nbryan1 Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Hey guys. Here is the back story on my relationship: I am 22 and he is 25. We were together for 2.5 years but as it turns out, he habitually lied to me the entire relationship and then ended up cheating on me. When I found out he cheated, he physically abused me and held a knife to my throat and told me he would murder me if I broke up with him. Needless to say, the police were called and that was that with the relationship. I instituted a NC policy on written threat of filing papers for a restraining order. His father is an attorney and has been informed of all the instances of physical violence against me and was warned that his son was not to come near me or to ever contact me again or I will file the restraining order papers. We broke up during the last week of March and have not had any contact since then. This morning at 4 am my phone vibrates. My ex texted me and said this: He basically thanked me for helping him find his faith, made a lame apology about hurting me, asked me to forgive him and then repeatedly wished me happiness. He said his family was starting to forgive him. He apologized for contacting me and said he didn't even know if that was still my number. I am so hurt, angry, frustrated and about 100 other emotions. The audacity he has to contact me when I made it crystal clear that he is unwelcome in my life. It felt almost as if he was saying: "I treated you like sh*t but thank you for making me a better person. Forgive me so I can feel better about myself." If he was really sorry he would have waited longer than 6 months to apologize and he would have apologized in a letter, phone call or email NOT a lame text message at 4 in the morning. The timing of the text is also suspicious to me. Why is contacting me? Does he miss me? Does he feel guilty? Does he want to open the lines of communication? When I didn't respond he sent me a picture of my cat, which he stole from me. I'm guessing this was a ploy to try to get me to respond to him. Boy, seeing that picture of my sweet cat hurt so much. I absolutely do not want him in my life. I deleted that text and re-blocked his number. Why would he contact me when he knows it would only hurt me and delay my healing process? Is he just trying to keep me around?
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