watermelonjuice Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I'm a few steps ahead myself when I meet people online that don't quite match what I think to be "conventional." Like if I meet someone younger (I'm into older men), I would hesitate to meet in person worrying that I would end up with someone not what I thought I wanted. Or if I meet someone divorced with kids, I would already be concerned there would be his kids coming over on weekends. Should I stop boxing myself in? How do I go back to enjoying dating?
Author watermelonjuice Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Anyone has any comment about this?
country_gurl Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Why make it complicated? If you prefer men that are older, or who have no (?small) kids, then simply ensure you only communicate with men who meet this criteria. It's your right to be true to what you're looking for (or aren't looking for) so why stress?
Dorie Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 You don't sound like you're limiting yourself. It appears that you're defining your preferences and with the examples given, they sound reasonable. If dating for dating's sake is enjoyable to you, relax thoughts of the future and enjoy the moment. Date whomever seems interesting. However, if you're looking for a life-partner, paying attention to such things sounds quite intelligent.
Author watermelonjuice Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 The problem with me is that while I know what I want, I'm not always selective. I believe in giving people an opportunity and the no harm trying idea. Because if I don't give people those opportunities or try, I'll never know, right? I hate myself for being contradictory, in words and actions. Help!
FitChick Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 But you don't want to waste their time either if they are not what you are looking for.
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