what does it mean when she breaks up with you after valentines day

[goonying11]

we met for dinner , we had instant attraction on our blind date. week following she couldnt wait to see me again and came over to my apt.

 

we had dinner and then amazing sex. and then it was like that every week or two she came by on thanksgiving , on christmas , on new years on valentines day - we had sex like 3 to 5 times morning, afternon, night , middle of nignt. She said it was the best sex she ever had over all her previous boyfriends - and shes had 20 times more then I , she had her first sexual experience when she was like 14 and moved in with her boyfriend at 16 on top of her parents house. I didnt have my first sex experience until I was like 25.

 

she lives 1 1/2 hour away works on nights and weekends mostly and I work 8 -5 to weekdays so meeting isnt easy. she has a 16 year old daughter , I dont have any kids. at start of dating she said shes been waiting for me all her life to meet someone like me, and talked about moving in together

getting , she has a house up near the lakes in the mountains. I lost mine in the stock and housing crash and havent rebought yet. Then she came over on valenties day , we had great sex as usual and since she lived in the mountains 2 weeks later she was going to come over on Saturday and she got snowed in. then she changed her mind and never came to visit me again and we broke up. it all started when I stupidly mentioned that the 3 loafs of pumpkin bread she baked for me the last time she visited one was under cooked and I put it in the oven to make it taste better ( so stupid of me to say something like that ) she saw it as ungrateful of me as a person. personally I think it was just an excuse to break up with me and then she went on to that 20years ago she would have change her life to be with me but now she loves her life and cant change her life for me.

 

weve emailed each other daily for the last 6 months with hundreds of emails but she says I just dont do it for her anymore and that we have nothing in common ( maybe from all the emails ) and that all we ever did was have sex ( I guess because of the economy I couldnt take her to fancy places or cruises or travel to distant lands etc.) .

 

I was a millionaire for awhile and lost everything in the housing and market crash - she still hangs around with alot of wealthy people and I am sure its a life style she doesnt want to let go of.

 

is it really me or is it the money - she even says I dont do it for her anymore like now the sex she says was so great - wasnt.

 

are women this insensitive that lack of money now makes the sex less then it was before - or so women hold it against you for saying a stupid thing like the loaf of pumpkin bread you baked for them was under cooked.

 

I cant be rich anymore , and I cant be anyone but myself - should I just move on and forget about her - and just stop emailing her altogether.

 

and just meet someone else - not its that easy these days - I may have Don Juan looks not no Don Juan personality - I rather just find someone thats loyal wants to just be with me and not all those things I can do for them - I always thought that was all that mattered and the excitement, the traveling and places and etc were just nice icing on the cake things and not the deal breakers in relationship - do women need that much more when they get older where youre no longer enough.

 

you can see shes was more important to me then I to her.

 

and in the beginning I wasnt that 100% sure I could love her because there are differences between us.

[Dark Phoenix]

Sorry if this offends any of the ladies out there.

 

 

More and more women are becoming like that. They base love off of materialistic concepts (trips, money, nice house, expensive lifestyle) and a woman that looks at what really matters is a rare find. After reading your post I'm beginning to come up with theories that are probably sexist (again, I'm sorry ladies) only from reading some of the posts here on LS and hearing about several of my friends' breakups. Now I'm hoping I can set a balance in this theory because I'm sure men are becoming more materialistic as well.