Buttercup84 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I was looking at some photos of myself on fb , before I met my ex , while he was still good to me and when he was being cold and distant . The pictures of when things were still good were so different . I have a glow , my eyes sparkle , my hair looks great and I look groomed . The ones where he wasn't good to me anymore are were my eyes look so sad , dead even . I'm smiling but my eyes are not . I let myself go and from the before photos I see that he was attracted to me. I'm no model , but I see that I was pretty in my way . Then I see my after photos and I look like a ghost . My family and friends all commented how I had no life left in me towards the end . Anyone else relate ?
NordicStripes Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Hey, I know what you're talking about. My family kept telling me I wasn't happy and that my ex was the one responsible for it. I couldn't see that. Now I do. And the thing is, I wasn't strong enough to put my foot down and demand change. Now it's too late... After we broke up I got a lot happier though, I got myself back. I still love him, but if we ever get back together (which he really wants) things will have to be very very different. My family would absolutely mortified if ever took him back though...
mike588 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Oh yea.I looked so happy in pictures of us together,, just a glow. Now I could play a part in a zombie movie without any makeup. God I hate this!!
GinaM Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Now I could play a part in a zombie movie without any makeup. God I hate this!! yep) me too nightmare
tattoo_lover Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I can relate. When we were together, my eyes glowed and smiled when I did. Now, I can smile.. but my eyes... there is nothing there - no emotion.
Mack05 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 You need to get back to that healthy happy girl you were in those photo's. I have no doubt you will buttercup. I think you need to focus on your journal thread and update it more. Even if you take a few steps back. Tick off all the things in your journal and you will get your smile back
mike588 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I hope I'm over crying over her, but it's the invisable tears that are the hardest to wipe away. I often wish that I could lose my mind sometimes,,,, then maybe I'd be free of memories she left behind.
Kageytn Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I've had several friends tell me I look great since my break up. Two of my most perceptive friends have told me I look as if a weight has lifted from me and I look happier than I have in a year. This week is the first week I've actually felt like myself again. I feel like I'm finding my pre relationship self back and I've missed her! I have confidence and plans and energy.
SugarLily Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Buttercup - This is such an interesting post. I actually went on my ex's fb profile this evening (I won't ever again) - just to look through pictures of him. I looked at photo's when we first started seeing each other - and compared them to his most recent pictures. You know what? He looks COMPLETELY different. In the old photo's (many of us together) he looks happy, kind, fun, alive. In the most recent pictures he basically looks like a football thug. Unrecognisable. Obviously I know he is a completely different person then compared to now. As I have previously posted - he went from being literally the perfect boyfriend to being the perfect *******. It scares me how much people can change in two years - it terrifies me. I could never love him for who he is now. I am just insanely in love with the memory of who he was. I've probably been in denial for a long time. It's early days - i'm holding out to see where i'm at in a few months. Buttercup - I can't private message you! Is there any other e-mail I could contact you on? It seemes like our situations are very similar and I would love to talk to you! Lots of love! x x x x
Coupedriver Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Maybe we should make a MOVIE together....!! Man I look like hell...lost 21 pounds...( got my 27 inch waste back though..!!) My eyes are the same way tattoo_lover..really nothing there.I just kind blank stare at people...they know something is wrong..maybe to afraid to ask.I was VERY CLOSE mike588..VERY,VERY close a few weeks ago.I had myself put on suicide watch for 3 days....had to have family stay with me. The thing is....I really didnt care to live.How sad it is for someone to think like that..to let one person PUT you where you would never go otherwise....I need to go for a walk...
ConfusedT Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 i lost a lot of weight. when we first broke up, the pics all looked the same, fake smile, fighting the tears, but now, my smile is coming back and i am coming back. yes, our lives are different without them, but once we get over this, we will be back to our glow.
mike588 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I realized after she dumped me that I was the one wanting pictures of use together. I put the best one on my frig. only to realize now that she had no pictures of us at her place. Another red flag I missed, what was I thinking?
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