amyg091 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 So my boyfriend is going through a lot right now and he's become a bit withdrawn so I can tell he needs some space. SO my question is...how do I give him space the right way? Is it okay to text him and say "hey baby i hope you have a great day?" Is sending a sexy text too forward? I just want him to know that I am here for him whenever he is ready to come back to me, and that I"m not upset for him taking his space. I love him very much and I know a lot of girls drive their men away by being needy and clingy when a guy takes his space. So...men...what should your girl do to give you space the right way? Women - any success stories? Read more: Forums and Message Boards - Cosmopolitan
PratyekaYana Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I think what you've proposed so far is ideal. You've managed to combine the kind of detachment that the giving of space requires with your natural concern for his well being and the relationship. The texts, so long as they don't become so frequent as to make your boyfriend think that you're hounding him, give him security in the knowledge that you are still there and committed to him while he struggles with his own issues. You're also keeping some distance between you two as a gesture of respect for these trying times. With respect to the sexually suggestive texts, I would limit the content in such a way that the texts let him know that you're still sexually available to him (a crucial component to supporting the sense of security that I mentioned above) but not in any way compelling him to fulfill that role in the relationship at this point in time. You don't want him mistakenly thinking that you're trying to use sex to draw him out of his period of withdrawal prematurely.
daphne Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 I wouldn't send suggestive texts right now. I would just check in with him from time to time and stay upbeat. Do your own thing. Take care of things in your own life and have fun. Don't focus on him right now, since it could lead to pushy or needy behavior. You'd be surprised at how grateful he'll probably be when he realizes your'e an understanding person that lets him have time to figure out whatever he needs to. Most people are too selfish or insecure to just let their significant other be and not be resentful when they come back around.
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