USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 So I decided to take a plunge and paid for an AFF membership...perhaps desperation...or just stupidity...I'm just not feeling so great about myself anymore...maybe amidst all the fakes and scams I'll find something there...probably not... Feel free to judge me.
johan Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Isn't that site more about sex than it is about dating? I thought you were after a relationship.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Isn't that site more about sex than it is about dating? I thought you were after a relationship. Sure I'd love to be in a relationship, but those come once in a blue moon, if not less often...and I can't seem to get the attention of a girl with my stellar personality, so why not give this a try... And yes, that site is all about sex...it is what it is...
Citizen Erased Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Terrible idea. Probably end up making yourself feel even worse.
johan Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Well maybe you'll find someone who does like your personality. But I don't think sex is going to make you feel any better. When you or she is doing the walk of shame, you'll feel rejected even more than you do now.
CarrieT Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I've gone the AFF route a few times in my past. The biggest issue you are going to deal with is that 90% of the female profiles are "professionals" who will try to get you to their sites -- for more money -- to ramp up their click-through rate... When I was on AFF, I can't tell you how many men would start their message, "well, I doubt if you are real, but..." it is THAT pervasive with fake profiles and links to other paid sites. Good luck, but just know that you probably wasted your money.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Terrible idea. Probably end up making yourself feel even worse. I don't know...I feel pretty bad right now, even though I've been able to fake it pretty well in real life...I don't feel like there's much further down I can go... Well maybe you'll find someone who does like your personality. But I don't think sex is going to make you feel any better. When you or she is doing the walk of shame, you'll feel rejected even more than you do now. I guess I feel like I'd cross that bridge when or if I ever get to it...I'm not really expecting anuthing from this...I'd assume that it's pretty similar to regular online dating where certain characteristics are king...characteristics which I don't possess...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 I've gone the AFF route a few times in my past. The biggest issue you are going to deal with is that 90% of the female profiles are "professionals" who will try to get you to their sites -- for more money -- to ramp up their click-through rate... When I was on AFF, I can't tell you how many men would start their message, "well, I doubt if you are real, but..." it is THAT pervasive with fake profiles and links to other paid sites. Good luck, but just know that you probably wasted your money. I know. And I'm well aware of how things work on that site...figured I'd sprinkle a few dollars on it just for sh*ts and giggles...nothing else seems to work...
unknownsources Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I've struggled down the same road. Gave up very quickly once I realized how little would come of it (at least for me on the free sites). Terrible idea. Probably end up making yourself feel even worse. Also be forewarned, some sites don't tell you that you need a paid-membership to respond or even receive messages. So you might send a couple messages to some cute people and get nothing back. I was pretty down the first few times that happened, until I read a little further and realized they wouldn't let us do more than look at pictures until we coughed up some cash.
Cracker Jack Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Sorry that you're still struggling with things, Hokie. I don't think this is the solution, but I don't blame you for becoming a member of that site. I wish I could say something more encouraging....
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 I've struggled down the same road. Gave up very quickly once I realized how little would come of it (at least for me on the free sites). Also be forewarned, some sites don't tell you that you need a paid-membership to respond or even receive messages. So you might send a couple messages to some cute people and get nothing back. I was pretty down the first few times that happened, until I read a little further and realized they wouldn't let us do more than look at pictures until we coughed up some cash. Yep...I decided to cough up a little cash...hell, my friend flaked on me going out tonight, so I don't feel like I lost anything...it would have been money spent anyway...but you're probably right, it won't amount to anything...
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Sorry that you're still struggling with things, Hokie. I don't think this is the solution, but I don't blame you for becoming a member of that site. I wish I could say something more encouraging.... Thanks bro. I dont know if I'm even looking for a "solution" anymore...because I'm smart enough to know this is no solution...I'm just not smart enough to know if a solution exists and what it would be...
torn_curtain Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 To me this isn't all that different from paying for sex. I think it's a bad idea. It's like taking a hit and feeling like crap after.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 To me this isn't all that different from paying for sex. I think it's a bad idea. It's like taking a hit and feeling like crap after. I'd have to disagree...paying for sex is generally guaranteed...I see no assurances with these sites...but I'm sure I'd feel like crap after...and probably during...
Calutaxi484 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 To me this isn't all that different from paying for sex. I think it's a bad idea. It's like taking a hit and feeling like crap after. In the end you're paying for it one way or another. Having to take her out to dinner 3 times is probably more expensive then a hooker anyway. OP, I find most online dating sites to be about useless. I think you're right to not expect too much.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 In the end you're paying for it one way or another. Having to take her out to dinner 3 times is probably more expensive then a hooker anyway. OP, I find most online dating sites to be about useless. I think you're right to not expect too much. I know. If nothing else, it's something to occupy my time.
