prosense Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Let me put it simply. I am a guy and I think I am not over my ex that broke up with me exactly a year ago. The reason she terminated the relationship was, according to her, I emotionally abused her. Although I do not agree with her, I need to admit that I may have had been not the best boyfriend. The breakup per se was peaceful. No foul language, no fight, no tears or anything. But, I told her many times that we won't have any contact since I needed to heal. She wanted to remain friends, but I was very much in love with her and wanted to move on in lieu of being her friend and emotionally hurt in doing so. She respected my opinions and agreed to my decision that we don't contact each other. So, after the breakup, neither her or me has tried to contact each other. I never looked at her fb or anything relevant. I erased her phone numbers, the email that I have received. When breaking up with me, she said she is leaving the town in 6 months that she was in because she did not see any future. However, after a year, she still lives in the same place, in the same area which is only 2 mile away from my place. How do I know? Well, last night, I had a very vivid dream where we got back together. When I was awake, I realized I am not over her. So, I typed her name on FB and discovered that she resides in the same town. Of course, I have dated girls since the breakup. But, none of the measured up to her. Now, some might say "Oh.. it's been a year sand so you are automatically reminded of her anyways.. well. should she want you back, she probably would have contacted you, but she hasn't so move on!" But I never thought of her like this before. My feelings are still strong and I am at a loss. Maybe I need closure. A closure that she and I are not going to be a thing together and thus I need to move on. I really thought she was the one when we were together. But apparently, she wasnt. what should I do?
bluenightowl Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Let me put it simply. I am a guy and I think I am not over my ex that broke up with me exactly a year ago. The reason she terminated the relationship was, according to her, I emotionally abused her. Although I do not agree with her, I need to admit that I may have had been not the best boyfriend. The breakup per se was peaceful. No foul language, no fight, no tears or anything. But, I told her many times that we won't have any contact since I needed to heal. She wanted to remain friends, but I was very much in love with her and wanted to move on in lieu of being her friend and emotionally hurt in doing so. She respected my opinions and agreed to my decision that we don't contact each other. So, after the breakup, neither her or me has tried to contact each other. I never looked at her fb or anything relevant. I erased her phone numbers, the email that I have received. When breaking up with me, she said she is leaving the town in 6 months that she was in because she did not see any future. However, after a year, she still lives in the same place, in the same area which is only 2 mile away from my place. How do I know? Well, last night, I had a very vivid dream where we got back together. When I was awake, I realized I am not over her. So, I typed her name on FB and discovered that she resides in the same town. Of course, I have dated girls since the breakup. But, none of the measured up to her. Now, some might say "Oh.. it's been a year sand so you are automatically reminded of her anyways.. well. should she want you back, she probably would have contacted you, but she hasn't so move on!" But I never thought of her like this before. My feelings are still strong and I am at a loss. Maybe I need closure. A closure that she and I are not going to be a thing together and thus I need to move on. I really thought she was the one when we were together. But apparently, she wasnt. what should I do? I have generally found talking to an ex you like will make it worse for you in the long run, although you might feel great talking to her in the moment. Similar things have happened to me. I think it really is a time heals issue. You might want to post and learn from here on LS, or get some therapy to help you move on.
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