eastcoastgirl02 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I dated this guy for about 3 months before I moved out of state. We went through this period where for the next 7 months we weren't dating but we werent friends. Well things got really different with us, he started seeing this other girl without telling me and then out of othe blue got cold and distant. I probably protrayed myself as clingy which was not on purpose as he did not tell me he moved on. I confronted him and things ended between us, but more negatively. Its been about 1.5 months now and I havent contacted him...I am one where I need closure and end things on a positive note which did not happen. Can it still be possible to be friends with an ex? We were never that serious. Or is there a way where I can make him meet up with me one last time for coffee or something to get my closure? I believe he is still seeing that girl, so I don't know how keen he would be about that. But my intentions are 100% platonic.
grkBoy Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I think you really need to look at the situation from his viewpoint. So I'm correct, you two dated for a few months, but then he moved away...yet you two stay in touch as long-distant friends. Now he's dating a new girl and either is too busy to give you attention or she's the jealous type and thus he's worried that staying in touch with you will make a mess of his RL. I hate that word "closure". Even when you say it, it sounds more like "I want to see him once more and try to fight for our friendship...or even more". I believe you when you say your intentions are platonic, but I have long distant friends. We go through times when we talk every week on the phone, and then go weeks or months without much more than an occasional email. I think you should simply let this go, deal with your friends and social life in your neck of the woods, and move on.
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