esmeralda Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) I'd been dating a guy for about three months. He was very into me (moreso than I was) wanted to get serious with me quickly and for me to open up. He soon realised I have an eating disorder (ED) and wanted to help. He got me to make great efforts towards recovery but I'm not there yet - it takes more than a couple of months! I also have problems with insecurity. I assumed because he wanted me to open up that I should - but yesterday he said he couldn't cope with being my shrink, in addition to his stressful job. We've been arguing for a few weeks due to my ED, and we sort of ended up in the roles of psychiatrist and patient. He said that he either "wants to split up or wants to take a break for a few months". He said he still likes me (but doesn't like certain things about me), and loves me, but he wants me to go get proper help for my ED. The conversation resulting in him wanting to have a break/split up for a month - no contact for fours weeks. We clarified that we won't be hooking up with anyone else - he specifically said that this would mean we're over. Obviously as it's only three months I'm not devastated. I'm upset, and it's primarily because I saw real potential in the relationship. He's a good, genuine guy, and worth the wait and effort. I can pinpoint the problems, and I think time to myself will be beneficial too. I've been asking him to back off from my ED for a while, and the space will be good for me. I'm really looking to get some opinions from others about this situation. What do you think about "breaks"? And this situation? Does what he say sound realistic/truthful? Any thoughts would be hugely appreciated. Thanks a lot in advance. Edited September 18, 2011 by esmeralda
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