check something out from his and he found the conversation. The next day he came over and acted like nothing was wrong but then he confronted me about it. And i denied it all. He had proof though he took pictures of the conversation with his phone and showed them to me. I told him it wasnt me but then he searched my phone and found the picture. He was so sad i had never seen him cry and i hate myself for hurting him. I love him so much still and i need to get him back. He told me to move on and forget about him but i know hes only saying those things cuz hes still angry and hurt. Has anybody been in a situation like this? Any success stories on how to get him back? Please i dont wanna lose him. Hes really important to me.
name goeshere Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I would stop being friend with the other guy. He will not trust you with him still around. Give him time to recover before trying to fix anything. Send a message on facebook to the drunk guy telling him you can't be friends with him anymore because of that happening.
insaneinthebrain Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 yikes.... I mean .. the real issue here is that you sent the other guy the private picture... i mean ..... you know.. its really emotional cheating...its not kind of cheating.. it is cheating... I dont know.... if he was really that mad about it .. then i dont think your gonna get him back.... i am sorry it sucks... but you have to realize to to him it looks like you were seeking physical attention from somewhere else..not from him.. that kind of breaks the boudaries of a commited relationship... Sucks .. i know.... but your best bet is to give a little bit of time... and to be completely honest with him.... it might also help if you agree to give up your privacy.... your phone, your passwords, so that he can kind of check up on you ... the problem is that he wont trust you ever with stuff like this... and i know it was just flirting to you .. but ... to him it was a sever betrayal.. sorry...
name goeshere Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 That's why I said to tell the guy through facebook that you can't talk to him anymore. your boyfriend WILL check up on you and if he sees that it is better for him but do not make it obvious you want him to see that message.
Author IREGRETIT Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Idk what i was thinking. I mean this was the first serious relationship ive had. I know i screwed up and i know its cheating. Idk why i did it maybe i was being a lil curious and not thinkin gbout the consequences. Im trying to give hime time to think. But at the same time all the waiting is killing me inside. I already deleted the guy from facebook and from my contacts list. And he already knows all my passwords to everything. Hopefully if i keep praying and give him more time things just might work out.
name goeshere Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Hopefully it works out for you. Did you just delete the guy off facebook or did you block him?
Author IREGRETIT Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I just deleted him. I didnt think about blocking him good idea though. But i really hope things will work out between us. Lately weve been texting talking about other stuff. I told him how i finally got ot spend some time with my family yesterday whom i havent seen since about 2 weeks ago when i moved out. And i told him that i need him to be at my graduation in october due to the fact that he was th ebiggest help to me while i was in college. I wont be able to enjoy it if hes not there. He told me hes glad that i finally made peace with my parents. And that i finally officially got all my last paperwork done at school today. Ive been tryin to keep off subject of what happened for a while. In the mean time whatever i can talk to him about is good enough for me.
gbadboy Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 My ex and I broke up but we maintained this weird friendship relationship thing. In my mind I was single, in his mind he wasn't. I began hookin up with ppl and one day he stole my phone, broke into the password and read ALL my messages.......... then threw it in my face that i cheated. It was an invasion of privacy and to break into my phone while we're not together isn't cool. Ive since tried to make ammends and we did make some progress........but when he asked me out again i rejected him . At the end of the day, I have promised him access to my phone, messages and would give him all my facebook passwords...........id even delete everything and give him any thing he wanted......i wouldn't mind givin up my privacy for him to prove i have nothing to hide.
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