futuregopher Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Sorry for a random post but I just got back from the campus bars. This is my last semester at school and my ex of 2 years broke it off with me 1 month ago. I have been NC for almost a week and everyone at the bars doesn't compare. I am not putting her on a pedestal but I am trying to be more picky and not just get with a girl just to get with a girl. Am I just crazy or should I stick to my high standards?
fiat500 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 At this stage of the game, one month IS way too early to look for someone else. We have our exes on a pedestal until we stop comparing everyone else to them. For a relationship that has lasted for a couple of years times vary, but it takes MORE than one month for someone to even start to feel better and get over the other person. It could sometimes be in the six month range. You're clearly not over your ex.
Author futuregopher Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Yes you are right. A part of me is still holding on to memories but the better part of me says to just move on and enjoy life. Last night a few of my friends were actively hitting on girls at the bar and I wanted to too but a part of me just wasn't there yet. At the same time, I feel like I am missing potential opportunities because of this feeling but it's just weird. I'm definitely going to read some "attraction" books and get back in the game even if it feels weird at first.
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