mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) Now, I'm not saying this because I failed(and I did), so I am convinced others can't do it. There are exceptions. And usually the exceptions involve highly dysfunctional relationships that are on the brink of collapsing anyways. According to several opinions based on experience, this is not something that can be overcome with male attributes and game. I further dug up two sources that speak directly through what I was through. http://www.datingclass.com/seduction...oyfriend.shtml http://singlecityguy.com/2011/04/18/...iend-now-what/ I wish I read those two articles 1 week ago, because I thought being a hot bad boy and courting her with attention would make her leave him. I know for fact I have more money that kid, I'm 4-5 years older and more mature, about 6'' taller and more athletic and with equal looks, with college education. After I learned he possibly HS kid, that really hurt my ego. But the reality is that unless I was a Hollywood level superstar, there isn't much of a chance of her running to me. Like Lil' Wayne's song "She Will"....not unless you have money, fame, and power. But maybe younger chicks can't even value that. DISCUSS and REBUTTAL. Edited September 18, 2011 by mrgoodcat
laotzu Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I just got back from a night on the town (it's one in the morning, here) and I'm pretty drunk, but I stopped reading the first link when it read "You're problem". I don't trust anything with ****ty grammar.
snowflakes88 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Why is it so difficult for you to believe that perhaps she just wasn't into you?
Sanman Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 A trick to meeting women and getting campaign contributions. You aren't going to change anyone's mind who is not interested. The trick is to find someone who is interested and maximize that interest.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Why is it so difficult for you to believe that perhaps she just wasn't into you? You just joined. I've made like three threads of why I thought she was into me. That girl is well within my league in looks. I had prettier girls like me, not that it means she liked me. Still, the signs were there. She wanted to have me around in case......heh.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 I just got back from a night on the town (it's one in the morning, here) and I'm pretty drunk, but I stopped reading the first link when it read "You're problem". I don't trust anything with ****ty grammar. Could have been a typo. I make mistakes two if I don't proofread. I read the content and it is preaching to my choir. Self-fulfilling prophecy, maybe, but people hold that opinion besides that person.
snowflakes88 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 You just joined. I've made like three threads of why I thought she was into me. That girl is well within my league in looks. I had prettier girls like me, not that it means she liked me. Still, the signs were there. She wanted to have me around in case......heh. I read the background, and I didn't see anything that indicated a huge amount of interest on her end. Glancing at you, chatting with you... none of that is enough to give you reason to believe she'd leave her BF for you, IMO. Just because someone is "well within your league" - or even what you perceive as beneath your league - doesn't mean she will be into you. And honestly, if you come off in person the way you do here, I could see how you may have turned her off during the conversation you had. Some women are into the whole LOOK-AT-ME-I-AM-ALPHA thing, but many are not. I personally know it would be a turnoff for me, no matter how attractive you are. I prefer the kind of swag that speaks for itself, rather than the chest-beating kind that usually masks insecurity. Based on your post history, I'm sure you'll just call me a bitch for saying this, but that's fine.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) Naw. I don't act up-front-cocky on anyone. I walk tall but I don't try to convey my dominance to girls. I might have Donald Trump complex when I'm 40, but not yet. Anyhow, I think it could be that she wasn't into me. I thought she was, though, because I know when girls throw glances at me constantly, they tend to like me and it usually comes true. One time the girl that liked me stared at me all day... I was on a break, and was sitting in a far end of the university courtyard. I was like, "I wonder if she'll happen to come over here for whatever reason". And she did trying to talk to me about some **** on the test- and I never talked to her before! Ahem. Well, same with this girl. I was like, I wonder if she'll try to start up a conversation with me when I was in the isle and she surely did. She was also trying to be extra nice, staring me straight in the eyes for an extra awkward second. I didn't even like her, but that kinda told me that she could still do if she really likes me that much. I like dating girls that like me. And then that whole f*cking nonsense happened. I gotta say, I feel like I may have just been beaten to a punch. Maybe the guy asked her out before me and she committed. F*ck. Hehe. Maybe not, who knows. Edited September 18, 2011 by mrgoodcat
Easyguy14 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Naw. I don't act up-front-cocky on anyone. I walk tall but I don't try to convey my dominance to girls. I might have Donald Trump complex when I'm 40, but not yet. Anyhow, I think it could be that she wasn't into me. I thought she was, though, because I know when girls throw glances at me constantly, they tend to like me and it usually comes true. One time the girl that liked me stared at me all day... I was on a break, and was sitting in a far end of the university courtyard. I was like, "I wonder if she'll happen to come over here for whatever reason". And she did trying to talk to me about some **** on the test- and I never talked to her before! Ahem. Well, same with this girl. I was like, I wonder if she'll try to start up a conversation with me when I was in the isle and she surely did. She was also trying to be extra nice, staring me straight in the eyes for an extra awkward second. I didn't even like her, but that kinda told me that she could still do if she really likes me that much. I like dating girls that like me. And then that whole f*cking nonsense happened. I gotta say, I feel like I may have just been beaten to a punch. Maybe the guy asked her out before me and she committed. F*ck. Hehe. Maybe not, who knows. why bother with unavailable women regardless of the attention they show you? there are so many single women you can have the pick of the lot if you're as good-looking as you say. but obviously you're after something you cant have
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 but obviously you're after something you cant have Was after. Now, I wised up and thus made this thread.
Citizen Erased Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Or how about don't do it cos it makes you a *****head if you do? Plenty of single people out there, why the need for the unavailable ones?
