Author USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 You do have astounding awareness... a weakness can certainly glare brightly when surrounded by strengths. Awareness doesn't always yield a lot of power though (beh sometimes it takes it away). But there's always something missing. Sometimes that emptiness is a good driving force towards accomplishments, other times it's draining and it dilutes life... In the end, you have to decide what you really want. Most satisfaction lies in simplicity, appreciating what one already has --- not to say that achieving a long sought over yearning cannot be satisfying. Sharing *life*, many aspects of it, can make it very enjoyable. But life can be shared in numerous ways with numerous people... helping them; taking care of them; raising them; strolling with them; teaching them; etc. If you're going to find a romantic companion, you're going to have to face rejection and prevail over it. You just are. It's good you're exploring other avenues I think (even if they're faaaar less than ideal)... it's some kind of action. Just go go go, and even if you are rejected, TELL yourself it's not personal. Brainwash yourself. You have to change your self-perception, you have to notice when you're beginning to feed it, and you have to veer off in another direction. It's NOT easy to do. But neither is living in want and afraid of it too. You can start by stopping the lies you tell yourself =) Which is all the self-deprecating junk. Things *seem* like self-fulfilling prophecies, but in reality, they are being fulfilled for reasons altogether different than what you think. Good posts onyx...right on point it seems...leaves a lot for me to think about...so thanks.
krz12 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Yes. But they all tend to suck. Hmm, how so?
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I know, you're right...I was going to respond by saying something about how I'll still be Asian no matter how old or young I am, but I know I shouldn't go there, so I won't. Dude, you need to move to a more multi-cultural neighbourhood/Canada. And I know you say you shouldn't go there, but you probably should, this is something you need to get sorted out. Actually, the only time I was ever ashamed of my race was when I met my biological mother when I was 25. Her family emigrated from Germany. She showed me a huge scrap book of everyone in the family from the past. She had pics of her mother's cousins wearing the orange SS armbands in their ridiculous uniforms, I was horrified to see those pictures. She said "oh they were just guards, they never participated in any violence against anyone".... Bull****, I'm a history major, they participated alright.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Hmm, how so? Read the Roosh article, "Why Dating in DC Sucks"...you can probably Google it...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Dude, you need to move to a more multi-cultural neighbourhood/Canada. And I know you say you shouldn't go there, but you probably should, this is something you need to get sorted out. Actually, the only time I was ever ashamed of my race was when I met my biological mother when I was 25. Her family emigrated from Germany. She showed me a huge scrap book of everyone in the family from the past. She had pics of her mother's cousins wearing the orange SS armbands in their ridiculous uniforms, I was horrified to see those pictures. She said "oh they were just guards, they never participated in any violence against anyone".... Bull****, I'm a history major, they participated alright. Oh wow...yea my issue isn't really to that degree...well you know my issue, it needs not be repeated again... Bottom line is that I need to move to your neighborhood, D.
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Oh wow...yea my issue isn't really to that degree...well you know my issue, it needs not be repeated again... Bottom line is that I need to move to your neighborhood, D. Yes, you do- I'm a pasty white minority here:D I just moved into my new place today- My parents have a bathroom at one of their houses larger than my apartment:lmao: It's cool though, I am in a safer neighbourhood, and even though I am living in a little box- I decorated it in quite the cool fashion. Is the U.S. not multi-cultural in DC?
somedude81 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Actually, the only time I was ever ashamed of my race was when I met my biological mother when I was 25. Her family emigrated from Germany. She showed me a huge scrap book of everyone in the family from the past. She had pics of her mother's cousins wearing the orange SS armbands in their ridiculous uniforms, I was horrified to see those pictures. She said "oh they were just guards, they never participated in any violence against anyone".... Bull****, I'm a history major, they participated alright. Getting off-topic but we all come from people who've done horrible things. My ancestors held slaves and slaughtered Natives. Just accept it as history and move on.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 Yes, you do- I'm a pasty white minority here:D I just moved into my new place today- My parents have a bathroom at one of their houses larger than my apartment:lmao: It's cool though, I am in a safer neighbourhood, and even though I am living in a little box- I decorated it in quite the cool fashion. Is the U.S. not multi-cultural in DC? Heh, that sounds lovely. If I'm ever in the neighborhood, I'll be sure to drop by! I personal would prefer a smaller box-like place over a big one...just cozier...and I don't have much stuff in the way of furniture...so it looks better in a smaller place... And it's not that it isn't multi-cultural...quite the opposite...it's relatively diverse...but women in their 20's here seem to have an expectation of the type of guy they rate...and it's not quite so diverse...
