country_gurl Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 You meet a guy on a dating site. During your initial emails/texts/phone calls he admits: 1. That a 25 yr old married gal at his workplace (he's in a manager position though she does not report to him) has confessed to him that she's unhappy in her marriage and she's admitted to having feelings for him; keeps texting and emailing him. He's "dealing with this" by apparently just being very short in his responses to her texts, hoping she'll just "get the hint" (apparently) that he's not interested. He's 46, by the way. (why on earth would a guy even admit any of this to a prospective date? weird if you ask me; to show that he's a stud and the younger woman "want him"?) 2. He was married for 19 years and claims that he's been divorced for 3.5 years. Claims in the last 3 years of his marriage that him and wife slept in separate bedrooms and he went without sex for that long; that he tried very much to save his marriage but obviously wasn't able to. Thinks his ex may have cheated during their marriage, claims even though marriage was bad at the end and they weren't sleeping together that he was faithful. 3. Admits that pretty much all of the women he's met through the dating site (and dated/or had a relationship with) were very attractive; such an emphasis on them being so "pretty" (trying to again paint the picture of being some kind of stud?) but not very "fun" and has now decided he'll try to date someone who's less gorgeous, more or less...and focus now more on the personality than looks (wow, what a compliment; guess that says I am not that attractive?) 4. Claims he once had a date with a women he met on said dating site; they agreed to meet in a public place. Claims she pulled up driving a Hummer and was a hot blonde.......and when she got out of the vehicle all he do was "laugh" because he just felt that she was way "out of his league" and he couldn't stop laughing such that she asked him WHY he was laughing; he allegedly told her that she was 'out of his league' and she suggested they at least still go for lunch. Um why tell a prospective date this? 5. Tells a story about a Greeter at Walmart (of all places) who basically followed him through the store drooling, commenting on his "beautiful brown eyes"......didn't just make the comment as he walked past her at the door but apparently she followed him through the store and kept going on about his eyes (I find this hard to believe unless she was a total nutter); apparently she was about 50 or so. 6. First and only phone conversation with him was really quite good, a lot of laughs and interesting, the conversation flowed so well that 4 hours passed like nothing.....but texts and emails following this conversation were creepy with lots of talk about him wishing I was there with him so that we could just lie in bed and do nothing but 'cuddle' and talk........almost a fixation with cuddling.......texts like "I wish we could just get through a couple of dates so that we could get to the point of just lying there and cuddling"..........or "I wish our first date could be us just lying together and cuddling." 7. Spoke a lot about an ex in which the relationship ended 4 months ago. Apparently they'd been dating for a year and by that point she'd given him some kind of ultimatum that he had 3 months to make some kind of 'commitment' to her (live together, get engaged, etc) and if he couldn't do that then she was done. He seemed to admit in a roundabout way that at the time she made the ultimatum that he already KNEW he wouldn't be making any kind of commitment to her 3 months from then but he still remained in the relationship and when the 3 month mark came, because he wasn't interested in making any kind of commitment she was true to her word and she ended the relationship and has never contacted him since. ---------- I've decided to write this dude off because I get the sense that he's working through the fact that he's now back in the dating scene after many years with his high school sweetheart and he's maybe somewhat insecure and trying to either rebuild or boost his ego. Seems he might have some commitment issues, too (though claims he's definitely not opposed to getting married again to the 'right person'). Very bizarre to me that he would confess about the hootch at work who's got the hots for him and him clearly not being able to tell her in a nice but firm way that he's not at all interested and that it's inappropriate of her to be texting/emailing him for any reason other than work matters. I get the sense that he enjoys the attention? I can't imagine telling someone I just 'met' this kind of stuff? Any thoughts?
Art_Critic Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Some guys are just...well... dumb when it comes to dating... Next.....
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