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 Or how about don't do it cos it makes you a *****head if you do? Plenty of single people out there, why the need for the unavailable ones? You can't generalize like that. She can have feelings for you too, but they're not where it can overcome her commitments. It's a game of probability, and chances are she is more committed.
somedude81 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 You're an ass for even trying to get a girl already in a relationship.
Jynxx Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Or how about don't do it cos it makes you a *****head if you do? Actually it doesn't. They're having a relationship with each other, you're not involved so it's not your responsibility to keep their relationship going. Hell, if you have a great connection with someone, why not go after her? If she likes her boyfriend more nothing will happen anyway, if she likes you more then you're doing her a favour by offering her an option she prefers over the current situation and you're doing the guy a favour by not wasting his time with a girl for who he isn't the first choice.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 You're an ass for even trying to get a girl already in a relationship. I thought she JUST started seeing this kid and I was still in the race, albeit behind. Could've been wrong, but at least I don't have to wonder "what if" and I learned something on the way.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 ^^^^^^ Didn't read the post or skim the articles, did ya?
AHardDaysNight Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 What's scummy about the OP is that you tried to take a girl away from a guy. What if she had cheated on him with you? That just proves that she will cheat on her boyfriend. Sooner or later, she'll cheat on you with another guy.
carhill Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I especially liked the article which ended with a positive aspect of using the best features of the attached lady as a template for pursuing unattached ladies. Seeing her as a signpost of what one 'likes' but without the attachment. TBH, over the decades, 'luring' attached ladies has been quite easy and, with a more aggressive sexual style, I'd probably would've had as many physical affairs as I wanted. Healthy? Nope, not IMO. So, I would join the assertion of the OP and authors and opine 'don't' as the operative lesson, regardless of whether there are a lot of single women to pursue or not. In my locale, 'not' has always prevailed but that's still no reason to go after attached women. Try something else.
Author mrgoodcat Posted September 18, 2011 Author Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) @carhill Yeah, there will be instances when a woman in a relationship is unhappy and she'll want someone else. I'd personally have her break whatever that she's doing off, so the only one who gets hurt is her guy, who probably deserved it since he couldn't make her happy in the first place. @AHard I"m noticing 80% of the people here have a reading comprehension issues. I said in this same thread that I thought she just started seeing him.....just as I asked her out. It was fair game. And what the f*ck do I care if she started seeing someone. If he can't write a check he can't cash, then don't write it. You've missed the point of the thread. Edited September 18, 2011 by mrgoodcat
Author mrgoodcat Posted October 7, 2011 Author Posted October 7, 2011 (edited) Why is it so difficult for you to believe that perhaps she just wasn't into you? I read the background, and I didn't see anything that indicated a huge amount of interest on her end. Glancing at you, chatting with you... none of that is enough to give you reason to believe she'd leave her BF for you, IMO. Because she is...This is why listening to people on forums is dangerous, just like trying to fortune tell. Too bad I cannot change my thread title any more. Eghhh. Edited October 7, 2011 by mrgoodcat
ChessPieceFace Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 It just means she had loyalty. You could seduce away a poor woman with no loyalty and no ethics. Then what? Is that what you want? If so, go for it. To me, not only is the practice itself disgusting, but even if it wasn't -- I could only steal a girl that wasn't worth stealing.
grkBoy Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 I don't care what attention a girl gives. If she's got a boyfriend, then it means you barely have a chance. Most likely you have no chance. If she hates her boyfriend that much, then she should dump him. If she dumped him, then it's a good sign she wants you. If she's flirting and looking for attention from you (but she's gor a boyfriend), then it means she wants attention. Either walk, or become "the other guy" and get some.
ShannonMI Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Now, I'm not saying this because I failed(and I did), so I am convinced others can't do it. There are exceptions. And usually the exceptions involve highly dysfunctional relationships that are on the brink of collapsing anyways. According to several opinions based on experience, this is not something that can be overcome with male attributes and game. I further dug up two sources that speak directly through what I was through. http://www.datingclass.com/seduction...oyfriend.shtml http://singlecityguy.com/2011/04/18/...iend-now-what/ I wish I read those two articles 1 week ago, because I thought being a hot bad boy and courting her with attention would make her leave him. I know for fact I have more money that kid, I'm 4-5 years older and more mature, about 6'' taller and more athletic and with equal looks, with college education. After I learned he possibly HS kid, that really hurt my ego. But the reality is that unless I was a Hollywood level superstar, there isn't much of a chance of her running to me. Like Lil' Wayne's song "She Will"....not unless you have money, fame, and power. But maybe younger chicks can't even value that. DISCUSS and REBUTTAL. Ugh why would you go for a girl who has a man? That's just stupid. Sometimes it's not all about the money, fame and power. Sometimes it's about a deeper emotional connection. Maybe she didn't feel that with you.
ShannonMI Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Why is it so difficult for you to believe that perhaps she just wasn't into you? Yeah, she's just not that into you. Or not enough to dump her boyfriend. Why don't you go after a single girl? Is it because it's not that much of a challange? Do you need an ego boost or something? See, that would be a huge turn off to me.
ShannonMI Posted October 7, 2011 Posted October 7, 2011 Could have been a typo. I make mistakes two if I don't proofread. I read the content and it is preaching to my choir. Self-fulfilling prophecy, maybe, but people hold that opinion besides that person. It wasn't a typo because "two" isn't the right word in the above sentence. It's "too." Maybe she doesn't like you because you aren't very bright. College educated you say? Interesting.
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