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Heh, that sounds lovely. If I'm ever in the neighborhood, I'll be sure to drop by! I personal would prefer a smaller box-like place over a big one...just cozier...and I don't have much stuff in the way of furniture...so it looks better in a smaller place... And it's not that it isn't multi-cultural...quite the opposite...it's relatively diverse...but women in their 20's here seem to have an expectation of the type of guy they rate...and it's not quite so diverse... I actually live in a district a half a block away from what we call "China town". I'm probably 400 square feet- but in such a safer neighbourhood than I was in before. Honestly, I can't imagine the rush to date the white dudes.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 19, 2011 Author Posted September 19, 2011 I actually live in a district a half a block away from what we call "China town". I'm probably 400 square feet- but in such a safer neighbourhood than I was in before. Honestly, I can't imagine the rush to date the white dudes. Oh that's not so bad at all...at least for me...though I could probably live comfortably out of a hotel room...with maybe a little kitchenette...imagine taking someone home to that...hahah... But yea, white's in around here...
D-Lish Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Oh that's not so bad at all...at least for me...though I could probably live comfortably out of a hotel room...with maybe a little kitchenette...imagine taking someone home to that...hahah... But yea, white's in around here... Meh, White is over-rated. Seriously and honestly (except me for me:D) I'm a pasty white catch:lmao:
Stung Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 I agree with D that you should consider moving, Hoke. I have lived in many multi-culti areas along the West Coast, where Asian populations are very high and interracial dating is pretty much the norm. I dated a number of Asian men over the years and nobody thought twice about it, except for some of their old school parents/grandparents. In addition, where I live right now, according to the latest census data available online, the pop stats are roughly 40% white, 30% Asian, 12% Latin and 10% Black with the rest being Native Americans, Pacific Islanders, and Undeclared or Biracial (the actual number of biracial people appears to be a lot higher but from what I've seen many choose just one ethnicity to put down for the forms). I see interracial dating and marriages everywhere I look. Actually, I'm kind of astonished that I wound up married to a white man, myself, since white was not my preference and isn't even really the majority in many of the neighborhoods or cities I've lived in. I haven't read the whole thread but I also strongly agree with some other posters that you should look into therapy. You're such a smart, sympathetic, handsome young guy, I really really hate to see what these issues you have with your own race are doing to you.
eatNrM Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Oh that's not so bad at all...at least for me...though I could probably live comfortably out of a hotel room...with maybe a little kitchenette...imagine taking someone home to that...hahah... But yea, white's in around here... White is 'in' everywhere man. It's perpetuated everywhere, especially in the media. That's why I love being a minority. It's beautiful and different. Embrace it man. What I really love is the 'rumors' a lot of them hear about us haha. I can't tell you how many times I've been told 'hey I hear etc. etc. is it true?' to which I respond 'only one way to find out girl '. I don't think you have many problems man. Maybe things went wrong when you believed something was wrong with you.
U1987 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Isn't that site more about sex than it is about dating? Not even. I've tried AFF; it is the biggest scam-bucket I've ever encountered;. $30 a month, for what? There are 5 guys for every girl, 5 unattractive girls for every attractive girl and probably half of those attractive girl's profiles are fakes set up by AFF to send flirty messages to you JUST when your subscription is about to expire (of course, they ghost when you resubscribe for another month) If you're a guy on AFF, your chances of meeting a girl are probably about 1 out of 5x5x2; 1/50. What a ****ing joke.
Wolf18 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Hey USMC if you speak the language of wherever your ancestors came from, why not try to find a girl there? I can bet they'll appreciate you over there far more than here in the US. Would you really want the typical American princess who won't raise your kids and spend all day eating hagan daas on the couch anyway? Everything in this society's backwards man. Don't blame your race, your height, or any other aspect of you, you are simply living in a sick place. If anything you should be thanking god you're Asian. I'm white and my women don't want me. Where can I run off to for plan B? Just know that there's always someone out there whose got it a lot worse.
Wolf18 Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Good posts onyx...right on point it seems...leaves a lot for me to think about...so thanks. LOL why listen to onyx? She's the one who would reject a guy just for being 1 inch below her ideal height Moving to another big city in America isn't going to do anything for you. And the Asian-American women you're going to be meet are going to probably piss you off even more since most of them would rather date an out of shape retarded looking drug addict tall jewish guy over a handsome successful Asian guy. I live in an Asian neighborhood and see it all the time, it makes me feel for the Asian man. Find yourself a FOB.
You'reasian Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Nothing wrong with being humble about yourself; but love yourself, man. Don't dress yourself as a Jersey Shore type. Be your own man, do your own things and be comfortable being single. Dude, DC has alot of culture. Women there are really cool...
