RedRedMe Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Or should I say he won't? My parents have been together for the past 40 years and my father has been cheating on her for the past 6. I have had suspicions but had them confirmed a year ago. My brother and I have confronted him time after time. We even confronted the mistress. The one person we can't confront is my mother. I can't handle breaking her heart like that or causing their marriage to end. Well it turns out she knows. Someone told her a while ago and she tried to hint at it to me but couldn't bring herself to tell me. My father recently told me that after my wedding (which is in a few months) she is kicking him out of the house. She still acts like everything is normal in front of me. He came over tonight and made a phone call to the mistress from my bathroom. We both heard him but both pretended not to notice. She seriously thinks I have no idea. The plot gets worse so thanks for reading as far as you have. My father has been unemployed for years and has nowhere to go. He has no skills and could never find a job. She is miserable and he makes her life that much worse. I love my father but cannot believe what he is doing and has done. I honestly just don't know what to do. I feel like the only thing keeping her together is the thought that we don't know. Do I just let it play out and wait for her to throw him out after the wedding? I'm so lost on this.
Steen719 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I don't know how old you are, but if your Mom has hinted to you about it, she probably wants to tell you. My son will be 21 in a few weeks and I was relieved when he knew about his dad. I was so tired of feeling so sad and mad and bad and trying to hide it. The psychologist I was seeing considered him an adult who probably "knew" anyway and as it turns out, he was right, such as it is in your case. Your mom doesn't need to act like you are her friend and she can tell you everything about it, but she may need you to understand her reasoning. I'm sure she is waiting to "throw him out" until after you are married. As for your father and his situation.....I know you love him and you are worried about what will happen to him, you should think about the fact that he has brought about this situation himself. He made choices that have led him to be in the situation he is in. You can't tell me that he can't find a job at Lowes, Publix or Walmart. There are older people working in all of those places and honestly, he should be taking care of himself. If he makes no money, he is using your mother's money on other women and that is disgraceful. Plus, your father has already told you...so why should your mother not have that piece of information. I know my view of this is skewed. I am in your mother's position, so I do not feel sympathy for your father. The situations we find ourselves in call for us to make decisions about how we will solve our issues and choosing to cheat on a spouse is a decision made by all too many people. It is cowardly and dishonest and it hurts the people you should most care for in this life. I wish you the best for your upcoming marriage and I hope you can have the wedding and marriage of your dreams.
KathyM Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Or should I say he won't? My parents have been together for the past 40 years and my father has been cheating on her for the past 6. I have had suspicions but had them confirmed a year ago. My brother and I have confronted him time after time. We even confronted the mistress. The one person we can't confront is my mother. I can't handle breaking her heart like that or causing their marriage to end. Well it turns out she knows. Someone told her a while ago and she tried to hint at it to me but couldn't bring herself to tell me. My father recently told me that after my wedding (which is in a few months) she is kicking him out of the house. She still acts like everything is normal in front of me. He came over tonight and made a phone call to the mistress from my bathroom. We both heard him but both pretended not to notice. She seriously thinks I have no idea. The plot gets worse so thanks for reading as far as you have. My father has been unemployed for years and has nowhere to go. He has no skills and could never find a job. She is miserable and he makes her life that much worse. I love my father but cannot believe what he is doing and has done. I honestly just don't know what to do. I feel like the only thing keeping her together is the thought that we don't know. Do I just let it play out and wait for her to throw him out after the wedding? I'm so lost on this. Let it play out. Your mother plans to take back her life and leave him after the wedding is taken care of. I know you would want to help them and would like to see them stay together, but your father has made the choice to emotionally leave the marriage by cheating on your mother. You can't control that. It's too late to change that fact. Too late to try to talk some sense into him--not that you could have anyway. Just let her rebuild her life. She deserves to do that. You may want to suggest to your father that he get counseling for himself. Tell him you are concerned about the choices he is making in life, and that he seems to lack any focus or purpose, and you are concerned about him. Suggest that he see a counselor to help him get back on track. That's all you can do. Be supportive of your mother in her decision to move on with her life.
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jnj express Posted October 3, 2011 Posted October 3, 2011 Tell your father you know---also tell him you will NOT allow him to walk you down the isle---if he is still with the other woman----tell your mother to toss him out now---why should she continue to support, and finace his adultery
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