irc333 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I've seen some profiles from women stating they are looking for a "bad boy with feelings" or a "bad boy with a big heart" How is this even possible? What does this mean, I see this statement, and just wonder, "hmmmmm?" I see so many "bad boy" threads on here, but no one talks about one with a "big heart" which, according to the threads, explains bad boys have none.
somedude81 Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I just means that she wants somebody to rough her up, then buy her flowers, and do it all over again...
D-Lish Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Women are influenced by many characters in the media- strong, charismatic men with a protective side. I can think of a few: Magnum P.I. Captain Jean-Luc Picard Patrick Jane from "The Mentalist" Castle There are many examples of lead characters in movie/TV that give women this idea about strong, smart,funny, take control kind of men with a softer side. A real "bad boy" is someone that would most likely treat a woman like crap and cheat on them.
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 At least they let you know to stay the hell away from them. These women are probably not the cream of the crop themselves so why worry about it?
D-Lish Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I've been the inspiration for all these characters. I am now picturing you in a star trek uniform. You look really good, but your pants are a little tight and I can see the outline of your package.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Women are influenced by many characters in the media- strong, charismatic men with a protective side. I can think of a few: Magnum P.I. Captain Jean-Luc Picard Patrick Jane from "The Mentalist" Castle There are many examples of lead characters in movie/TV that give women this idea about strong, smart,funny, take control kind of men with a softer side. A real "bad boy" is someone that would most likely treat a woman like crap and cheat on them. Those aren't bad boys. Here is a bad boy: http://www.realbollywood.com/up_images/11129188.jpg
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I explained it in a picture. Click the linky above.
D-Lish Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I explained it in a picture. Click the linky above. It doesn't work:(
Nexus One Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 (edited) I explained it in a picture. Click the linky above. Try uploading the image to imgur.com instead, because the original server does not allow direct linking to images, probably to prevent hotlinking. Edited September 17, 2011 by Nexus One
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Okay, whatever. The picture was of an tattoed and burly inmate in prison clothes behind the bars of a jail cell. He had his head down and was clutching the bars with both hands.
FrustratedStandards Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I think by that they just mean a nice guy who is dominant. Most nice guys are either shy or they don't approach women. Bad boys, however, approach women and take the lead (at least they are known too). A woman needs a man like this, one who takes initiative, but isn't also an a**hole. That's what it means to look for a bad boy with a big heart. Just a dominant sweety pie (an oxymoron if you ask me).
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I think by that they just mean a nice guy who is dominant. Most nice guys are either shy or they don't approach women. Bad boys, however, approach women and take the lead (at least they are known too). A woman needs a man like this, one who takes initiative, but isn't also an a**hole. That's what it means to look for a bad boy with a big heart. Just a dominant sweety pie (an oxymoron if you ask me). If that's what they mean, they should describe him as this: "Looking for a confident, assertive, and outgoing passionate man who has a good heart." Bad boys don't have hearts. And the ones they DO get with, they break their spouses heart. I have seen it happen time and time again, with my sister (who has probably dated them all.) It hurts me to see her get hurt, time and time again, by these losers.
Star Gazer Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Like an M&M candy... hard shell, soft and sweet center.
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Why do women still want to be dominated forty years after the women's movement. You would think the generation that grew up with the most equality would be the ones to want equal relationships but it seems they are regressing.
FrustratedStandards Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 If that's what they mean, they should describe him as this: "Looking for a confident, assertive, and outgoing passionate man who has a good heart." Bad boys don't have hearts. And the ones they DO get with, they break their spouses heart. I have seen it happen time and time again, with my sister (who has probably dated them all.) It hurts me to see her get hurt, time and time again, by these losers. I'm sorry to hear that, but you can't entirely blame the "bad boys". If she has had this happen many times, she should know what to avoid by now. Partially its her fault to be re-occuringly getting involved with these types of men.
FrustratedStandards Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Why do women still want to be dominated forty years after the women's movement. You would think the generation that grew up with the most equality would be the ones to want equal relationships but it seems they are regressing. I think it's more about being dominated sexually than it is anything else. When a woman says dominant, she doesn't mean a man who makes her stay home, tells her what to do and lays down all the rules. She means a man that can take the lead, isn't afraid to chase her and will undress her in the bedroom, rather than her having to undress herself while he watches.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I'm sorry to hear that, but you can't entirely blame the "bad boys". If she has had this happen many times, she should know what to avoid by now. Partially its her fault to be re-occuringly getting involved with these types of men. Um, I entirely blame the bad boys, because it's this type of thinking that ends you up with: Rapists Murderers Pedophiles Arsonists Drug abusers And criminals, in general! If you want to date a man with a good heart, leave the bad boy out of it. Because a bad boy with a good heart is an oxymoron!
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 These men are wrong but if your sister goes for them time and time again she must share some of the blame.
FrustratedStandards Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 Um, I entirely blame the bad boys, because it's this type of thinking that ends you up with: Rapists Murderers Pedophiles Arsonists Drug abusers And criminals, in general! If you want to date a man with a good heart, leave the bad boy out of it. Because a bad boy with a good heart is an oxymoron! I guess that depends on your connotation of "bad boy". To me a bad boy is someone with tattoos who parties alot and does drugs. I take it that for you it means a criminal. So again, its subjective.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 These men are wrong but if your sister goes for them time and time again she must share some of the blame. She finally woke up, and is now going for a good guy. But she's 32. Obviously this makes me wonder about the intelligence of women, if they take until 32 to realize that good guys are the best, and bad boys are to be avoided.
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I wouldn't call them criminal but very stupid. After seeing all the harm that drugs do except weed which is not that bad to me why do some people still think they are cool? I lived in an area once that was flooded with junkies shooting up on the street and smoking crack and that is what happens to these drugging bad boys when they get older. Nothing glorious about it.
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 She finally woke up, and is now going for a good guy. But she's 32. Obviously this makes me wonder about the intelligence of women, if they take until 32 to realize that good guys are the best, and bad boys are to be avoided. I hate to say this and I hope I am wrong but I wonder how long this guy will last.
AHardDaysNight Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I have never done drugs, and will never do them. I am bipolar, first of all, so I shouldn't be taking them...and I've had enough experience with the side effects of prescription drugs to realize that I don't like feeling not like myself. It depends on the type of drug, and how much. If he's smoking weed every once in a while, that's cool. On the other hand, if he's a meth or crack addict, then yes, he is a criminal. Partying is never bad, in any circumstance. I love a good party. Just leave drugs out of it...you can throw beers my way, but leave the weed at home!
Woggle Posted September 17, 2011 Posted September 17, 2011 I admit I have dabbled in the past. I am not talking about crack or meth but I have taken ecstasy and I once dropped acid. I also tried coke once and never want to do it again but I stopped everything except the occasional weed after seeing what drugs did to my ex. How fun can your life be if you need chemicals to enjoy it.
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