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 LOL why listen to onyx? She's the one who would reject a guy just for being 1 inch below her ideal height Moving to another big city in America isn't going to do anything for you. And the Asian-American women you're going to be meet are going to probably piss you off even more since most of them would rather date an out of shape retarded looking drug addict tall jewish guy over a handsome successful Asian guy. I live in an Asian neighborhood and see it all the time, it makes me feel for the Asian man. Find yourself a FOB. Lies! I will consider someone 3 inches below my ideal height preference... 4 if the person is otherwise particularly intriguing (people wanted me to go below that and below that and... yes). Besides, that's my only freaking deal breaking superficial standard. Race, weight, etc are ultimately irrelevant. Besides, even shallow tards have something to share with others If there's one thing I've learned... it's that EVERYONE has something teach. Yes, that includes you Wolfy
ascendotum Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Not even. I've tried AFF; it is the biggest scam-bucket I've ever encountered;. $30 a month, for what? There are 5 guys for every girl, 5 unattractive girls for every attractive girl and probably half of those attractive girl's profiles are fakes set up by AFF to send flirty messages to you JUST when your subscription is about to expire (of course, they ghost when you resubscribe for another month) If you're a guy on AFF, your chances of meeting a girl are probably about 1 out of 5x5x2; 1/50. What a ****ing joke. It would not surprise me if the odds were higher if you remove all the fake profiles, escorts, scammers & inactives. From the reviews I read on it, its really a scammy outfit. You will likely see the same 'hot' girls in your local area advertised to you when you are in LA. Most women will be non members who you cannot msg unless you upgrade to premium service. And when your subscription is about to expire you will get a flurry of script generated msgs to entice you to stay. Read the instructions very carefully on cancelling your subscription, because I read of a number of people complaining about getting further charges. Give a go since you paid, but don't be shocked if its only 45yr old rosie o'donnell look a likes or gays who contact you. I hope I'm wrong for you (keep us posted). At least you are not deluded that its going to be a sure thing to fun times with sexy women. I relation to hiding your feelings when meeting women...I reckon many dejected guys do this when they meet women, even though I see many people hook on to the negative attitude immediately as the reason why they are having trouble getting a gf. Their true feelings do come out though if they encounter the first sign of resistance/apathy from the woman. Couple of questions for you Hokie. Ever thought about subliminal 'self confidence' cds. Also, I know you have mentioned hanging out with some of your good looking macho marine buddies who score women really easy. I am wondering if you are basing the behaviour + body language of the women these guys shmooze, as to what to expect from a women before asking her out. Waiting to see the overt signs of interest (all touchy feely, laughing at any lame thing you say, sticking her chest out, hip switching, smoothing out her dress, playing with her hair, lip licking, intense eye contact, knocking back their drinks at double pace, crossing + uncrossing her legs to let her skirt ride up, leaning on you to talk, and so on)?
OnyxSnowfall Posted September 19, 2011 Posted September 19, 2011 Nothing wrong with being humble about yourself; but love yourself' date=' man.[/quote'] This. Completely...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 Couple of questions for you Hokie. Ever thought about subliminal 'self confidence' cds. Also, I know you have mentioned hanging out with some of your good looking macho marine buddies who score women really easy. I am wondering if you are basing the behaviour + body language of the women these guys shmooze, as to what to expect from a women before asking her out. Waiting to see the overt signs of interest (all touchy feely, laughing at any lame thing you say, sticking her chest out, hip switching, smoothing out her dress, playing with her hair, lip licking, intense eye contact, knocking back their drinks at double pace, crossing + uncrossing her legs to let her skirt ride up, leaning on you to talk, and so on)? I only act on explicit signs of interest...not even the overt acts you mentioned merely suggesting interest are enough for me...the girl has to practically say that she's interested in going out before I make a move...I guess it was just the way I was conditioned all my life to put what I wanted last... Never tried the self-confidence products...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 [quote=D-Lish;3632300 I'm a pasty white catch:lmao: Hahah, yes you are.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 20, 2011 Author Posted September 20, 2011 I haven't read the whole thread but I also strongly agree with some other posters that you should look into therapy. You're such a smart, sympathetic, handsome young guy, I really really hate to see what these issues you have with your own race are doing to you. Thanks Stung...I'm going to work on it...I just need to avoid dating altogether for a while...see where that takes me...this stuff only bothers me when women are on my mind...
Red Arremer Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I only act on explicit signs of interest...not even the overt acts you mentioned merely suggesting interest are enough for me...the girl has to practically say that she's interested in going out before I make a move...I guess it was just the way I was conditioned all my life to put what I wanted last... Never tried the self-confidence products... I hear you there. If those are overt signs of interest, I'd hate to see subtle ones.
lino Posted September 20, 2011 Posted September 20, 2011 I doubt joining a website like that will help you much. Have you given much thought to what I suggested to you in your other discussion thread?
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