country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 My condition doesnt have a name because there were not enough cases of the condition nor test subjects and such to actually define the condition. But I thought you said that about 500 people are reported to have this medical condition. Even the most rare of conditions have a name. And you claim to be in med school but the crude way you've described your symptoms just isn't jiving with me, sorry.
country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 i know for a fact that there are people out there that have rare medical conditions all the time.. IT DOES HAPPEN.. Sure there are, but these rare conditions have some kind of a name. I've worked in health care for 25 years and I can assure you of this.
Author tyra231 Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I honestly dont see why I would troll on something this serious. But thankyou, I have always been a sickly child. Ever since birth. I honestly dont care if anyone thinks im a troll because theyre not in my shoes. Can I see country girl's point of view? Yes I can but I have my own way of describing things that sometimes suck. Deal with it? If you think im trolling about something this serious then dont reply. Simple. Im not here to make people happy, im here for advice.
Author tyra231 Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I do give him oral sex but I dont ever think i'll be ready to have anal sex....ever. But it's hard going and actually getting advice from counseling. I dont want to think my self esteem is low cause im know im pretty and amazing but just not enough for him.
country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 (edited) I honestly dont see why I would troll on something this serious. But thankyou, I have always been a sickly child. Ever since birth. I honestly dont care if anyone thinks im a troll because theyre not in my shoes. Can I see country girl's point of view? Yes I can but I have my own way of describing things that sometimes suck. Deal with it? If you think im trolling about something this serious then dont reply. Simple. Im not here to make people happy, im here for advice. You've always been a sickly child? That's a strange thing for a now ADULT to write; would have expected you to write, "I WAS always a sickly child." But anyhoo, a quick search on Google and guess what? You must have a clone out there posting on other forums of late, same name, also alleging to be in "med school." Here's one asking why it's wrong for 19 yr old tyra231 to want to date a 14 yr old kid, arguing with a priest who responded no less......how "she" plans to become a surgeon, much like you *cough cough* claim here (pg 2 of thread below) Troll much? http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/like-person-who-younger-than-me-595032.html Edited September 19, 2011 by country_gurl
Author tyra231 Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I dont know? Im not 19 and that girl sounds fake-ish. I dont like a 14 yr old. The name I had wanted here was taken. To be honest I barely got into med school so how would I be able to do any of that? She doesnt work or anything like that. But country girl are you going to give me or just say im a troll? Question is though why would a troll have the same exact name if they were trolling on different websites? I thought they usually changed their names. And dont trolls evoke emotional responses or something? All I came for was advice.
rafallus Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 No, I would never leave him but he can get and have any woman he wants but why would he want someone as broken as me? I want whats best for him. His whole family doesnt like me at all and they tell him he shouldve gotten with a real woman and they tell him this to my face and I ask him why didnt he get with a real woman who could truly make him happy for the rest of his life but he never answers. I dont care if I come off shallow because I look at it from his point of view. In less than 5 years he'll want kids. He DOES NOT believe in adopting at all while I do. He might love me now but what about in 5, or 10, or 15 years when I truly have nothing to offer him? Does he even know of all this internal battle of insecurities you have? Have you tried airing it out to him? If he's such a good guy, then maybe he would reassure you, that yes, you are good enough for him, and he picked you specifically, even though he could have any other girl.
betterdeal Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Cheating on your husband is a realistic ambition. It would be much harder to cheat on me, for example, as you and I have no obligations to each other.
Bryanp Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 If your husband suffered some horrible illness would you leave him because you knew you could do better? Do your marriage vows have any meaning to you whatsoever?
Bryanp Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 One last thing. Your husband would never believe that you cheated on him due to your condition. He just would never buy it.
seren Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Your medical condition has me perplexed, doesn't sound like anything I have ever heard of, however, I am assuming any affair you had would have to be an emotional affair, or at the very least, a non intercourse affair, given that you are unable to have sex with your husband. Relationships are not all about sex, you do your husband a great diservice by thinking he doesn't want you because you are unable to have intercourse, is he really that shallow? You say that he knew you had a medical condition when you married, that he loves you and that you love him, you are one very lucky woman and shouldn't repay him by being dishonest. If you are that unhappy then leave, there is nothing anyone can do to make you remain married. I understand having low self esteem due to illness, I have regular meltdowns about being chronically ill and think that my H would be better off without me. That hurts him so very, very much and when these times happen, my apologies are for my not realising that he is where he wants to be and that the problem is usually of my own making. I do not understand how you can say you want to cheat on your husband so he will divorce you, I also think that you should read how some of the OW/OM on this site have been hurt by a MP using them. It isn't fair to anyone, not least yourself. Get help, if your autoimmune isn't treatable then get help to learn to live with it, has anyone suggested stem cell therapy, there are a lot of AI illnesses that can be helped by this. if there are tests and trials available, find out who the researcher is, get proactive, take charge of your illness and depression and please, do not hurt your H or the potential OM by having an A.
