antinko Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I couldn't think of a more specific title sorry. Ok, so I've been dating this wonderful girl for the past month and things are going well. We really like each other a lot and I think we're moving towards being comfortable with the term 'couple' assigned to us. We both have full productive lives as individuals and share very similar outlooks on life. We're also both fed up of having our time wasted in previous relationships and we're, well, extremely attracted to each other... Anyway, we live about 1 hour away from each other and we see each other about once per week which is fine for now. The problem...well, not problem per se, but something which is on my mind, is that we're growing closer together and we miss each other somewhat more with each parting. I am in a good position to move out of my parents' house now and have decided to rent a while before I buy a home. With the current condition of home buying in the UK, I'm in no real rush to commit to a mortgage. I briefly mentioned to the girl that I would probably move closer to her, but I didn't want it to sound too full on. I mean, we've been going out for a month and I really don't want to make it feel like a race. I really like her; she really likes me and currently we have a good thing going. I'd like it to continue obviously. She said it'd make things easier if we were closer so I took that as a good sign. Moving closer to her would mean moving further away from work, which is fine, but I'm conscious that it could possibly look like I'm neglecting work in order to chase a girl...or is that being too harsh on myself? Basically, I'd like to be closer to her and she would too, but I don't want to rush. Could someone advise on what they believe reasonable course of action to take would be? Presently, I'm looking at a town which would put her 40 minutes from me and same with work. I would consider moving a bit closer to her as I've done 1 hour commutes to work before, but, as I indicated, I don't want it to look like I'm putting all my eggs in one basket and making work look less important because that wouldn't be the case. Oh, it's not really possible for her to move closer to me right now. She has a very young daughter and she works full time too, as well as having her existing support network close by. Since I have been living with my parents and am more flexible on where I go, I have no problem moving closer to her. Anyway, all this might sound a bit silly, but I'm just putting it out there because I want to make the best choice. P.S I would have put this in the LDR forum but I don't feel like 1 hour drive is particularly LD...it's just a bit inconvenient sometimes.
Recommended Posts