MIK1000 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 It's now been 6 weeks since my ex told me we were on a break, then two weeks later told me she was with someone else. So a month on I'm finally feeling better about it all and my broken heart mending. Went out last night with some mates and ended up going back with a pretty hot girl, not only that but she's a good friend of my ex's best friend and I'm sure word will get round. The difference from how I felt yesterday to how i feel today is like night and day. I'm thinking about my ex about 75 per cent less and not craving her body or reminiscing about our past sexual experiences. I feel great and feel like I'm not interested/imagining getting back with my ex in the future if the possibility arises where as yesterday I was thinking the opposite. I'm sure lots of you will say that moving on to casual sex with someone else this soon is a bad idea but I seem to feel great at the moment and have a lot more clarity about my future.
eleanorhurting Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 read my post... and think it through
Mcnulty Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I disagree. We're all individuals, (as the crowd said in Life of Brian), all heal at different paces. Different variables that interject into our lives and psyche can help us psychologically. Hey don't knock the guy, he's doing what's best for him and as of now it's working for HIM...maybe not the right route for all, but it's right for him. Good luck MIK.
Author MIK1000 Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Maybe my age has something to do with it. I'm only 20 so really should be looking to enjoy being single rather than be in anything too serious anyway so maybe I'm making up for lost time. I was making alot of progress leading up to last night and It didn't feel wrong at all while I was having sex with her and I just enjoyed it.
Dark Phoenix Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I disagree. We're all individuals, (as the crowd said in Life of Brian), all heal at different paces. Different variables that interject into our lives and psyche can help us psychologically. Hey don't knock the guy, he's doing what's best for him and as of now it's working for HIM...maybe not the right route for all, but it's right for him. Good luck MIK. didn't mean to "knock the guy", he's moving in the right direction in the sense of ridding himself of his "need" of her physically. but these casual acts will not melt away the emotional bonds that were created, temporary fix.
Author MIK1000 Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 I disagree. We're all individuals, (as the crowd said in Life of Brian), all heal at different paces. Different variables that interject into our lives and psyche can help us psychologically. Hey don't knock the guy, he's doing what's best for him and as of now it's working for HIM...maybe not the right route for all, but it's right for him. Good luck MIK. Thanks, I'm just getting by, as long as I keep feeling better week after week, I don't see the problem and if I feel great today then so be it, hopefully it will last til tomorrow but if not I felt great for a day.
mike588 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 If thats whats makes you feel better and you think it helps your healing go for it. Just be careful.
eleanorhurting Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t298240/
wilsonx Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Elanor, there is a huge difference here Women need emotional security. Thats why it hurt for you. Guys need physical security. It might feel empty the first couple times but it gets better. I think what OP wants to do is perfectly fine, sow the wild oats so to speak. One thing I do caution is to not catch feelings or you are in trouble. I mean big trouble. The rest of you posters that have never done this yourself, dont say its a bad idea.
Cypress25 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Wow, it must be great to be a guy and be able to fix everything with a meaningless one-night stand.
Dark Phoenix Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Wow, it must be great to be a guy and be able to fix everything with a meaningless one-night stand. Not this guy, unfortunately. sure would make things a lot easier.
wilsonx Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 (edited) Wow, it must be great to be a guy and be able to fix everything with a meaningless one-night stand. Doesnt fix everything, takes more then one night, still have to go through the healing process just like anyone else, helps refocus the mind at least for some Not this guy, unfortunately. sure would make things a lot easier. Dont knock it till you try it one-i-tus... you had your chance with farm girl but you blew it Edited September 19, 2011 by wilsonx
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