nofool4u Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Hello, I want to cheat on my husband so he will leave me. Thats the only way he will divorce me. Im not giving my story right away as it is very depressing. I may sound selfish you won't SOUND selfish, you ARE selfish. Whats stopping you from divorcing him? Absolutely NOTHING. ya thats it, cheat on him and put the burden on him to divorce. real nice. but I think cheating will be what's best for the both of us. bull lady. you want to cheat so you get your fun out of it. being cheated on is not fun, but I deduct you don't care if it hurts him. be a woman and have the guts to file for divorce yourself. I know that some of you will be against me cheating no matter what the story is but while I want to at the same time something keeps holding me back. Am I crazy for feeling this way? yes, you are crazy for feeling that way. nobody in their right mind decides to mentally abuse someone by cheating whether intentional or not.
nofool4u Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 My husband is a great guy, is assertive when need be, caring when he needs to be and even works and pays all the bills while im in med school. The problem(s) are that I dont feel like i'm good enough for him. nice try. you are trying to garner sympathy here. you want to cheat because you want it, plain and simple. you want to have sex with other men, and also don't want to be married any longer so you can be single. so be single and file for divorce.
nofool4u Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 My condition doesnt have a name because there were not enough cases of the condition nor test subjects and such to actually define the condition. ok, a vagina eating condition with no name. I think we have been fished in. too bad I can't delete the other posts.
country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 ok, a vagina eating condition with no name. I think we have been fished in. too bad I can't delete the other posts. Read my post on the bottom of page 2. "tyra231" is definitely a troll.
jthorne Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I dont want to think my self esteem is low cause im know im pretty and amazing but just not enough for him.If the first two attributes you could think of to describe yourself are pretty and amazing, then you do have a self esteem problem.
country_gurl Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 ^^^^Don't waste your time responding. The OP is a busted troll. Read the entire thread and all responses here and you'll read it for yourself.
jthorne Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 ^^^^Don't waste your time responding. The OP is a busted troll. Read the entire thread and all responses here and you'll read it for yourself.I read it and responded anyway. I'd argue that most people that troll forums have self esteem problems.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I want to cheat on my husband so he will leave me. Thats the only way he will divorce me. Am I crazy for feeling this way? No, of course not, that is indeed a widely popular ploy for those too entirely unwilling to initiate a break-up on their own. (of course it only multiplies the related concerns by some giant number) But it is rather 'normal' (for those who dabble in those areas)
Author tyra231 Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 So I come back after a long day of school for this, any who, do I care you think i'm a troll? Nope, what reason do I have to troll? Plus if you want information just message me and if you want i'll let you into my personal life. You can see ALL of my precious information regarding my health from the time I was born till now. If i'm willing to let you see my health records then why would I troll? And if you say yes then that says something about you as a person. Does my story sound really bad and farfetched? Yes it does. I'm not going to lie about that but honestly even if you dont believe me god knows the truth and so do i.Would that make you all happy? I did talk to my husband and he called me stupid and foolish. He said i'm too caught up in what people think about me that im ruining my life. He said he doesn't want to deal with me if i dont get my act together. So now i'm thinking about what is best for him and i and things of that nature.
rafallus Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I did talk to my husband and he called me stupid and foolish. **** that, I'm calling troll as well.
Chi townD Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 (edited) So, your answer to all of this is to cheat on him first before he cheats on you...is that about right? You found a very rare thing, something that most women are STILL looking for...you found a guy that loves you for you, loves you even with all the medical problems you're having and has been by your side every step of the way. He'll forego having children with you because he decided that YOU are all the family he needs, he would probably fall in love with the idea of adopting children with you. He doesn't push himself on you and is completely understanding of your situation. What you have there is a rare breed, one of that last of the "good guys" and HE'S YOURS!!! And you want to throw him away rather than fightfor him. You seem very depressed, low self esteem and have a bad opinion of yourself. You need to see a therapist, DO NOT CHEAT ON HIM. HE'S DONE NOTHING TO DESERVE THAT! A good therapist will help you through the rough patches within yourself. There are sex therapist that can help you two with your unique sitauation so that sex can be enjoyable for both of you to have that deep connection between the two of you. You may not think that sex can be enjoyable for you given your condition, but you never know until you try! He or she may have some ideas that you may never have thought of. Sex isn't just about getting each others rocks off, sex is the most deepest and loving way to communicate with each other. To physically show each other how much you're in love with them; thus, the term "making love" rather than just screwing. Big difference between the two. Don't cheat and don't give up. Seek help, and don't lose a good man. Edited September 20, 2011 by Chi townD
confusedinkansas Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 My condition doesnt have a name because there were not enough cases of the condition nor test subjects and such to actually define the condition. Did he know about this condition prior to marrying you? IF He did - then I say you probably could use some therapy. You feel guilty & need someone to help you with that. If HE has no problem with it -- & wants to stay married.....well I say you got a good guy there. Get some help. Also, how do you plan to have an affair if you have this condition? What man (that you aren't married to - or doesn't already know about this 'condition' ) would stay with you in an affair? "Fun Affair - Every Time We Have Sex We End Up In The E.R." .... does this make sense? Kinda don't think another guy would welcome the trip to the ER. Especially if he has a wife or significant other too. That'd be fun to explain. That's the part that I think makes this a possible Troll. How do you have sex with someone else - AKA: AN AFFAIR - If you can't have sex anyway?
Mme. Chaucer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 Has your vagina been entirely eaten yet?
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