cutiecall Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Hi! I know for me lust is a very powerful force. I definately have a weakness for lust. I like to get caught up in passion and fantasy of it. I dont' think guys think of it in the same way.But unfortunately, I have learned there is a flip side to it. That is of pain and obsession. I just went to happy hour with a co-worker. I know bad!! He has been flirting with me since I started (2 months). We went for a walk on our lunch hour on a private trail this week and made out! Wow! Then tonight we went to happy hour and the chemistry was off the charts. He is always asking me to do things. But I have learned the hard way. I don't trust men. I don't know what his intentions are. But I do know this could end up disasterous for me. Even if noone finds out I need my brain to function at work. I can't be obsessing over him. I do like him but I can't handle this and deathly afraid of the consequences of what happens if we sleep together. I do like him but my main reservation about getting involved with him is that he has 4 kids from a prior marriage. He wouldn't have alot of time for me. I need to get the strength and end it this weekend. It will be better in the long run. Better for my mental health and my career. Help!
country_gurl Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Hi! I know for me lust is a very powerful force. I definately have a weakness for lust. I like to get caught up in passion and fantasy of it. I dont' think guys think of it in the same way.But unfortunately, I have learned there is a flip side to it. That is of pain and obsession. I just went to happy hour with a co-worker. I know bad!! He has been flirting with me since I started (2 months). We went for a walk on our lunch hour on a private trail this week and made out! Wow! Then tonight we went to happy hour and the chemistry was off the charts. He is always asking me to do things. But I have learned the hard way. I don't trust men. I don't know what his intentions are. But I do know this could end up disasterous for me. Even if noone finds out I need my brain to function at work. I can't be obsessing over him. I do like him but I can't handle this and deathly afraid of the consequences of what happens if we sleep together. I do like him but my main reservation about getting involved with him is that he has 4 kids from a prior marriage. He wouldn't have alot of time for me. I need to get the strength and end it this weekend. It will be better in the long run. Better for my mental health and my career. Help! I get the impression from your post that you're rather young and if he's got 4 kids from an alleged 'previous marriage' that he's older. 1. How do you know for SURE that he's not still very much married? He may claim that he's not but he very well still could be.
linkinghabit Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 it's all up to you though but at least you still have your limits and amazing self-control coz' you still able to think of the consequences...pretty hard to avoid especially you often see him....
madjac74 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 He sounds like nothing but trouble for you... and I'd imagine that his wife, or ex-wife, would be just as much trouble as he. How in the world did you get that from what she said? It doesn't sound like the guy has done anything wrong except be desirable to the OP, have kids and have an ex-wife. I agree that you shouldn't mix business with pleasure but I also think you shouldnt assume the worst of a guy. I have kids and I spend a lot of time with them because they are my #1 priority but I also have a lot of time to myself as well (for dating), I have an ex-wife as well and there is nothing shady going on, we get along well mostly for the sake of the children and not because we still want each other or anything. The automatic assumption that a guy with kids and a "baby mama" is going to be full of drama is getting old.
Overthirtymale Posted September 18, 2011 Posted September 18, 2011 Hi! I know for me lust is a very powerful force. I definately have a weakness for lust. I like to get caught up in passion and fantasy of it. I dont' think guys think of it in the same way.But unfortunately, I have learned there is a flip side to it. That is of pain and obsession. I just went to happy hour with a co-worker. I know bad!! He has been flirting with me since I started (2 months). We went for a walk on our lunch hour on a private trail this week and made out! Wow! Then tonight we went to happy hour and the chemistry was off the charts. He is always asking me to do things. But I have learned the hard way. I don't trust men. I don't know what his intentions are. But I do know this could end up disasterous for me. Even if noone finds out I need my brain to function at work. I can't be obsessing over him. I do like him but I can't handle this and deathly afraid of the consequences of what happens if we sleep together. I do like him but my main reservation about getting involved with him is that he has 4 kids from a prior marriage. He wouldn't have alot of time for me. I need to get the strength and end it this weekend. It will be better in the long run. Better for my mental health and my career. Help! Girl get some self-esteem. The thought that you even consider a relationship with a man with 4 kids makes you either extremely undesirable or a fool.
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