K.K. Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 For me, when I see your name hokie, I always see morality, great character and humbleness. You're probably in real life (and here) a well respected, person. So just let me say that I think you're too good for some adult dating site. Sad turn of events. If you meet a girl in real life and she somehow finds the profile of you on that site, I guarantee she's going to think twice about dating you. "Hey great girl you're dating, where did you meet her?" "Oh she was on page 5 of AFF sucking off the neighbor. When I saw that, I knew she was future wife and mother material."
Wolf18 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 USMC , first of all don't listen to any of these women who want to talk about morals. Last time I had sex with a woman I didn't pay for was 4 years ago when I was 18. If it wasn't for me paying for sex, I would still be in a 4 year dry spell going nuts. I don't care what random judgemental women think about me paying for sex...are they going to sleep with me? No? Well then they can keep that stupid pat on the head "good boy" gesture. You better believe that even guys in prison for horrific things get more romantic female attention than we do, so who cares about some puritans hypocritical morals. On that note. Take your profile off that stupid site. Just so you know, every single thing related to dating in anyway is going to be slanted towards women about 10 to 1, both online and in real life. A website dedicated to finding people for one night stands is going to be about 1000 men to 1 woman, and that 1 woman will be extremely undesirable. Use any and all money you'd use for online dating and hire an escort. Trust me, you'll feel much better afterwards, regardless of what all the lame-os tell you. Right now I dont have a job so I can't afford to use these services anymore, but when I did it was just so relieving to know there was a way out from the pussy embargo.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 For me, when I see your name hokie, I always see morality, great character and humbleness. You're probably in real life (and here) a well respected, person. So just let me say that I think you're too good for some adult dating site. Sad turn of events. If you meet a girl in real life and she somehow finds the profile of you on that site, I guarantee she's going to think twice about dating you. Thanks for the kind words, I really do appreciate it. But it's rare to find a woman who actually gives a damn about morality and character. They are usually already taken... "Hey great girl you're dating, where did you meet her?" "Oh she was on page 5 of AFF sucking off the neighbor. When I saw that, I knew she was future wife and mother material." Hahah well played.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I joined it once. After I realized that all the hot girls messaging me were prostitutes, I quit the site. I'm sorry, OP, but I agree with Carrie...you wasted your money.
Author USMCHokie Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 I joined it once. After I realized that all the hot girls messaging me were prostitutes, I quit the site. I'm sorry, OP, but I agree with Carrie...you wasted your money. I'm not even looking for the hot girls...anything will do...
torn_curtain Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 USMC , first of all don't listen to any of these women who want to talk about morals. Last time I had sex with a woman I didn't pay for was 4 years ago when I was 18. If it wasn't for me paying for sex, I would still be in a 4 year dry spell going nuts. I don't care what random judgemental women think about me paying for sex...are they going to sleep with me? No? Well then they can keep that stupid pat on the head "good boy" gesture. You better believe that even guys in prison for horrific things get more romantic female attention than we do, so who cares about some puritans hypocritical morals. On that note. Take your profile off that stupid site. Just so you know, every single thing related to dating in anyway is going to be slanted towards women about 10 to 1, both online and in real life. A website dedicated to finding people for one night stands is going to be about 1000 men to 1 woman, and that 1 woman will be extremely undesirable. Use any and all money you'd use for online dating and hire an escort. Trust me, you'll feel much better afterwards, regardless of what all the lame-os tell you. Right now I dont have a job so I can't afford to use these services anymore, but when I did it was just so relieving to know there was a way out from the pussy embargo. DON'T follow this advice. I have a guy friend who did this on one desperate night and he's felt inner shame about it for years. Also, a lot of women (myself included) would never be with a guy who'd touched a prostitute so you'll always have to hide this from a SO.
leftfordead2 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 DON'T follow this advice. I have a guy friend who did this on one desperate night and he's felt inner shame about it for years. Also, a lot of women (myself included) would never be with a guy who'd touched a prostitute so you'll always have to hide this from a SO. I agree with torn_curtain. Do not call for a prostitute.
Kamille Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Yep...I decided to cough up a little cash...hell, my friend flaked on me going out tonight, so I don't feel like I lost anything...it would have been money spent anyway...but you're probably right, it won't amount to anything... Maybe you just need some new friends... Seriously. Every time you post, your friends are somehow involved in making you feel bad about yourself. Otherwise, if you feel really bad about yourself, you could also consider getting support from a therapist. I often feel like you do attach way too much importance to the whole process Hokie, like your self-esteem is all wrapped up in this.
Art_Critic Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 The only time someone should create an AFF profile is just to see the pictures Dude.. You won't get laid from this.. Why not try regular online dating and create a good profile showing who you are ?
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