dontstopbelieving Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 (edited) I've been on here since I was dumped last month. I've been NC since the break up and as much as it hurt and I do still think about him, things have been looking up. He hasn't contacted me which at first I was bummed about but now that I had time to think about it, its probably best this way. Our breakup was done in the most respectful way and I still think highly of him, but I know its best I don't torture myself by trying to think he made a mistake and will want me back. Last month was pretty tough, I couldn't help but miss him and want to talk to him (I still do at times, but I'm a lot more at ease now). Not only did the break up happen but I also got rejected from a grad program I applied for, two rejections in one month was a bummer. So I decided when September rolled around I will not let any of those rejections stop me. The end of August I actually was offered to be part of a program that allowed me to learn a different position within the govt agency I work in for a few weeks. I would have never taken that offer previously if I was with my ex because it normally involves being relocated to another office for a few weeks which would of complicated my schedule. Since I was single at that point and needed a change of scenery, I took the offer. The program so far has been awesome and I've learned so much and it will look great on my resume. I kind of want to thank the BU for this special experience. I also received a cash award from work, all has been a win win situation. Also in the process I never gave up pursing a grad program, and was recently accepted into one which I start in October. Since I did not want to get sad or depressed I keep pushing myself to find whats best for me. I always get massages weekly, since the break up and due to my relocation its easier for me to get them more often. So now I have increased my massages to twice a week, it has definitely increased my quality of life. Well and so has working out, but that's always been my thing. I've also started getting my feet wet with dating again. I set up an online profile and I admit...I use to dread dating but now I have fun. I recently went on a few dates last couple weeks and now I'm in the process of eliminating from my options. Online dating does boost your confidence to a certain extent. I'm feeling better more than ever I know the part where I think of him here and there, will not stop because its only naturally to miss someone you were romantically involved with. But the main gist of this thread was to show if you are truly committed to move forward and go NC, it does get better for you and your health. Wish you guys the best! Edited September 18, 2011 by dontstopbelieving
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