shawn923 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Hello Lshackers. Well I've been dealing with a ex who strung me along for months, until I went full NC. Each time in NC she has broke it, either to fuel her ego or maybe just see what I was up to. Anyway, most recently we ended on bad terms a week ago, and just last night she texts me a long message about how she misses me and loves me. I was still feeling the same about her, i missed her also, so i let her know i was feeling the same way. She agreed this time to work things out, and take it slow... I let her know clearly, "im not here to be your friend. I need to be your only priority"... And she agreed. Today i text her a few times making small chat, and she said we'll talk more tonight. I plan on asking her all the "rough" questions tonight, like why all of a sudden did u realize im the one? Why didnt u listen to me any of the other times? And do u really want to be with me? Can u see urself with me in 5 years? So... I need your guys advice. Does it sound like she really wants another chance? Or is she really going THIS far to string me along, and saying "lets take it slow" just to keep me on the hook? Are there any signs I should be looking for? I would hate to have to go straight back to NC for a 10th time, and believe that she sent me off once again... But im prepared to do what i need to. Keep in mind I DO want a second chance with her, I DO love her and I can see myself with her in the future.
leoc1973 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Hey man I think that putting all that on her is kinda going against going slow. I read your first post and you say you were only with her 3 months. I think maybe you might come on a little strong don't scare her away again. Do me a favor tho. I have been doin nc/lc with my ex who says she will never be with me again too. If you do find out why she all of the sudden turned around and wants you now can you make sure to come back and let us know what it was that changed her mind. Ugh mine seems like she wants to stay friends with me and keep me on the back burner some times and other times she will go a month without even contacting me. I met an amazing girl but just still can't get over my ex. I know she will want me back when I no longer want her lol isn't that how it works?
Author shawn923 Posted September 17, 2011 Author Posted September 17, 2011 Lol yea thats typically how it works... But somehow i always had a feeling she would come back and contact me eventually. I mean we go to the same school, it was inevitable. But regardless of the time, i feel i felt that one love that we all have here on loveshack. Its her.. But anyways, Im going to talk to her in a lil bit, and maybe get some answers. Maybe ur right and its a lot but i mean i think its stuff i deserve to know. Stuff ive wondered all summer but never asked because of NC. If we're gonna be on good terms, i need to get all these things resolved, ASAP, IMO. I dont want any negative energy between us, before we start building any kind of future... I'll let u know how it turns out. So i think asking these questions to squash the remaining problems, or find out if shes really serious about me, is the right idea.
Trolly Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 (edited) There's a lot of people on this site that would like their second shot (one of them being me). It's good to hear that you're being cautious and attempting to weed out and issues preemptively. Good luck, i hope things work out. BTW, i think Shawn makes a good point. If you wish to take it slow, then it might be a lot at once to avalanche her with questions and demands in one night. Edited September 17, 2011 by Trolly
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